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Tom Died Today

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At approximately 11:25 AM mountain time, my close friend of 17 years, my first high priest, the co-owner of my house, the man who taught me how to give incredible blow jobs, and an overall wonderful person crossed over into the Summerlands after a month in the hospital slowly, painfully, fading away as his body just refused to heal from lung reduction surgery to help fight his emphysema.  He was 70.

I have been in and out of tears all day.  Most of the coven gathered at our home to swap stories and try to remember the good times, and get drunk.  I failed at the last part.  Not even a buzz after two huge scotch & cokes.  And now I am somewhat emotionally numb and lost on top of the deep pain.

Considering I am 28 years younger than him, it was always assumed that I would outlive him, but when he went in for the surgery it was with the high hopes of being able to no longer have to live on oxygen and to have another 10-15 good years of life before the inevitable end.  None of us expected that this would be the end.

There is so much more to say, but right now I am too harmed by losing him from my life that I can't go further, save for a big thank you to

Frynge

,

Kupok

and

Alynna

for being here to help pull me through, as well as

hurtsalot

and

Stumpycoon

for their support from afar. Also, thanks to the members of the coven who were there with us though all of this and especially those who made it for the last goodbye before we had them shut down the machines keeping his empty shell functioning.

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Added:	11 years ago 10 May 2013 06:34 CEST

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foxboyprower

11 years ago

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He sounds like a very interesting companion. You have my deep sympathies. The important thing is that you remember him. *hugs*

Whitehair

11 years ago

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@ foxboyprower

He will never be forgotten... even long after I join him in the Summerlands. He touched many people's lives.

Stumpycoon

11 years ago

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Love you. We'll be here for you.

Pepperbutt

11 years ago

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D'awwwww... I'm so sorry to hear about your loss *hugs tight*

Whitehair

11 years ago

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@ Pepperbutt

Thank you. It is a difficult time for our household and coven right now.

Pepperbutt

11 years ago

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@ Whitehair

Dang... :-(

Kupok

11 years ago

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I was never what I would call close to Tom. But he had been a fixture in my life for awhile. As long as I've lived in this house. Which is longer then I've lived anywhere.

Hell, Tom was more of a constant fixture then my dad. And even if I was never close to Tom, he was a good friend and a joy. The house is.. not the same house it was.

TravisCoon

10 years, 12 months ago

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I'm sorry to hear your friend passed over. He isn't in pain anymore and is where he wanted to be. Hope everyone can keep him in their hearts and know he will be by your side. Hugs

Whitehair

10 years, 12 months ago

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@ TravisCoon

We are planning a physical memorial/shrine to him in the backyard/ritual space. He was one of the founding members of our coven and our specific tradition. He will not be forgotten for as long as our coven or our tradition continue, even long after those of us who actually knew him are gone. Quite a legacy.