IRL venting, do not read

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My mother has been slowly drifting into dementia for the past few years, I wouldn't want anyone to live this same thing because of me.
For a few monthes now, she sometime doesn't remember I'm her son, and gets into arguments about things I didn't do but she thinks I did.

This is an ordeal, and I had to stop my job, cause I just can't work in these conditions. Living off savings now, until familly gets her into a elderly home... very very sad.
She lives a sad life too, with delusions of being mistreated and such.

Generally people hope that they want to live a long time. But I hope I don't, unless I keep all of my lucidity.

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Added:	2 years, 4 months ago 20 Aug 2022 16:24 CEST

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ThaPig

2 years, 4 months ago

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I'm sorry to hear that. I know how it feels since I'm also living with a person in a similar condition. She asks the same question several times, forgets things, and gets confused. It's very hard to deal with it, especially when it's someone close to you.
She may need to be in a place where she has constant assistance from professionals. I wish you the best and hope things work out well.

Issarlk

2 years, 4 months ago

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@ ThaPig

I hope things will go not too badly with your mother too. Thanks.

ThaPig

2 years, 4 months ago

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@ Issarlk

It's my wife's mother actually. Still, thanks!

CrystalMendrilia

2 years, 4 months ago

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Sadly, I can relate. *Hugs*   it's hard to see. I found reminding myself that the accusations, and even the arguments are only temporary. They will be forgotten, by one party involved.

Love your Mother, do what you can. In the end, you'll have the knowledge you did what you could. The one thing my Mother said that was hard for me to deal with honestly was the idea I told her to starve herself to death so she would die faster and she did, it was hard to do it. She said to me once while venting about it.   Of course, I never told her to do that. o_o  I wracked my brain trying to find out when I said anything like it, maybe she misinterpreted.

The paranoia and everything kicked in towards the end too. *sighs*

Do what you can, you'll know you've done right by her. *Hugs*

Issarlk

2 years, 4 months ago

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@ CrystalMendrilia

Yes, it hurts a lot. I actually grew cold for monthes, not caring about what she said to me and just taking care of her to my best, it was actually more comfortable. The feels have reapeared suddenly couple days ago, I do prefer it that way, because I had lost love for my mother and pretty much anything, not a good state to be in.
Thanks for your comment.

CrystalMendrilia

2 years, 4 months ago

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@ Issarlk

*Hugs* I'm rooting for you.

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