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Sometimes I feel like no one is there

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Ever get that feeling that some people only talk to you to get something from you? Or just to pass their boredom? I know I'm guilty of this but lately I been feeling like some of the folks I used to chat with no longer want to talk with me. There are a lot of folks who do talk or listen to me bitch and moan. To those I say thank you. And to those who vanished I say " aw why ya hatin' dawg?"

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nanokoex

11 years, 2 months ago

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I know your pain. Really i do. but really you cant really tell, you cant read there minds.

joykill

11 years, 2 months ago

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@ nanokoex

But I can Read minds..... For I am joykill the mind bender!!!!ooooohhhweeeeeeeeooooh

nanokoex

11 years, 2 months ago

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@ joykill

XD

xpanther

11 years, 2 months ago

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ive been getting that feeling a lot lately... i dont really blame them though. being lost and alone is one bitch of a bump to get over if there isnt anyone to talk to, even if you are literally talking at them not with them.

Bianca

11 years, 2 months ago

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Y'all have to realise that you're responsible for your own friendships. If someone isn't responding in kind, then move on and focus on someone else. They'll either come around on their own or they get left behind. If you're not an active or engaging person, then someone else isn't going to be in kind. If all you do is bitch and moan, they'll only bitch and moan-- and not everyone has problems to complain about.

I'm not saying you're in the wrong, nor are you in the right. It's a huge grey area you have to learn to navigate on your own. If you have several hundred contacts, they're just names. How do you know you're not just a name either? You have to present yourself as best as textually or vocally as possible if you're like I am and use Skype extensively. Thus, if you and someone else are well presented, engaging and not just names, it's not a problem. The ones that aren't, aren't either, they're just names until they're a person.

If you're like I am, I use skype extensively-- It's a well maintained list of contacts that are periodically cleaned out to cut the fat, you should do the same. If they're only names, they won't care and thus you shouldn't either. If they do and they're hurt, you can discuss it at that time on a case by case basis. Whatever that outcome, things will be clearer and you'll have better defined who someone is in regards to you.

Fey

11 years, 2 months ago

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@ Bianca

.. and additionally to what you said: Think twice before adding someone to your contact list.

Yes, contact list, not friends list. The term "friend" is being perverted by the net and it's communities to a simply gross level. Friends here friends there .. 100 people on your Skype are not all 'friends' - as in what I would personally define as friend. It's just contacts, random people from the net of which most you will never even get to meet personally in your whole life.

Reconsider the term 'friend' for yourself, Joy, and regularly clean up your contact lists.

And again something about myself and how I treat contacts: I don't care.
Really, do people actually think everyone on their contact or watch list would read every of their posted journals on any page? You know what I do with journals? I scroll over them and purge the whole page once a day. Why? Because I simply don't have the time and energy to care for random people's shit.
That time and energy, I keep reserved for those I really consider to be friends. And most of them live less than an hour away.

Bianca

11 years, 2 months ago

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@ Fey

Yes! Thank you for picking up what I missed out on. <3

rocketpup

11 years, 2 months ago

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D: I miss you, and I wanna hang again soon! Maybe after I finish moving sometime this month :D

TellyLittle

11 years, 2 months ago

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*hugs*

BreakingCloud

11 years, 2 months ago

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to be honest... if this has any relation to the journal at all, when I see someone has a problem and they're uploading it online seeking for comfort, I usually do read the journals... but... I always feel that I don't have anything in particular to say at all ^^;;... this journal being included

but another thing is because I usually read the comments and see that many others already give out the best possible advice / comfort ever, that I could never amount to, so...

but I guess.. I'm just saying this to let you know that I do, read your journals x3 especially the one you felt lack of confidence in your artwork (which I hope you feel better now of<3 you were one of the artists to especially inspire me to keep on going with what I've started)

TTFox

11 years, 2 months ago

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http://funnyasduck.net/wp-content/uploads/2012/10/funn...

You know that feel as I do.

SquikBat

11 years, 2 months ago

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I'm always on skype if you want to chat.

CrimsonKeaton

11 years, 2 months ago

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I understand exactly how you feel. To be honest, i didnt know how to handle it myself so i guess this could help me as well.
But for what its worth, feel free to talk with me sometimes if you want.

esanhusky

11 years, 2 months ago

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Sometimes I wish there was an "I support you" button on journals for when people vent or just need to say something. I read a lot of journals like that, but don't know what to say afterwards and don't want to just post something stupid, so I move on without saying anything. I'm really not very talkative for a Husky :\

soggymaster

11 years, 2 months ago

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If we weren't on opposite ends of the state, I'd probably find an excuse to come hug me a cheetah.
Not that this is any excuse outside of "I can't justify the expense of an all-day drive".

LabrnMystic

11 years, 2 months ago

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I'd say I only have 5 people who actually chat with me. Something besides "hello" and can carry a conversation. I sign in here and there but am mostly not online due to driving a semi. :/

So I feel you. I can't recall if we've ever talked on messenger, but when I sign in, I don't get any responses or people hitting me up after I've been gone so long, so *shrugs* I've more or less given up on it.

yoppyfox199

11 years, 2 months ago

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yep.

HUG

Shokuji

11 years, 2 months ago

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This has happened to me a few times. People kind of grow cold & distant then just stop talking all together. Not sure what the deal is, I figure it's something going on in their lives because I try to make sure people know they can always talk with me about issues. There's not much you can do, perhaps people just get bored and move on. Not the happiest thought, but it seems like what happens to me from time to time. Luckily it's not too often and the majority of people I've met are good people. =3