Uk and being trans

Okay, so very recently my egg finally cracked. Thanks to one of my very close transfem friends I can now happily and confidently call my self trans fem.
I for the first time in my life know who I am and who I want to be but now comes the annoying part. I live in the uk.
While the UK is in no way a country that totally stands against me as a trans women, I am in no way going to be locked up or killed by my government for being trans (at the moment anyway). What they do is the exact opposite in that they frankly just don't give a fuck about us.
I have been placed in a waiting list that has been deemed to be totally legal and ethical that will see me waiting up to 5 years just to get a diagnosis for a condition that I already know i suffer with and have done all my life. (That being gender dysphoria for the unknowing)
That is literally the start of the formal transitioning process. Then with at least 3 follow up appointments with a time line of approx 18 months before they will even consider hrt.
That's almost 7 fucking years. I'll be almost 40 by that time.
On top of that if I want any gender affirming surgery done, aka bottom surgery of any kind I will need a letter from 2 different mental health professionals to confim that I'm of sound mind to agree to it. Wtf is that shit. You can literally walk into a tattoo parlor and get a full body tattoo that will be on your body all your fucking life with no issues but if I want to get surgery that validates my existence as a women I need to prove twice that I'm not insane.
Fuck off UK. Your not even being abusive or transphobic at this point you literally just do not give a fuck about us in any way do you.

So yeah the long wait begins and all I can do is hope that they don't bring in some ludicrous anti trans law in the mean time.

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WeirdPurpleBunny

1 year, 9 months ago

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This. Definitely this :(

Some countries choose violence, the UK sticks to its old-fashioned methods and uses endless queueing!
Right now, trans people are seen as an easy target to demonise by governments who constantly need to demonise someone to draw public anger away from their own actions. So there's a huge worldwide brainwashing campaign against them.

Stay strong there!
*offers encouraging bunnyhug*

Amberlopear

1 year, 9 months ago

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@ WeirdPurpleBunny

*happily excepts encouraging bunny hugs*
You're a sweet heart thank you.
It's really frustrating cus on the one hand I currently feel happier than I have ever been. For the first time in 32 years I know who I am, I understand the self hatred that has plagued me for most of my life and I'm excited to move into a fresh chapter in my life no longer seeing a man that I hate with every fibre of my being but a young women who is ready to get on with her life.
Then on the other I'm terrified, scared to death of other peoples reactions and more so scared that in these coming years that my government will implement some insane law the invalidates my existence even more, just like they are doing in the US.

I'm scared for every trans person especially ones like me who have just come out that we will be forced to continue living in the bodies that we absolutely despise.
I'm lucky, I have a loving partner and family that support me as horrible as it would be I at least know that I could be me in my own home without fear of judgement even if I couldn't to the rest of the world but there as so many that can't, especially younger people.
I fear that that the already high number of trans people ending their own lives would skyrocket and that's so upsetting to me.

All I can do is hope and wait right now. Try and focus on the positive feelings and making myself as passable as I can until the day finally comes I guess.
I also have a small glimmer of hope, while many people look at gen z with distain, I see them as a shining light, many of my close friends are of that generation and the love and support that they give is unlike any other. The knowledge that it is those lovely people that will one day be making the laws and the rules gives me a tiny glimmer of hope.

Sorry for the rant lol just needed to get it off my chest and thank you so much if you decide to read through it all.

WeirdPurpleBunny

1 year, 9 months ago

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@ Amberlopear

No worries, feel free to message me if you ever need to vent. Happy to listen (or read at least).

I hoped back in 2014 independence in Scotland would have given us a chance to become a safe haven, but they chickened out. Never been less proud of my country than I am now! :\

Still, people keep assuring me that the current tyrannical regime will eventually go the way of all ancient crumbled empires, so we just gotta weather the storm.
Sounds more optimistic than I feel, but, it's all we got left I suppose.

Hugs remain available here as needed anyways :)