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FrancisJCat

6 years, 8 months ago

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Does it matter?

SpoonFox

6 years, 8 months ago

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@ FrancisJCat

In some places it does. Southeast US, some furs would be chastised for coming out, similar to coming out being gay. I wish we were in a world where it doesn't matter though... Let people be people, as long as no one's bein hurt unconsensually, y'know?

*sits on!*

FrancisJCat

6 years, 8 months ago

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@ SpoonFox

No, but does it matter? Does your family need to know that information? Is it relevant to their daily lives or yours?

Telling your family you're a furry is like telling them that you jack off every now and then. Think about it.

SpoonFox

6 years, 8 months ago

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@ FrancisJCat

Oh I get what you meant XD I told my family because I wanted them to understand why I wanted animal things :V haha so to me it's like saying "Yeah, I love star trek and want vulcan ears" in my head

ThatOneWaffle

6 years, 8 months ago

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@ SpoonFox

Being from the southeastern U.S. I can verify this as 100% true. I've never told anyone in my family, and I waited quite a bit of time to tell even the few of my friends that do know, cause I had to make sure that they were just as weird as I am first. Lol.

Nech

6 years, 8 months ago

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@ FrancisJCat

the point, i think is that he wants stories for inspiration
so no it doesn't matter he just wants something to spark a starting point that's more realistic

SpoonFox

6 years, 8 months ago

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@ Nech

Doh, I forgot I was replying to TSOL, haha

FrancisJCat

6 years, 8 months ago

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@ Nech

Derp, I should have seen that X3

TSOL

6 years, 8 months ago

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@ FrancisJCat

Nech is completly right c:
iv started doing tube videos, and talking about certain stuff, these stories will be used as advice for people who are maybe not so confident or sure in themselfs.

I mean there ARE horror stories of parents disowning there kids.
but there ARE also amazing stories of accepting and understanding familys.
I want to bring both forth, present them proper, so the people who watch can decide for themselfs wether thier family are fit for this knowledge or not. c:

but also " as you pointed out arkaid" is it even thier bussnies knowing? etc etc
^^

Mattspew

6 years, 8 months ago

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@ TSOL

It would be hilariously surreal to learn of someone who was disowned for being a furry. I mean, it doesn't really seem like that big of a deal. But then again, neither does being gay...

Jack

6 years, 8 months ago

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I can probably shoot something your way a little later. :D

TSOL

6 years, 8 months ago

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@ Jack

sweet!

SpoonFox

6 years, 8 months ago

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My family knows, but my dad doesn't understand it, so he makes fun of it. My brother is part of the 'cringe' side of the internet, and thinks furries are cringe :V (He's only 13 :| Bleh), mom's overly supportive, but due to dad's non-understanding, I got no fur stuff other than some animal themed things here and there in real life.

As for location, Eastern US, it went awkwardly when dad found out, and it was kinda like coming out being gay (at the time, this was 12 years ago)

Lyreal

6 years, 8 months ago

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I dont know it but because Im the only one I dont think its important to tell it them. :)

Ruaidhri

6 years, 8 months ago

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No, but my mum may, 4 years ago, she went into my room looking for something and found my...rather lewd drawings of my old sona, Sora, she never said anything about it but if I ever brought it up, I feel like she'd probably ask. The only people in RL that know I'm a fur are my former high school friends.

I don't mind people knowing I'm a fur in RL, but... I don't think I'd enjoy telling my parents that I am because I feel like they'd be the type that would instantly assume I'm an animal rapist or some shit. =w=;

DarkBlueAnt

6 years, 8 months ago

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Yeah.. my parents are cool about it. I told them years ago... they knew I was a artist and that I loved anime. I told them since anime is a cartoon and I fallowed so many of them I dropped the the line like "Oh yeah so Imma furry too!" They asked what it is and what it's about and I explained in some depth or detail about it. They are totally fine with it. My brother on the other hand only heard about the kink side and negative sides of furry.... He thinks I'm weird and that I shouldn't go around mentioning it. He is a bit thick headed and wont listen to reason. But what ever, he can be a butt and think how he want's to think.

