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Let's talk about it, 'cause I need to get this out of my mind. It hunts me a lot these days so I need to write this down!

In many fanfictions I read the term "lovemaking" or "love act" etc. But I'm always asking myself: 'What has sex to do with love?' It is not the same and you can not identify sex with love! Or, can you?
Maybe it's because of the experince I made in my life (I wasn't being raped or molested, mostly it was just bad experience with the wrong man and it confused me a lot because I was only 16.) but I see sex as the ect itself and nothing more.
Why do you say 'I have sex with the one I love to show him/her how much I care.'? And isn't it enough to show the one you love just to say 'I love you. I want to be with you.' Why you have to 'proof' this??? And why then is sex something you can buy on streets from prostitudes?
Sex is in our genes as a primary need like eating, drinking, breathing. I get this - we need it, but I can't and WON'T identify sex as love or love as sex.
'Lovemaking' is just a term but why do you 'make love'? You have sex!
I know sex with the one you love is more satisfying, you can do more because you trust them, but why do we use it to betray and hurt each other?
Sex is a very small grade, a very thin line between love and hatred. So why do people identifiy this with love?



I'm very curious about your reactions, your views and opinions (and maybe advices? :)) on this topic.

Sometimes I wonder if there's something wrong with me while I'm asking those questions, because it could be nothing. But there are times I'm too confused of the way people see some things and how I see it. :/

(This is not about to judge anyone. Just different point of views...)

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When something's bothering me, I feel safe and secure when I crawl into myself. Raph represents my feelings right now and this time I used his eye-color as the skin and the skin-color for his eyes.

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Art by me!

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Published: 2 years, 2 months ago
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TinyWhiteOwl
2 years, 2 months ago
First of all... this has to be one of my all time favorites when it comes to your art.
That is saying a lot though since I LOVE everything you create :)
Second of all... about your thoughts about sex and love making.
I truly do understand what you mean and I will elaborate my thoughts in a PM to you for the sake of the people I will mention :)
I do not want them to all of a sudden (for some reason) notice that I´ve mentioned them... to tell my story I have to mention them though :)
xx
Sherenelle
2 years, 1 month ago
Thank you so much! This makes me really happy! >///u///<

Alright, I already saw it and I'll reply to your PM later! :) <3
TinyWhiteOwl
2 years, 1 month ago
You reply when you can :) No hurry :) <3
xx
Illy
2 years, 2 months ago
It's just a matter of emotions when you do the act, rather than in the words themselves: you can 'have sex' if you are involved emotionally with someone but you are doing it in an exotic or a bit rough way, but you can 'get off' or 'fuck' if you are doing it with no deep feelings but just the wish to reproduce, to enjoy with no emotional shit or because you cannot hold doing it alone anymore.
You can love someone without having a sexual intercourse with that special person but you can have sex with someone you don't love. The two things can be separated, but you can tell one from the other just asking to yourself: 'Do I care about the other so much I could put their needs, their happiness over my own? Could I put my wishes on a side if that person asked me to?' If the answer is yes then the act is love making, but it's just a romantic way to put it. Some can get hurt if you talk dirty and say 'fuck', others love the dirty talk and would be scared to death by the word 'love'. Matter of sensitivity I guess.
Not sure if this answers to your question, here it's 1.00 am and my brain is falling asleep so it's not my most clever moment. XD
Sherenelle
2 years, 1 month ago
:D I liked every answer I've read! It's really interesting to read how different people are through their answers, that was the real excitement on this to be honest!
Thank you! ^^
frogstune
2 years, 2 months ago
I think the term comes from the fact that you come to love people that you get to know and share things in common with, or fulfill a half a part of life that you feel you are missing.  When it comes to sex in a relationship, you are exposing a side of yourself that is often kept secret, or a part of yourself that you don't share with just anyone.  It is like the ultimate getting to "know" someone, on a level that is personal for both of you.  It can be awkward at first, akin to moving to a new school and having to meet new people and find your place among them.  When you love someone, you want nothing more than to see them happy, in any regard.  Sex is just a deeper and more intimate level of learning and understanding what kinds of things make your partner happy.
Sherenelle
2 years, 1 month ago
It's right, sex is just one of the things. But after all I don't need sex to show my partner how much I love him.
Thank you for your comment! :)
IzzySciFi
2 years, 2 months ago
I have pondered this myself and honestly I still have no clue partly cause I'm a virgin but shush and I really think it comes down to a lot of factors, mostly from your upbringing and social background.
For example, if you live somewhere that teaches 'sex bad' and 'only sex after marriage' well, nowadays they just do what they want but the point is there is a lot of guilt. If you live somewhere that sees it as something not taboo and everyone does it with everyone then there isn't much of a stigma against it. Then you make up your own mind. Is it safe? Are people getting STD's because they don't practice safe sex?
A lot of the time it really up to the person to decide. I, for example, would not go to a random stranger for sex, but I'd go to my significant other or a very close friend (I'm not a trusting person when it comes to being vulnerable like that, that's another thing, if you feel vulnerable feeling naked and doing something intimate with someone) but someone else would happily get a one night stand with anyone.

