There is an orientation within asexuality where I find the idea of sex to be interesting, I just don't want to be involved myself. I can fantasize about my Panda girls getting fucked by my fursona, but it's not the human me doing it.
(Maybe that means that Karmandel is not "really" my fursona by some people's definition, but call him my "main OC" and see if it makes any difference).
So, anyway, point of this post: I don't like the pseudo-classical words that people have come up with, like aegosexuality or autochorisexuality, so I've made my own: apophilia. This is proper classical Greek (I think) and patterns with homophilia and heterophilia, even zoophilia, Apo- is a prefix meaning "away from," as in "I love sex that happens away from me" or "have all the sex you want, but not in my bed."
Anyway, this is just me being bothered by the way the old words were formed (like it should be anegosexuality because a- is a Greek prefix that works like that, even when tacked onto a Latin word).
EDIT: I think I should clarify that apophilia as an orientation within the asexual spectrum is not my invention/discovery, it's a recognized thing with its own pride flag. I just want to put my new word out there, and acknowledge that that's how I feel myself. I'm not planning to campaign to change anyone else's usage.
But awareness is low -- even in contexts where asexuality in general is acknowledged, we are just lumped under the general ace flag. Thoughts and fantasies are not visible on the outside and I'm not sure I want to discuss what I do in front of the computer with people in real life.
Huh, that's... actually kinda how I am these days, I guess. Love watching or writing it, but the idea of actually getting involved in the process anymore is... not appealing. Though not sure if that's this, or just a more general voyeurism thing. I do know it stems from a... let's call it a bad experience in my past.
Huh, that's... actually kinda how I am these days, I guess. Love watching or writing it, but the ide
I think people come to a "not for me" stance regarding sex from many different places. For me, though I had lots of fantasies growing up, I never managed to discover when girls were hitting on me. (And I didn't find out how to hit on girls). People actually thought I was gay, even when I couldn't stop looking at their tits.
I think people come to a "not for me" stance regarding sex from many different places. For me, thoug
I used to be pretty oblivious when people were flirting with me, and I'm sure a lot of what I would say innocently came across as flirting from time to time. Now I'm far more aware, and... mostly ignore it intentionally, or very specifically keep people at a bit of an arm's length for anything more than friendship. I mean, I'll do silly flirting stuff with people online, doing hugs or stuff, but it's always just... being friendly for me.
And I've had people think I was gay, too. Few reasons for it. Openly been a furry for 20 years, so there's that whole thing. And I was a massage therapist for a decade, and the stereotype for males in that field is that they're gay. Also had to kind of kill my libedo for that job (y'know, touching naked people all day, kind of an important skill) and I think after my bad incident, it just kind of... stayed off? So there's also that lack of a significant other for a very long time. Plus my hair. I have very long hair, another thing often seen as 'a bit gay' for guys (at least it was for a while). Yay stereotypes.
But I still enjoy porn, both looking at and creating it. So yeah, I dunno. There's more, but I don't want to go dumping more personal stuff here, y'know? heh. Still, glad to know I'm not the only one dealing with this kinda thing at least in part.
I used to be pretty oblivious when people were flirting with me, and I'm sure a lot of what I would
I think it is nice to meet other asexuals a few times a year, where you don't have to think about accidentally coming across as flirting, but people who didn't participate in the whole dating game thing have always existed without putting a name to it. And subdivisions within the A-spectrum are even less visible to other people; this apophilia thing is not even something I stand up and talk about at ace meetings. Though it might be good for some of the younger ones to hear.
I think it is nice to meet other asexuals a few times a year, where you don't have to think about ac
That's fair. Actually putting any of this to words is still somewhat new to me, even if the feelings aren't. And I'm still a romantic. The idea of that kind of close friendship and bond is appealing. It's the more physical intimacy that I keep as... something for others to do. Beyond a more platonic touch, at least. Hugs, holding a hand, leaning against another, a hand on a shoulder, all that is fine, and things I do with the few IRL friends I have.
That's fair. Actually putting any of this to words is still somewhat new to me, even if the feelings
huh thats explains how i am.. i fap to fantasys, its the only thing that actually gets me off.. when it comes to porn and sexual artwork , its more about the artwork that i enjoy.. i can do stuff with people irl but i dont really care to be apart of it. :P but ya your term really fits
huh thats explains how i am.. i fap to fantasys, its the only thing that actually gets me off.. when
It's just a label, not an explanation. But it's so nice to find out that there are other people out there that feel the same way. I just added a link to a wiki with a better description.
It's just a label, not an explanation. But it's so nice to find out that there are other people out
:3 oo thank you, it is nice to know the term for how my weird ass sexuality is also good to know its not just me who have this odd contradiction of asexuality
:3 oo thank you, it is nice to know the term for how my weird ass sexuality is also good to know it
Got to know of that Autochorisexual thing through Dacky/Wickedsisters (some Finnish artist that used to be on here) which pretty much was spot on for me. Just awkward relationship with sex in general irl, making it a lot less appealing - But still quite "horny" for fiction and fantasy (usually just art, used to RP before).
Though I haven't really used the term since, just vaguely remember it at times :p haven't really been needing to explain it, and I don't personally use labels on myself. But it's nice to have a term for it on hand ^^
Got to know of that Autochorisexual thing through Dacky/Wickedsisters (some Finnish artist that used
Did you check the link in the main journal? It's recognized as a "microlabel" on the asexual spectrum. The difference, I think, is a "traditional" voyeur fantasizes about having sex with the object themself, but aposexuals don't.
Anyway, "just"? Can't it be both?
Did you check the link in the main journal? It's recognized as a "microlabel" on the asexual spectru
Let me suggest that you go and make a presentation at the next meeting of the local LGTB+ organization and tell them you know more about sexual orientations than they do. When you get them to remove the label from their lists, please tell me so I can stop using it.
Let me suggest that you go and make a presentation at the next meeting of the local LGTB+ organizati