I am in Southern California, what up fam? anywho, yeah no real problems besides being single and lonely, 35 and still in my parents house. I need to move out of Los Angles County. If anyone want's to know more about me.. I'm a open book, ask away~

phydoux

6 years, 8 months ago

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I grew up in Conservative Alberta where homosexuality was never accepted (until recently). My older Sister knows i am a furr, but we both agree that if i still bothered to talk to my abusive parents they would have done worse than beat me and have me emancipated by the time i was 15.
i told her (my sister) only 2 years ago. and sadly since then we have talked less and less.

Neiler

6 years, 8 months ago

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I am living in germany, and I just don't feel like telling them. But at the same time it's something i don't hide. If they find out.... well then let's see how it turns out.

Acenith

6 years, 8 months ago

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Live in WA of the USA... My family has known from about when I decided I was one, more or less once I learned furries we're a thing and felt that is were I belong. My dad even bought me my first trail. It was a fox tail, he stated he felt my mom was pretty close to a furry, just a fairy instead. (Keep in mind by this time my mom had passed away) stating if I was born with a tail and the doctor wanted to remove it she'd likely had said no. I've never been ashamed of being a furry and rather open about it to every one because if they hate furs... Then they have no business with me. It's fine if it makes them uncomfortable. Just long as they don't dislike what I am.

Beartp

6 years, 8 months ago

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Not all of them and some of them are unlikely to ever know

MystBunny

6 years, 8 months ago

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My mom is pretty amazing. I don't keep much from her. I'm in Texas. She knows I'm bi, a furry, and I haven't told her of the sexual side of the fandom, but I'm pretty sure she suspects it. She loves my fursuit. The only thing is I feel like rolling my eyes when she calls every single convention "fuzzfest"

Mattspew

6 years, 8 months ago

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My closest family knows I'm a furry and has actually taken me to a con before, but although they know that I am an artist, they do not know that I draw furry smut on a regular basis for entertainment and for business. This is because they do not need to know. If they did, they would. If at some point they did find out, it wouldn't really bother me because I enjoy doing it and we're all adults. It also helps that we were raised in the only state in the U.S. where prostitution is legal, so there's porn and sex everywhere. Definitely not as niche as the furry fandom, but still.

That being said, my sister knows that I used to be a furry club host and dancer on Second Life years ago xD That does bother me a bit.

Weiss

6 years, 8 months ago

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what country do you live in: Portugal
have you told your parents/Family your a furry?: I don't think my folks even know WHAT A furry is. But no, i haven't told them nor do i think i will anytime soon
Are they traditional?: Traditional as fuck. Not like ultra religious but traditional, yes
is it a secret? or casual?: The fact that i'm a furry? My friends know about it, most of them don't care, the ones who did care are no longer my friends

Gau

6 years, 8 months ago

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I like in the UK, which for the most part is fine for this stuff, at least more so than others, there are conventions etc etc.

I am a secret furry, my family are a bit here and there. My parents very likely don't even know what a furry is, let alone understand one. My dad is a strong Christian, and while my mum is not so much, seeing how they have iffy opinions on gays, I don't intend to share. My brother probably would not care that much, he may think im weird, he may even already know, but still.

Being a furry is just online for me as of the moment.

foxblade

6 years, 8 months ago

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I live in a small southern town in the US that is part of the Bible belt so there are a lot of old fashioned fire and brimstone type lucky my parents are not they found out when I was 19 when my sister's now ex boyfriend got on my laptop without my permission and he didn't like me so he told my dad right in front of me. He stopped me from hurting him and told him to go we talked and I explained what a furry is. He told me that it was ok and as soon as my sister found out what he tried to do she dumped him

MrTrump

6 years, 8 months ago

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I know this might be late to still answer. My family don't care that i'm a furry. I have porn on my laptop background and they don't care i have porn every where

HeruAnubisSolares

6 years, 8 months ago

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Belgium, Europe's doormatt.
I haven't told my family about being a furry, but it is no secret among friends.
My desk is filled with furry sketches, but my family doesn't know about that one binder...or my browser history :P

