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Tired of feeling lonely

February is often the most depressing month for me, as I'm sure it is for a lot other people as well. It been a pretty harsh winter this year and being cooped up all time has its toll. There is of a course the dreaded reminder that Valentine's day is coming up, a holiday that I've always had spend alone. The icing on cake of course is my birthday comes near the end of February making me year older reminding me how I don't have someone in my life.

Truth is I'm extremely awkward when it comes to women, its always been a struggle for me talk and approach someone that find an attraction too. Part of that reason is my extreme low self convenience. Another problem is art I do and have done make it where I would hide part of my life something I'm not really comfortable with. I'm also pretty bad trying to connect to people online, so my options always feel limited at best.

Its been something I've been struggle with for a long time, so I thank you all letting me talk about it some. Anyone one know of female out there who doesn't mind middle age man is draws cub, watches anime, and plays boardgames?

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eonzeetyphlosion

7 years, 2 months ago

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I know the feeling :(

whitepawrolls

7 years, 2 months ago

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Can sort of relate. Been alone since my rl mate passed away 4 years ago. Now I don't even bother to celebrate holidays. No one to share them with.

cesar23

7 years, 2 months ago

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Its okey man, my life dream is to have my beloved half sadly thanks to my likes well its a little hard to find someone who really get me, also my life story cant help with it an people say its impossible which put me in a depression I been carry since years ago...

NeksusCat

7 years, 2 months ago

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I know your feeling, man..
I've managed to cope with being lonely, so many times I though I finally found someone for myself o be with, just to figure out eighter we do not match, or I'm somehow weird to them, or I've been lied to about things.
Eighter way, I'm still alone, after the last break up, for nearly 6 years..
I'm sure, there's always someone for everyone of us, it's just hard to find such person.
Takes alot of time, patience and will to search for such person.
So, I wish you to not loose your faith and not to fall into any kind of depression. You'll find someone. :3
*hugs tight* Just remember, there's people around, just like you, who's trying to hide their secrets, while looking to be happy.
Talk to them bit by bit.

DaisyTheDingo

7 years, 2 months ago

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I know how you feel Rising Dragon *hugs* its not easy trying to find someone that you can relate to for love got keep trying

AphroditeDraco

7 years, 2 months ago

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I know you've heard this multiple times already, but I know the feeling.  Especially the part about a woman who accepts the stuff you do.  I've been with two women in my life, and both of them tried to turn me into something that I wasn't, all the while expecting me to accept them as they were.  I draw porn, I like porn, I masturbate to porn, I like cub as well as other types of porn, and these things are taboo to a lot of women, so I tend to get treated pretty badly by women, or at least I was treated badly by the two I went with.

For me, the solution was to simply stop looking for a woman to spend my life with, but then again I've always been comfortable living alone in the first place.  I wish I could help you, or give you advice, but I can't.  All I can do is say that I've been there, and that I know the feeling.

And offer virtual hugs.  They're not as good as the real thing, obviously, but they're something.  *hugs*

ern

7 years, 2 months ago

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Valentine's day is not a real holiday there RD so don't feel bad about it^^

Nemmy

7 years, 2 months ago

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I've more or less given up on the whole venture. I'm 34 (35 in April), Autistic, still a virgin, and really picky. I have moments where it really gets to me but that's more due to me living in a very isolated part of the country where there's little to no opportunity for much of anything (I'm working on moving though). Things were really shitty for me when one of my few friends passed away at the age of 35 on December 2016 so that was a rough ride.

I guess this is me trying to say that on one hand, I know the feeling, yet on the other it's something I've given up on and have decided to move on from based on certain factors.

foxblade

7 years, 2 months ago

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Your not alone hell I'm 22 and never even had a girlfriend let alone had a real date and with the way some of the girls in the area are I don't want one but I'm reminded that I'm alone every day by my sister, mom, and my dad. Like you I have very low convenience in my self, I'm bad with my words and I make an ass of my self that and I'm oblivious. But I believe that there is someone out there for everyone

talon2point0

7 years, 2 months ago

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you need to start drawing again before you can be considered guy who "draws cub". :P

If you ever want to chat or play some games man, I'm on skype and discord all the time. we should play some seasons or stoneage more!!

AmaraMcLeod

7 years, 2 months ago

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*huggles super tight* I know the feeling RD you know I am always here for you my friend ^^

DansLittleFurs

7 years, 2 months ago

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I'm in the same boat.

n1ghtmar37

7 years, 2 months ago

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oh yeah i know that feeling well

catman2k

7 years, 2 months ago

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Furry, Anime, Gamer, ... most people don't get us and think we are weird. But if you look at some of the messed up stuff going on in the world today how can they think WE are weird? Their are a lot of us that hate this corporate retail holiday, depression sky rockets this time of year and I hate it too. I have a lot of online and RL friends but very few of them know ALL about me cause I fear rejection for being outside the norm, which I know is BS but I still hide my true self from all. They say everyone has someone out there but how in the hell are you suppose to find them without getting your heart ripped out of your chest and stomped on repeatedly?

.... Sorry rant off ... REALLY HATE THIS TIME OF YEAR TOO!!!

WideWindyWaters

7 years, 2 months ago

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If you're not happy with yourself then it's gonna be pretty hard for someone else to be happy with you, and if you can't be happy without someone in your life then your self-confidence will never improve the right way.

If you think people won't like you because of the things you draw or are interested in then you're locking yourself into expectations based on that small list of elements you feel are important to have in common with someone, but your 'fish' might be in another 'pond'. You need to find some other hobbies or a new change in scenery. Make yourself happy with you before you can expect someone else to be.

Or be like me and be disappointed by so many relationships that they lose all positivity so you're forced to be happy by yourself because nobody could ever meet your standards.

Nemmy

7 years, 2 months ago

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@ WideWindyWaters

"	WaywardWaterGod wrote:
	Or be like me and be disappointed by so many relationships that they lose all positivity so you're forced to be happy by yourself because nobody could ever meet your standards.

This man has the right idea.

kilorat

7 years, 2 months ago

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Just adding to the pile of "I know what you're going through" posts. I haven't found a solution either, having RL friends or a roomate that's actually friend can help I guess. I converted an online friend to a RL one recently.
And for connecting to people online, I've been having luck with that on Discord, and joining random furry groups. Try this one
https://discord.gg/5sb4pPD

HellDoradoLion

7 years, 2 months ago

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can't say i know a LADY thats okay with all that XD but i am!

NekoVeil

7 years, 2 months ago

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@ HellDoradoLion

This guy... xD

Nethus

7 years, 2 months ago

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I know the agony of loneliness all too well. Sadly the only ladies I know who'd at least be tolerant of cub stuffs are already spoken for. All I can do is offer air hugs. If you need someone to talk to, I'm good at listening. Feel free to PM me. In any case, I hope loneliness won't last much longer.

NekoVeil

7 years, 2 months ago

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I have many friends, but 'a friend' isn't what I'm looking for. I want love. Hugs, cuddles, doing the things we love together, supporting each other in everything else, ect. Being a genderfluid pansexual you'd think my chances would increase... but no, still the same amount of potential dates... 0-1 per month. I'm lucky enough to have a girl waiting for me to get my own house to decide if she wants me or not. I understand her situation, but I want her out of it so I hope she says "yes".

My only advice is to just make as many accounts on dating/social websites and just talk to people and also that my ears are always open. I'm on many social sites as well if you're not comfortable chatting here.
Good luck in your quest! *Hug*