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Dear Parents, or Future Parents

Yeah yeah, what do I know, im not one, right? Well at least hear it out before you shoot what i have to say down the drain without a second thought:

Don't stand in the way of your childs' love, ok? Seriously, unless your child is in love with a fucking axe murderer, or the like, don't. Learn from Romeo and Juliet, standing in front of it only kills them in the end, even if not literally. You're hurting them more than they would get hurt if they tried out the relationship and failed.

Just like every kid needs to touch something sharp or painful to learn to not do it again or next time make sure they are careful, and learn from their mistakes. Same goes for love: LET THEM LOVE dammit! If it fails, they learn, done. You may think you know love because you're starting or have a family with your husband/wife, but it doesn't mean you know about how your child can love someone else.

Seriously... stop trying to keep your kids from love. Same goes for same sex couple, accept it, ok? Your child deserves to love whom they want! Why does it matter what gender or even what race they are? Just, fuck, love is love, and because some stupid book (sorry religious people) says it's against what a god says, doesn't mean shit! I seriously think that if that book told you humping animals was ok, you people would. Learn to think for yourselves...

Anyway, yeah, just needed to get this out there and vent. Fucking hate how parents ALWAYS claim they know best. Let your kid learn what's best once in a while on their own!

~Dorky

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Bluewag

12 years, 3 months ago

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I am so enraged for you. I'm sick to my stomach about it :/

DorkyWolf

12 years, 3 months ago

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@ Bluewag

*hugs tight* Don't be hun <3 It's ok, just a delay of the inevitable, right?

externowolf

12 years, 3 months ago

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well the thing im not a parent [thank god] but sometimes its not meant to be its all up to god who knows she [or he] might end up causing a lot of harm but you should not get all flusterd about them; i know your upset i have been through something just like in your situation; and please dont get at me for saying this but just move on; and yes i do agree that kids should deserve to who ever they want. love is a strong thing

so please dont get made at me or anyone i know it hurts i have had lots of relationships shot down too. but beleave me i know it hurts but trust me just relax and be patient someone will always love you and sometimes it is for the better

p.s i know you will find someone that will love you till the day you die

-ex

Shokuji

12 years, 3 months ago

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[hugs tightly] Hope things work out. =/ Took my parents a year to accept I was bisexual and in love with a guy. Hopefully it doesn't take that long for yours.

DorkyWolf

12 years, 3 months ago

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@ Shokuji

She swears she "accepts" me, but when it comes to me talking about how Washington passed the Same-sex marriage law, she said i shouldn't worry about things like that. Or how it doesnt matter if im with a guy or girl, but when it comes to my bf saying he loves me, she immediately says rather discouraging remarks. So, she "accepts" me, but doesn't actually care for it at all. She doesn't even want to get to know my boyfriend. If it was a girlfriend (like i had in the past) she's be all over me!

Ugh, parents are hypocrites!

Shokuji

12 years, 3 months ago

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@ DorkyWolf

Sounds like they're still going through the stages of denial. They'll have to work their way through it. I'd suggest to sorta ignore that part of them because until they're done on their own terms they'll continue to be irrational about this subject. When I said it took my parents a year, I meant it took them a year to stop being angry and crying about it. Probably more like 2-3 years to fully get over it and see that I'm happy.

The interesting thing about all of this, my relationship with my husband (we've been together for nearly 10 years so I believe we've 'leveled up' from "boyfriends" =p) has outlasted all the relationships both my sisters have been in. Quite seriously one was physically & mentally abused for 5 years in secret (she had battered wife syndrome and didn't tell anyone about the abuse for that long). The other is a horrible bitch (sorry, but she is) and can't keep anyone interested in her because once she lets her real-self out, people run away screaming (not literally, but she's gone through about 4 boyfriends so far).

DorkyWolf

12 years, 3 months ago

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@ Shokuji

Oh wow. Well, at least they realize you are happy! I mean, THAT is what should count! Not who it is we love!
That's what I wish she would see. I'm happy, and I'm trying to make the stride for a long term, commited relationship, but all she see's is me leaving, to someone she doesnt know (her fault, not mine) and she thinks he is corrupting me... like... ugh. *deep breath* i'll get through it with him =) <3

"	Shokuji wrote:
	(we've been together for nearly 10 years so I believe we've 'leveled up' from "boyfriends" =p)

Lol, yeah, i'd concider that a marriage of sorts :3 Congrats on that! <3 *hugs tight*

Shokuji

12 years, 3 months ago

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@ DorkyWolf

Oddly both of my parents, for a while there, also thought my boyfriend was bad news. Said they saw some 'red flags' and such. Though they'd never talk to him directly about it. [shrugs] Like the other things this passed with time. Now we can sorta jam it in their faces "Yeah, been together TEN YEARS now." =p

My advice, as corny as it will sound: Live for today! There's very little anyone can do to change what's going to happen, there's nothing anyone can do to change the past. Stop worrying about it. Now only happens once! Enjoy every moment as you'll never get another chance at now.

Or, even better, this famous quote: "The clock is running. Make the most of today. Time waits for no man. Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That's why it is called the present." (info)

DorkyWolf

12 years, 3 months ago

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@ Shokuji

That is one of my favorite quotes, and when i saw a version of it used in Kung Fu Panda, I was so happy!! They really are great words to live by!

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