I see so many people going fucking INSANE right now. Seriously, it is worse this time than it was when G W Bush got elected.
Hell, just on FA I see tons of journals of people cussing out entire groups of people they once got along with, burning bridges with people they once considered friends, all because of election year politics and butthurt over their "team" losing.
And I keep seeing journals and articles, especially on the left side of things, that are telling people not to EVER talk politics or religion or such with friends... As if they had some handy dandy guide to life.
That makes me wonder, how many people do they consider supposed "friends" that they have to tiptoe and censor themselves around?
That doesn't sound like a real friend to me.
Real... As in REAL "actual friends" are usually friends BECAUSE you CAN talk politics and religion and hot button issues with them. They are likely friends in the first place because they have many of the same interests or ideals as you... That is usually how friendship works.
Any time you have to fear or censor yourself and not be yourself around supposed friends is NOT GOOD. It means you are being fake, you are putting on a certain persona that is not actually YOU and eventually it will be found out. I especially see this with the people that honestly think they can "make friends with everyone", at some point they burn out or people catch on to them.
Now the one place you DO NOT talk about politics or religion and such is WORK... You are there to do a job and get paid for it, not to hang around a water cooler and chat about the hot button issues... Even if there are people you agree with, just excuse yourself and make it known you are there to be professional, and not to make BFFs with everyone.
Again, the best friends are the ones you CAN talk about hot button issues with, and it is okay for friends to have disagreements, it is actually HEALTHY, as long as you don't go all extremist nutty. This is where "agreeing to disagree" comes in, there is no need to get hostile or throw away a friendship over something silly. And if you do want to throw away a friendship over a single disagreement, well, that says a lot about you, and it's not very good.
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