Don't know how to chat normally

So as mentioned before i have Asperger/Autism and it's been obvious for me for years that i don't really know how to chat normally.
My first experiences with talking with people online was always dirty talk and sexual RP's so i never got to talk like a normal person about stuff that is not sex related. And because i never have been good at talking/chatting in the first place when i've tried the conversations often tends to end up me being left on read lol.

Maybe one day someone will be patient enough for me to learn to chat like a normal person lol. XD

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galo

1 month ago

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It is a problem for a lot of people and a lot of furries in general.
Can´t count the amount of people that made me feel unconfortable because they didn´t know how to have a normal non sexual conversation xD And I dont have a problem with sexual conversations, but it gets boring when is the only way you have to interact while chatting.

Good luck with that! We can chat someday if you want, just have in mind i´m a really bad "online friend" don´t feel bad if I take a day or two to response xD i´m not good when it comes to checking telegram, discord, whatsaap or even PMs. Specially on weekends.

DjijeyHellfire

1 month ago

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@ galo

Yeah, i don't tend to mind how the chat goes but i do notice people talking less and less with me though that probably is cause i don't really ever initiate anything sexual either, i tend to try and go with the flow lol.

Oh that's alright cause i'm a horrible replier, due to mental issues it can take weeks for me to reply sometimes, it's not that i'm bad at checking but i'm way too easily overwhelmed atm lol.

kat37

1 month ago

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@ DjijeyHellfire

aw similar in some way i'm quite high functioning and I just claim to be european at times so meh the curse of poor social skills is well yeah

DjijeyHellfire

3 days, 8 hrs ago

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@ kat37

My problem is that i'm European and write english well xD

Neos8

1 month ago

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Well like we chatted before. Thats a start if im honest. It helps ya feel better and talk about stuff outside of furry things.

DjijeyHellfire

1 month ago

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@ Neos8

True, it's a start but still not something i'm very good at but something i try at least lol

HaruTotetsu

1 month ago

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10'000% have the same problem!

Smolfoks

1 month ago

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I consider myself a social butterfly by furry standards but I often find it hard to communicate properly with people via text as opposed to an actual conversation. Its harder to convey and read emotions and intent, and I fear I quite regularly drive people away in text conversations where a verbal one would have went better. VRchat has been a great platform to meet furries on because you can immediately tell if you're going to vibe with someone

DjijeyHellfire

1 month ago

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@ Smolfoks

Very true, i have no idea how many times people have apologized for thinking they offended me when i say i never get offended.
Sadly texts don't convey emotions, especially if people expect offense in the first place.