SO YOU WANNA TALK TO A FANDOM FAMOUS PERSON?
SITUATION: A fan of something you like has created or is currently creating a fanwork that is wildly popular HUZZAH!
DILEMMA: Except, now they're swarmed with attention and popularity (that they probably did not ask for or expect) and you don't know how to climb up the (Eche)ladder to get noticed by them as a devoted follower, thankful fan, or simply a good person trying to befriend them.
SOLUTION: Well, that's the hard part, Everyone's different. Not all approaches will by the same.
But here are some key things we all should remember:
Do not idol-worship or hold this person on a pedestal too high to reach! Yes, this person made something wonderful. No, this person should not be completely off-limits to talk with on a personal or professional level just because of their accomplishments.
Do not overwhelm or drown them in extreme praise, flattery, or signs of admiration. Drowning anyone in a sea of worship is just scary. It can overwhelm the famed fellow in a bad way. If they’re an introvert, or didn’t expect as much attention as they’ve got for their work, this goes double, and you could scare them off! Letting someone know you enjoy their stuff and love their talent is great, but don’t overdo it.
Do not make it a competition between other fans of this fandom famous person. People are not prizes to be won. You do not OWN a friend, no matter their social status. Let them have other friends, and introduce them to new ones if they consent to it!
Make sure you are befriending them for the right reasons! Many people are under the misguided impression that when they make a new friend who has a special talent for something (art in particular), they are entitled to get gifts and request things all the time. Friends are made for emotional gain, not material.
Remember that they have lives outside of fandom, responding to messages, and keeping in touch. Just because they don’t respond to your ask within a day or two doesn’t mean they hate you! (Okay, well, try Fanmail or something first, because Tumblr’s ask system is shit and I can’t promise they’ve just not gotten your message.) And just because they take more than a few minutes to reply to your Skype/AIM/Steam/etc. message doesn’t mean they don’t want to talk to you. They have other stuff to do! You have multiple people to hang with, so do they.
Keeping that above rule of thumb in mind, don’t be overtly timid or shy, to the point where the person in question is made uncomfortable. Don’t assume you’re being annoying or a bother. Most of the time, this person will be able to sense that you’re scared of them and will not want to make you uncomfortable any further, so they’ll back off until you give a signal that you’re reaching out for them again. You’ll think they don’t like you because they’re backing off, and the cycle repeats. It’s vicious! Just be open, polite, and honest, and you’ll be fine.
BUT ABOVE ALL, THIS PERSON IS A HUMAN BEING MADE OF FLESH, BLOOD, ANXIETY AND INSECURITY, JUST LIKE YOU. SO JUST COOL YOUR JETS AND SPEAK UP!