You do something you know you're going to regret later. Also Mon was right about everything. Let me explain.
Our family is pretty much split 2 ways now. On the one side there's me (Jay) and my sis (Floppy) and on the other side there's our mom. It's too complex to go into but suffice to say our mother has attention deficit disorder and living with her is a nightmare. My mom watches prime time TV and reads news websites and web magazines and now believes she's some sort of guru on all things. The whole family is overweight though we are all trying to lose weight. My mom is the most overweight, then my sister, then me though there's not much between in and in the last couple of weeks me and sis have put on weight where we'd normally be losing. The whole year mom has dispensed her completely in accurate knowledge of weight loss whilst she's remained the same weight and me and my sis who know more about dieting because we actually did research instead of believing random web magazines have lost 2 stone (around 30 pounds) each. Despite this and the fact we can prove all of this our mother still thinks she's knows better somehow. Our mother has also developed memory problems recently and can't remember as far back as a week though she remembers long term memories from years ago and such. My mom thinks she's really clever and every weeks she's been arranging appointments for me and my sis in the middle of the one day we go out to have a treat. The idea being that our outing will have to be cut short so we can't spend too long at the shops and eat too much. Just for a start that logic is flawed by the fact that most of your calories are put on throughout the week and not just the one day a week when we are allowed to eat snacks. My mom makes large meals that consist of 2-3 people's portions and then on top of that she often adds additional calories to it like adding butter, milk or cheese or serving a meal with additional potato products, bread or sweet vegetables like carrots and sweetcorn rather than healthier things like broccoli or peas and our meat portions are often covered in breadcrumbs or fried. I keep telling her that our calories could be greatly reduced by making healthier meals but she wont listen. we tried reducing the portion size by she wouldn't reduce how much she cooked so we ended up throwing a lot of it in the bins to the point where it was getting ridiculous. she also still bought enough ingredients for the larger portions so when we cooked it we ended up having to throw a bunch of perfectly good ingredients away just because we had nowhere to put the new shopping. when we've bought the shopping ourselves she's sneaked off and bought more shopping when we were away. so needless to say we're eating the larger portions and cutting out calories elsewhere like not having snacks. however my mom still feeds the need to randomly shove bowls of fruit my direction and tells me to eat them all up like some sort of fairy tale witch. Even though we keep telling her that the fruit is just more calories we don't need she throws a fit if we don't eat it right away. i'm sorry but i just can't eat 5 apples a day on top of the 2.5 portions of fatty meal and breakfast pancakes and homemade banana milkshakes and multiple cups of tea and bran loaf and glasses of fresh orange juice and cereal and milk for lunch thank you. So she thinks that it's all the snacks we are getting on the one treat day we have a week that's making us fat. So she is deliberately arranging appointments for us during the time we go out so that we have to cut the time short and can't eat too much. The one problem is that because of her memory issue she doesn't realize that she's already done this scheme once before or even twice or three times etc. She's pulled this same trick every single week on the day we go out for at least the last 4 weeks straight and on and off for weeks before then. Every time it's "it's not my fault. that's just the time of the appointment" despite the fact that she personally arranged every appointment. It's not even that the appointment times could be connected somehow since they are appointments for different things and the day we go out has changed over the past 6 weeks from thursday to wednesday and it's still on the day we go out. Every appointment is right slap in the middle of the time we go out as well around 2 or 3 o'clock. It's even more obvious when she wont let us arrange our own appointments with the doctors or the barber or whoever. There's no reason why we can't do it but she wont let us. Just so that she can arrange it at an awkward time. And that brings me neatly to today's event. My sis has had enough of my mom's shit and the two of them have fallen out recently. Mainly because when my sis was bedridden with depression and crying every day my mom was practically busting down her bedroom door to ask my sis to do the chores. After that i think we both kinda lost what respect we had remaining for our mom. However I'm a lot more chilled and capable of talking to mom in a way that's able to keep at least some semblance of friendship even if it's just tolerance. Basically i'm good at going um and ah and paying some sort of care to what she's saying so that i can get along and live in peace with her. However this morning i totally lost that and i was on the brink of an explosive argument when i got the hell out of the house as quick as i could before we came to blows which i'm telling you it was heading that way. yesterday we had to get up very early to go to an appointment mom did not have the liberty of arranging. mom had forgotten what day of the week it was and told me she was going to have a long lie in tomorrow morning. However unbeknownst to me since i was asleep early, my sis had had a conversation with our mom where my sis mentioned that me and sis were going out tomorrow for our weekly outing. Next thing i know i wake up around 5 or 6 am to the sound of mom being awake. Of course I find this very strange since mom had told me she was going to wake up late this morning. Apparently mom has had practically no sleep since she went to bed late at around 2am. So you can imagine this is very odd behavior. I think nothing of it however and go back to bed. Turns out mom was arranging the doctors appointment at that time. She had to get up early to catch the practice when it opened because she was arranging an appointment on short notice you see. The appointment was about nothing that needed such an urgent arrangement so there's no need for her to do this and she could have just arranged it later in the day for some time next week instead. However that way she would have missed her window of opportunity to block our going out for the week and she couldn't miss that. So I get up in the morning and wake my sis and mom of course can't wait to tell me that she's arranged a doctors appointment and is practically gloating. I try my best not to say anything but I'm really tired for having to get up early for two days running and i can't muster up enough tact in my dazed state. Without thinking i mention that mom's done this every week for 4 weeks running and she turns on the "what me?" approach and starts trying to tell me it's a coincidence completely forgetting that she's pulled the same shit almost every week for months now. So i tell her she's done it and she gets all mad like "how could you accuse your own mother of being so devious?" and starts yelling "i'm not that kind of person" and then starts trying to turn the conversation around so that we have to show her sympathy telling us all about how bad a life she had and so on. Doors were slammed and voices raised but i thought "screw it" we are going out today and if that means we miss the doctor's appointment then that's mom's fault for arranging the appointment when we had a prior arrangement at that time. If the doctors get angry at us we'll tell them that but i'm sure mom will try and make it sound like it's our fault somehow saying we'd rather be going out than going to the doctors or something. the best part about mom's memory problems lately is that it's getting increasingly obvious when she's lying to us because she keeps screwing up. when she makes a lie up she can't hold onto it and has to keep making up new excuses for the same problem because she can't remember the first excuse she made or even that she has already said one. when she starts asshole tactics like arranging things on our outing day she thinks it's a new plan and we'll never figure it out. she doesn't realize she's done it almost every week for 2 months so there's no way it could be put down to coincidence. the more her memory screws it up for her the more we realize how much she's been lying to us over the years. she can be really convincing but the evidence is so stacked against her she's fooling no-one. just the other day we were arguing about how often something happens and she trying to look like the more reasonable one made the suggestion that we write it down on our calendars so there's evidence totally expecting me to say "no, we don't need to do that" so that if the argument was brought up again she could say she was the more reasonable one. However i said "yes, why don't we write it down. then we'll know exactly how often x happens". You should have seen the look of panic in her eyes as she realized that we would now have evidence we could use against her that could not be denied. She was back-peddling like crazy saying "oh. we don't need to bother with that and anyway what's for dinner" and similar things. The biggest problem is that after our argument this morning i know she's gonna find some way to get back at us to reaffirm her position as the alpha or whatever the hell she thinks. I'm dreading what's coming now. As soon as the argument started i knew it was going to come back to bite me. Now it's just a matter of time til she can get her power fix.
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19 Oct 2016 14:59 CEST
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