At the end of the day, it comes down to your own views about sex and love and how you intertwine the two. I mean let's face it, it was only in like the 19th century that people started marrying for love, before then people got married to people they might have hated and had to have kids with them. It's a confusing mess. My only real piece of advice is to make sure you really want to do it with someone, that you're safe and use a condom

I know this probably isn't very helpful but I hope it maybe shed a glimmer of light...  
Sherenelle
2 years, 1 month ago
So there are more people out there who thought about this! Great! :D

This is a good point of view.
Glad that we're not back in the 19th century! XD

A very good attitude: safer sex! <3

Don't underestimate your comment, dear! I liked every comment I've read and every one is a bit helpfull! After all my view's still standing: Love ist not sex and sex is not love!
Thank you for participating! ^^ <3
IzzySciFi
2 years, 1 month ago
your welcome  :)

There's just one general rule of thumb that is CONSENT IS KEY

it's the big one that everyone should agree with. everything else kinda depends on the individual. Don't let people define what sex is for you, or your sexuality for that matter... or if you want to be in a gangbang with the ninja turtles (I don't blame them)

:P   hope you have a great day  <3
Sherenelle
2 years, 1 month ago
You're absolutely right! ^^

Exactly, everyone has to make their own experience with that.
(Wouldn't blame them either! XD)

After work it's always a good day! :D
Silvuri
2 years, 2 months ago
Love-making is usually gentle, thoughtful and sometimes funny sex with the one you love. It's small gentle things like kisses down your tummy, letting your hands explore in wonder and awe of the other person and most importantly; doing it with the intent of showing them that all of these little physical gestures are other ways of saying "I love you".
It's a much more intimate way of showing how much you love someone. And I'm gonna get personal here with mine.

I've never had sex, I'll be 19 next month. And the reasons why I never had sex yet are things like I was picked on for many years and I was more concerned about dealing with that at the time, I have low self-esteem and I wanted my first time to be with someone I love and I wanted it to be emotional, hence love-making. I'm gonna cry my first time because it WILL be emotional. I'll be baring it all and lying naked in front of this person I love dearly, shy and wanting to cover up because I'm covered in stretch marks and I'm a big girl. And my partner will do small, loving things like gentle kisses to the parts of my body that I don't like, telling me how much they actually love them in return.

It's entirely emotional and a physical way of showing how much you love everything about your partner by seeing them in the most vulnerable state and not doing anything except being gentle and kind. I highly suggest reading this article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/what-would-aristot...
Sherenelle
2 years, 1 month ago
You can show with this how you care for your partner, but it's not all.

What I can give you as an advice: take your time with your first time! You don't need to rush, I can tell you! It doesn't matter if you have your first time with 15 or with 20 (just as example!), that really doesn't matter!
If you want to have your first time with the person you love, that is good, but make sure your partner won't use you just for this and urges you to do it!
The thought of covered up will make very fast their disappearence! ^^ I have stretch marks too and I often complain about this but my fiancé loves every inch of my body and tells me that all the time! <3

But anyway: to have sex is not all in a relationship but in a way no one can give you these absolute fulfilling feel when it comes to it. ;)
(And thanks for the link to the article! ^^)
hummerhouse
2 years, 1 month ago
Maybe this is simplistic, but sex is a biological act.  It can and does occur with or without love, because it's possible to perform sexual acts under either circumstance.

When you aren't in love with someone and have sex with them, it's usually due to specific reasons. You are attracted due to physiological changes that occur in your body brought about by certain aspects of the other person that please you.  You've had too much to drink and have false feelings of attraction.  You feel obligated for any number of reasons. That's just sex and you may or may not enjoy it, but it doesn't have any real meaning.

Love develops over time. It's a bonding process. When you're with someone you love there is a deep attachment that brings you warmth and comfort even during the most trying of times.  That is the type of unity that transcends a single individual and makes two people a couple.  When a couple perform the physical act of sex they are sharing more than just carnal gratification.  It's called 'lovemaking' because everything about the act feels richer on a spiritual level when you are in love.

All of that being said, sex is not something that anyone should engage in just because.  It affects you even when you think it's meaningless.  People under the age of 20 shouldn't do it at all. (I'll probably get bitched at for that.) When you're young you have no clue what you want and you make poor choices. Choices that you can regret as you get older and they can taint your outlook. Modern media makes sex look like fun and games with no consequences and it's none of those things. It's a deeply personal act and should be performed with someone you care about and who you KNOW cares about you.
Sherenelle
2 years, 1 month ago
I think media and society are manipulating very much because they want that all thinks like one.
And I agree with you! If you're under 20 you're too young to understand the consequences of your actions (if something happens.).

(Why do you have this endowment to write something that I would love to reply but I'm always at a loss for words... WHY?! X'D)

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! <3 I enjoyed getting through all those comments and to read what you and the fandom think about it. :)
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