Nick2Shy

6 years, 8 months ago

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So, I'm a german kitty and I have never told anyone actually that I'm a furry but I also don't hide it. My mom is an incredibly sweet, caring, intelligent, kind person and she would have nothing against it at all and wouldn't think badly or treat me different, not at all. She really loves me and is proud of who I am and how I lead my life, especially after worrying about my future since I was a lazy ass that never got a job or really tried until I found my mate (who's a furry too). My sis would be similar, probably mocking me a bit (just as fun) and every now and then asking a question out of curiousity. My dad is a bit different. He doesn't tolerate as much but he can accept things with time. Like he doesn't really like gays but after some time he accepted their gay neighbor and even had a beer with him from time to time. And even though I never told him that I'm in a relationship with a boy, he accepted my mate (thinking it's just a roommate) though I'm sure by now he's figured things out since he kinda treats him like family now. The rest of the family wouldn't really care much and accept me as I am.
To come to a point, I never told people I'm a furry but I didn't care wearing shirts with furry characters on it, drawing (and showing them) anthro characters, having a colar or all in all furry stuff laying around. Nobody really said something about it (other than complimenting my not so good pictures xD)

EcchiNemi

6 years, 8 months ago

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My mother knows about it and she also saw my characters :P
A few good friends know it but other then that nobody that I know in real life ^^

Lifeofaguardian

6 years, 8 months ago

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I live in belgium. While I've never told my parents, I have told some of my cousins. Generally, the reactions fell between "that's cool, just don't talk about it with me" and "oh hey that's cool mind if I ask you a few questions?", which I genuinely liked. Like, he had no desire to actually be a furry himself, but he was genuinely interested in hearing about how my experiences were. The main reason I've never told my parents is because it never came up and they probably wouldn't really understand what it was anyway, and I don't feel like giving an explanation.

thecooler

6 years, 8 months ago

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I am from Guatemala and yes I had told my parents I am a furry,
they took it very well actually specially since both of them are psychologists
and suppose to be "catholic" but not really my dad belives in the mind and reason,
my mom in energies and sort of like the force, so not a traditional family really
at all we do believe in evolution and I am an atheist, they totally get my why i am a furry,
I wish I lived in Holland or some like it but I still am living in Guatemala,
I had never regret been a furry specially since according to records and evidence
I AM THE FIRST FURRY that ever existed in Guatemala! so thats awesome,
I founded FurGua some years ago a group for furries in Guatemala and so far
we are around 30 or 50 approximately, I am currently in my 30's and I started at the age of 13
and I am still happy to see new young pups show up at our group looking for "their own kind"
we sadly aren't to many to make our own convention which is a dream of mine to do here,
its not a secret but I am careful who and where and how to say that I am a furry if its asked
so its not really a casual thing really, even tho my family is ok with this I know the society
I live in are very ignorant and very traditional, so for a furry here might be hard
to express themselves but we do any ways cause we rather live life than live in fear.

so thats my lil story.
keep it up and keep it kool.

DerpBowlWelf

6 years, 8 months ago

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Hailling from Portugal here, all I told my parents is that I liked drawing talking animals, simillar to cartoons. Later told them I met a group of people with same interest and those people were known as furries. Then said they held conventions like the anime folks, some dress up some don't, some draw and others just like said type of art. Being then quite chill, I said that, simillar to all other groups of people, there are "bad apples" (didn't told them I was those said bad apples tho XD). So they accept that I'm furry, as far as they see it, it's just a hobby or interest like playing soccer, reading and so on so forth.
I can say I have no regrets or that even tried to keep it as a secret, after all, they've known for a while I like drawing furballs and loved talking animals. Just a guess of mine but, maybe if you make parents see furry is a thing like many others they already know it won't seem that weird thing per say. They'll probably shrug it off like "eh ok, just don't get yourself into trouble boy." or something among those lines. Though, I do recognise it can and does get harder when they already have that idea media loves to spread, I was lucky enough my parents were absolutely clueless about the matter.

JerrickRasch

6 years, 8 months ago

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This will sound like an argument, but it's actually my contribution.

I live in the southern United States, and no, I haven't told my family I'm furry.  A lot of my friends, even my non-furry ones, definitely know, but I have never told anyone in my family.  I mean, they may know anyway...if they've ever paid any attention to my browsing history, or looked at my computer at the wrong time.  But I have said nothing.  And that's because I don't feel like it's something I SHOULD tell them about.

