I have come to realize that finding love is like trying to win at casino games. The more you try, the more you fail. I decided to stop doing it, a pointless quest. The reality is that I am not a social person and don't have any if at all chances to try.
The truth is also that not everyone will ever find a chance to find their special someone. Some people are just, meant to be alone. Due to both their choice and circumstances.
And because nobody knows, all they could tell me is that they know I'll find that someone despite the truth being that they also don't know. It is said more out of kindness because if someone is facing the unknown, wish them well. It is done out of mercy.
I guess I've decided to give up and make peace. If being true to myself leads me to a lonely life, that is the consequences of my choices.
This is vent I guess, but I don't like drawing sadness. So I draw a nice and beautiful art instead. I have the power to create, so make something beautiful.
It always sucks, I’m not unattractive and I have tried and tried again yet all I have ever received in exchange was betrayal. I have never been anything but kind and polite yet have never even been on a date, even dating websites I will never even get a match, and when I do it is unmatched before a response is even sent. Where I live I am loved by the people I always help and am asked for by name, given gifts by locals for all I do for them yet can’t even get the time of day at the same time.
It always sucks, I’m not unattractive and I have tried and tried again yet all I have ever received
Not everyone is meant to find love, aaaand that's fine, I think! ~
I know it may be demotivating/frustrating, especially when you see couples everywhere. But I think, if you can be in peace with yourself just as you are, then everything is fine. That's the most important thing!
And always remember that you're an amazing artist and there's plenty of people who whishes you the best!
also cute bunnies! <3
Not everyone is meant to find love, aaaand that's fine, I think! ~ I know it may be demotivating/fr
Your frustrations are legitimate. The least helpful thing for you to hear is “don’t give up hope.” Trying to force yourself to find love is anything but hopeful. It’s exhausting and disappointing and it puts just so much pressure on you to perform that it becomes a burden instead of the hope for a better future.
I can’t possibly know what all is involved in your life. I don’t know your circumstances. Even then, you deserve the chance to be heard. To be understood. To be allowed to be frustrated because your issue is real, and many face it feeling like they’re alone and no one takes them seriously. And that loneliness is like a disease crawling through your veins, chewing away at your soul.
Someone might ignorantly say “but you’re not alone” because you have friends or family. But even if you do, that doesn’t temper the loneliness. In fact, that statement makes the loneliness fester because it’s like no one understands. Sometimes, all the people closest to you don’t understand—don’t even know how to.
You deserve better than some empty promise.
I’m still speaking to a person who I know nothing about, but I’m going to take a possibly unhelpful stab at giving advice. A response of “fuck off, you don’t know me” would be acceptable and also true.
So here it is. If you’re going to give up hope on love, then give back to yourself. All that energy and time you’ve spent searching for someone to fill to void, spend it on yourself. Spend it on what you like. On what you want to do. It’s not the same, and it’s not like you can 1 for 1 transfer all those feelings and desires into something else. But you absolutely deserve to get something back for the I-don’t-know how long you’ve been fighting for something so out of reach. So take something that is. Enjoy life in whatever way you can. Do it for yourself.
You might find love later, but you deserve happiness now.
Thank you for your incredible art. I’m a stranger on the internet, but it brightens my day to see your work. And some of your pieces are among my all time favorites. Not that this compliment fixes a damn thing, but at least know that I appreciate what you make.
Your frustrations are legitimate. The least helpful thing for you to hear is “don’t give up hope.” T
Stranger you may be, but these words are everything I wanted to hear besides knowing that there is someone. It is that, it does get tiring to hear the false "stay hopeful". Though they word it the way that does say to just, "be yourself", it would seem the real advice is to forget about looking and just do the routine usual thing. Forget about thinking it.
Thank you. Though I am saddened by this loneliness, I use my skills to make arts of good times like this one, and the usual that I do. Sometimes I do wonder if me never getting this happiness is what lends me my skills to draw them. Embrace the role of an entertainer.
Stranger you may be, but these words are everything I wanted to hear besides knowing that there is s
I was in the same place as you for a while and I know how it feels, I hope you do find someone but it can definitely feel completely hopeless sometimes, it pretty much is just luck and I wish you the best of it!
I was in the same place as you for a while and I know how it feels, I hope you do find someone but i
Good love is genuinely very hard to come by. Becoming happy with yourself and happy with your friends is really really important, and to me more important than having somebody to love. In a way having really really good friends fills alot of the gaps of not having love. Although not the same, having friends that you can talk about basically anything with is great.
I have never personally been in a proper relationship, but I dont feel like I NEED to be in one. I have really good friends that I love and if I dont have them then I always have myself, and I am happy with me.
As long as I am happy with me, I can wait as long as it takes before I am ready to start a relationship with someone I REALLY like. And the more friends I make, the more people I have to ask out one day :D
I dont really know if this is something that can apply to everyone, I could just be wired REALLLY weirdly.
Good love is genuinely very hard to come by. Becoming happy with yourself and happy with your friend
Hi! Like what others said, I think it's important to take care of your own happiness first and foremost. I remember you saying in another journal that you're quite young too (at least relative to me) and you have a lot of life ahead of you. You have lots to learn, experience, lots of joys and lots of pain. Lots of opportunities for the unexpected to happens. Who knows what tomorrow holds?
What I'm saying is, don't be ready to just cast judgment on life so soon, don't feel like the only choice is to call it quits. There's no magical answer, but whatever happens, I'm cheering for you!
Hi! Like what others said, I think it's important to take care of your own happiness first and forem
