Sometimes I have difficulty differentiating between fantasy and reality. Okay, some things are pretty obvious, like it's not okay to rape or molest children, but one that's giving me a bit of a moral dilemma is spanking.
It's no secret that I have an interest in smacking, but I'm scared to voice my stance on it because of how judgemental people can be, especially health professionals who have to be against it out of policy and seem to love to assume you're a sexual menace if you like anything other than vanilla, missionary sex. But even where sexuality is not concerned, where is the line drawn? I do enjoy domestic spanking art, but I'm one of those people who think that spanking actual children is justified sometimes, which has been hinted more than once is a barbaric view.
At the same time, there's a limit - for example, a jurisdiction in Texas recently reintroduced the paddle at school, not just for 'disobedience', but also low grades. That last point I am vehemently against, not just because I feel spanking should be a deterrent against doing something rather than not doing something, but it conceals any potential reason behind low grades. The child may be facing domestic abuse or negligence, have medical issues that prevent frequent studying, or might have a learning difficulty such as dyslexia, and paddling them for that, along with the humiliation that goes with it, will cause untold damage and not help the situation at all... and yet it was approved.
I'm not sure where I was going with this, but I'm still trying to find my peace with smacking. One thing I do know though that the fad in the 90s and 00s of isolation, time-out and a kind of cold disinterest and emotional detachment is even more harmful, because during moments of emotional turmoil, the poor child is left to handle the intense feelings alone without any kind of affection, at least until they apologise for, you know, actually being human and having emotions.
I suppose I should ask... where is the line drawn? What should not cross over the line between fantasy and reality, and what does and doesn't violate one's moral code?
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