Hey folks! Been a hot minute since y'all heard from me huh? Honestly it's been very eventful over here since I graduated and started on my projects that time had just been skipping and sliding away from me. I'm still here, still lurking, and still loving you all.
But man, I was thinking about some interesting notes about my life, and my coming wedding in February. It's weird.
One of the running themes of my life is my having to deal with things just being incomplete and having to adapt to it. It's definitely something I'm facing now but it's a lot more serious to me.
My wedding is going to be missing 2 key figures. My dad, and Khurious' mother. Both are going to be excluded for their own reasons.
Khurious' mother was given an invite, and she turned it down. Making sure she's there to walk the dogs or tend to the shops she owns are just that much more important than seeing the marriage of her first born daughter. She feels that people should be proud of her for shedding being a trophy wife and is actually doing things - but she's so self absorbed that she couldn't care less about anything that isn't in her immediate bubble. It's sad.
Sad but not surprising on my end.
My dad, on the other hand, is just flat out not invited. I can't. I've been piecing together all the nonsense he's put me through over all these years and I just cannot bring myself to let him have this honor. I've been graceful to him for 19 years after my kicked me out and dumped me on my mom one summer without so much as a hint that I was not welcome back.
But I know he's a pathetic screw up, so I've green him almost 2 decades of kindness after that. But he attempted to bring his wife, the one person that he knows I would rather never make contact with again to my graduation. When I told him she was not to come, he opted to skip my college graduation, even after being the one to hang up on me when I came to him begging for help to get into school.
If I let him in, it's on sight. Not by me, but my mother and Khurious. For his safety and my sanity, that idiot can't come.
But this is where adaptability comes in. That parents that are coming? They've both worked hard and went out of their ways to do what they can to make our lives better, financially or just giving advice. They're going to be there to represent both our mothers and fathers. A union between me and her will just show that they're the golden parents. They may not have been what we needed growing up, but they're who we need now, and I couldn't appreciate that more.
Thanks for listening. I just wanted to show that even when darkness shows up, keep your eyes open and you'll find some light.
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16 Sep 2024 18:28 CEST
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