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That feeling when a friend leaves...

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by Danaume

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I spend a lot of time, in real life, apologizing to my friends. I'm not the best person, and honestly, kind of a bitch more often than not. I try to be a good friend though, to always make amends as soon as I can. In real life, it's easier. Sure, you're face to face with the person, and can see their disappointment in you, but at least you get the chance. I don't know how to deal with it when an online friend gets mad at me, blocks me, and then just vanishes.

I'm off to a fucking great start on my New Years resolution to not offend any of my friends... Didn't even make it a month.

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Published: 8 years, 11 months ago

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tnick123

8 years, 11 months ago

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I understand this pain alot... I walk on eggshells around all my friends online and in Real Life. I only have a few friends RL and Value them soooo much. Online I say Sorry like every other sentence cause I dont want to lose a friend. *Hugs tightly* I understand the pain of something like this... its.. not good

sedkitty

8 years, 11 months ago

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I think we've all been there. Being blocked with no explanation, or having your messages just plain ignored, does leave that empty feeling in you. Friends -- true friends -- do fight sometimes, but reconciliate. Just leaving and vanishing is on their heads, not yours.

*hug*

Also: go Leafs.

JeremyMikales

8 years, 11 months ago

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You're a better person than you give yourself credit for, Dana. *Hugs*

Hetzakoatl

8 years, 11 months ago

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Well if you weren't a Leaf's fan... XD

*hugs* Teasing!

XZeddX

8 years, 11 months ago

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I fight my friends all the time but yeah I hear ya hun

AlexanderValentine

8 years, 11 months ago

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Aw. Well, if it's any consolation, I'm pretty sure a few of us wouldn't mind making a new friend this year.

Chin up and positive thoughts, okay?

Mogura

8 years, 11 months ago

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when people block you for just some bitching, keep in midn they werent realy friends at all. true friendship makes it trouh some flaws they just wantet somethign and didnt thaught it worth the bitching... keep it in mind

NikkiWolf315

8 years, 11 months ago

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*offers hugs*

I just want to agree with Mogura, friends make it through flaws, and fights, if someone gets mad and blocks you, they're not a real friend.

Stumpycoon

8 years, 11 months ago

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+hugs and holds+

sharn

8 years, 11 months ago

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*hugs up tight* =( loosing friends sucks, even virtual ones.

DogWhistle

8 years, 11 months ago

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Ofcourse I'm saying this without knowing anything about this particular situation but for me I think some people need to know that it's okey to be offended. I mean, I find boybands offensive. I know it sucks but dwelling on it won't do you any good. I'm sure things will turn soon one way or the other.

*A great big hug.

- Tobi.

JackDesert

8 years, 11 months ago

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-gives the skunkie a hug-

MaximilianUltimata

8 years, 11 months ago

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I've considered adding you on Skype in the past since we like a few of the same things. You'll find that I'm rather easy to deal with.

Danaume

8 years, 11 months ago

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@ MaximilianUltimata

Heh, I almost never use skype.

Blackraven2

8 years, 11 months ago

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I know the feeling. Worse, there's been a few cases where I really deserved it, cause I have been a pretty selfish bastard. (And I'm talking real life here, not online)

It puts you down - and sometimes rightfully so, cause it gives one time to reflect on ones own actions - and that they have consequences. Other people have feelings too, and a friend - if he or she is a real friend - wouldn't leave like that if there feelings weren't hurt just as well. Wouldn't completely block contact if they weren't hurt so much that they wouldn't even want an apology, would not want anything to do with you for the time being...

An apology needs to be accepted. It involves two things - one person to say "I'm sorry" - the other to say "it's OK, I forgive you".
Sometimes we aren't ready yet to say that we are sorry. Sometimes we aren't ready yet to forgive. Sometimes its seemingly small things that hurt someone more that it would have hurt others for reasons we don't understand. Sometimes people are just unreasonable...

But time heals many wounds. Even if the friendship is past, usually any bitterness goes away too over a few months - sometimes years. You might not be able to get back to "just as before" but be on good terms.

Whats done is done - and more often than not, the past can not be undone. But it can always be learnt from. It can help one become a better person - it can help one become better at understanding the feelings of others. Sometimes it also helps us to understand that it was really the other person who was unreasonable and overreacted. Its not always your fault. But there's still almost always something that you could have done better - or different - to help both.

Shards and debris are rarely happy happenstance, but a great deal can be learnt from them.

yang

8 years, 11 months ago

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Losing friends is just a pain in the arse, either if they're internet friends or real-life friends. I know it because I've been in that boat plenty of times. What you have to think about is that none of these fights you had is your fault, so no need to apologise, and whenever a friend goes, you get a lot more in your way, looking forward to establish a strong friendship that will last forever no matter what.

You got a friend in me and I really hope you feel better soon!

Take care and have a huge loads of hugs from me. ^_^