For me, being furry is entirely sexual.  I'm not ashamed of it.  Sexuality is natural and expected and it comes in a variety of colors and shapes.  But it's still sexuality to me.  I'm not a furry for a sense of community or because I enjoy cartoons.  I'm a furry because I like the porn.  I write porn.  I make money writing porn.  All of the sites I frequent are pornographic in nature.  In fact, I even silently roll my eyes and doubt people, when they say they're furry but claim it's NOT sexual to them...because it's the only furry world I know.

And again, I'm not ashamed of this.  I don't mind if my family has found out on their own.  Me being furry is no more shameful to me than my love of sucking dick, having sex in risky public places, spanking my partner, making my partner wear a collar, tying him up, or making him call me daddy.

However...

...I would never...

...under any circumstances...

...tell my family about how I tied someone up in a park late at night and made him call me daddy while I spanked him.  Just like I wouldn't want to hear if my dad ever did that to my mom!  So why in the world would I tell them that I paw off to pictures of wolves, foxes, and bunnies having butt sex?

darksoul

6 years, 8 months ago

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ture story
told my family I was a furry

mom said it was a phase and I would grow out of it
2 min later said I would get married in a fur suit

then planed out my Furry Wedding
an Arctic theme
with me as a White Wolf xD

so all in all toke it well and now joke around with me about it

I mean that was my mom and dad, my family does not know I think

AishaLove

6 years, 8 months ago

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Well I consider my true family to be those who love and support me, so I'd say yes, those people do. The others don't matter in the slightest.

gamepopper

6 years, 8 months ago

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UK fur here. I've never directly told my parents or other members of my family, but they know. I try to avoid the fandom lingo (i.e. furry, fursuit, furmeet ect...) although I get the feeling my parents have caught on to one or two of them. They seem pretty okay about it all, they're happy to see I regularly go out and see people, have a good time and they like my fursuit. My sister also knows, and while she's okay with it, she's advised me on occassions to keep it as a hobby/social aspect.

I did get really worried last Christmas though, because the entire family were round for christmas dinner and presents, and then my mum started sharing photos of me in fursuit from a furry convention, which made me panic a little because while my parents have become a lot more open to new things over time, my other relatives are a lot more traditional/old fashioned, and a good chance have never seen the stuff in the photo in their lives. Fortunately my uncles, aunts and grandmother found it slightly amusing in a good way, so that was a relief.

pirohmaniac

6 years, 8 months ago

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Lets see, I'm living in canada. When I was younger the family spotted my not-quite sfw renamon wallpaper and looked down on me, thought it was childish, a phase, gross, shit like that. Over the years though I guess they've realized it's actually been good for me having like minded people to talk to, being shy and socially awkward. Eventually I brought myself to say I wanted to hit up a fur con and they're surprisingly supportive of it, offering to help send me and everything next year. There's even been talk of them buying me a fursuit. I'm not sure if they're serious, or if they're attempting that psychological trick when the parent pretends to be interested in something the offspring is into in order to make them lose interest in it but I don't care. I"m milking this as long as possible ;3

Fr0stbit3

6 years, 8 months ago

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My family hates gays and I would consider furries much lower on the social scale so they will never know

MrInitialMan

6 years, 8 months ago

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What country do you live in?

I live in western Canada.

Have you told your parents/Family your a furry?

Yes, they've known for YEARS.

How did it go?

Quite well, though Dad doesn't quite get it.  Mom asked when I got into Furry, and I told her since I read the Fern Hollow books.  Back when I was single-digits in age.

Are they traditional?

Yes, quite conservative and religious--but they're not so worried about the furry aspect, since Dad's seen people destroy their lives in other ways (such as booze and drugs).  His biggest worry about my involvement in Furry is the amount I spend on conventions.  I understand his concerns.

Did you regret it?

Nope.

Is it a secret?

I'm quite open about it.  Yes, my parents know, in fact Mom helped fund my first trip to Anthrocon back in 2004.

Horsie

6 years, 7 months ago

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I'm not a furry myself, or if it does exist, I'm a "casual furry". I like the fandom, I like the porn.
I'm from Spain. Here the furry ecosystem is totally unknown. If I had to say to someone (my family, for example) that I'm a furry, first I'd have to explain to them what a furry is. My friends are more techy so it's possible they may know what is a furry, but I'm not so sure.
My family does not know, and also don't know I'm bisexual and that I had male boyfriends before.
My actual girlfriend knows all about me, but she is not interested in this stuff.

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