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CrystalMendrilia

My Mother Died.

My Mother had been battling Cancer of the bone marrow for around 9 years. Honestly, she was a very strong woman. Most of my free time had been spent helping her, and doing things with her. Been, quite a rough time these past few years.

Recently she had decided it was time to stop fighting. I can respect that, and it is actually common amongst cancer patients.

The Ending was a good end. While in Hospice, she was constantly visited by friends, and family. My sister and her husband flew down from Texas, and the ending was very peaceful. She was so at peace with it, that her main concern was always everyone else.

I'm, alright all things considered. Friends and Family are all around me so I'm not alone in this.


-CM
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Added: 8 years, 1 month ago
 
Ryusett
8 years, 1 month ago
*gives tight hug* im sorry for your lose hon
CrystalMendrilia
8 years, 1 month ago
(Hugs)
BasileBunE
8 years, 1 month ago
*gives you a hug* My deepest condolences to you. You all are heroes.
CrystalMendrilia
8 years, 1 month ago
My mom certainly was. She was such a strong woman, her sisters say they don't fear death anymore. xD    *Hugs*   "My Cancer is fucked! It needs me to survive and when I die it's fucked!"   xD
Snowfirechakat
8 years, 1 month ago
i'm so very sorry for your loss my friend
CrystalMendrilia
8 years, 1 month ago
*Hugs*
Snowfirechakat
8 years, 1 month ago
*hugs back* if you ever need to talk i'm always their
CrystalMendrilia
8 years, 1 month ago
Thank you
SassyRassy
8 years, 1 month ago
An end comes to everything eventually, it's good to know she at least passed on in peace. I take it from the tone of your journal that you and your family are treasuring her memory rather than grieving her passing, that's rare these days but fortunate.
CrystalMendrilia
8 years, 1 month ago
We are yeah.  She set a good example her sisters are no longer afraid of dying, so they say. We've all been getting together since, just, sharing the good times and being together.
SassyRassy
8 years, 1 month ago
In all honesty, I believe that's what funerals are meant to be, not as much a time to be grieving that someone has passed (though with close relations I can entirely understand the pain of trying to cope with the fact they're gone), but a time to remember who they were, recall all the good moments they created in life and all the important lessons they passed along.
CrystalMendrilia
8 years, 1 month ago
I agree. For my Mother, ... and this is really cool, my Father paid for it, even though they have been divorced for 15 years...   the service is going to be wonderful.  Up to 50 people, we are going to be chartering a boat, out of my Mothers favorite point in Calfornia, point Magoo. We will have a nice tour of the land, go out into the Ocean to spread her ashes right where she wanted, friends, family, all together sharing the times.....  It will be truly what she wanted.
SassyRassy
8 years, 1 month ago
I'm quite happy to hear you and your family are treasuring her memory like that and honoring her postmortem wish, it doesn't happen nearly enough these days. Good fortune to you and your kin.
kadeathnas
8 years, 1 month ago
*hugs to you* im sorry about that, but you have to be proud of yourself because you help her to have good days, youre a great person and in the sky, she will care of you and will give good things to your life
CrystalMendrilia
8 years, 1 month ago
(Hugs)   We certainly had a lot of good times together.  For example, we were going to Mc. Donalds once, she ordered some coffee. I looked at the person taking the order, "Oh my Mother would like her Coffee like she likes her men."    mom hit my arm. xD   but then a week later, mom ordered her Coffee exactly like that.  
kadeathnas
8 years, 1 month ago
heheheh im happy you have those good memories and take this in the bst way.. i hope you have good things for you life dear friend heheheh
CrystalMendrilia
8 years, 1 month ago
Thank you. *Hugs*
krezz
8 years, 1 month ago
My deepest condolences to you.
CrystalMendrilia
8 years, 1 month ago
*Hugs and squeezes*  Thank you Krezzy.  *Holds*
krezz
8 years, 1 month ago
I didn't know what to say... but I said that from the bottom of my heart :(
CrystalMendrilia
8 years, 1 month ago
Heh, honestly Krezzy. So many people have said things like that to me, but when it came from you I knew it was truly, and deeply meant. My response to it was saying so, but I felt no need to say it because I knew, you knew I would know.     It really does mean a lot to me coming from you Krezzy.  *Holds and hugs*
NikoFoxglove
8 years, 1 month ago
*hug* sorry for your loss, but as long as she died happy that's the best thing
CrystalMendrilia
8 years, 1 month ago
It was a good ending.
RallyFox
8 years, 1 month ago
*bunnyhugs *
CrystalMendrilia
8 years, 1 month ago
*Hugs*
ScottySkunk
8 years, 1 month ago
*hugs lots*
CrystalMendrilia
8 years, 1 month ago
*Hugs Lots*
ShujinTribble
8 years, 1 month ago
(*Closes his eyes...*) I'm sorry to hear. My hopes for Peace.
CrystalMendrilia
8 years, 1 month ago
*Hugs*   Hey Shujin. Yeah it was a very good ending. My sister and her husband flew down, mom held on for them. Got to spend a few hours with them before she was ready. It was very peaceful. She had her sisters, her children, and even a couple of friends came by whom did not know she was dying that day like us, but they were still coming to visit her. It was honestly, a good end.
ShujinTribble
8 years, 1 month ago
(*Nods slowly*) All things considered, then... glad it was as good as it was for all.
CrystalMendrilia
8 years, 1 month ago
Yeah. A woman by the name of Anandi Ma, a religious figure the same as Jesus Christ, except that she actually exists, and is part o fmy sister Religion,   she actually kept calling my mom, to put her at peace. It meant a lot to me<3 even as an Atheist.
KevinSnowpaw
8 years, 1 month ago
I am so sorry for your loss i've lost both my grand parents my grandpa was a father to me :(  so i know how this is...please be well
CrystalMendrilia
8 years, 1 month ago
My Grandma and Grandpa died a while ago. I loved them both dearly. They had a kind of service set up, where we got to go out on a boat, and spread their ashes in the ocean. It was such a nice service, that my Mom had us set it up for her too.
KevinSnowpaw
8 years, 1 month ago
*hugs tightly* it gets better :(
montecarlo87
8 years, 1 month ago
Its good you're not alone and that she wasn't either. I lost my grandpa two months ago and just in the last week two of my great aunts. So I feel for you. I hope you'll be okay.
CrystalMendrilia
8 years, 1 month ago
*Hugs*   I'm sorry for your losses as well.   Are you holding up okay?
montecarlo87
8 years, 1 month ago
Yeah I'm holding up alright. The toughest part is working that acreage my grandpa owned knowing that he's not there anymore. But knowing he'd want me to move on and care for it like he did keeps my strength up enough to get through it. My great aunts would want me to go on as well.  *hugs back tight* Take care of yourself and I am here if you need to talk.
CrystalMendrilia
8 years, 1 month ago
*nods* I am here if you need to talk as well. :)
ElfenSciuridae
8 years, 1 month ago
My deepest ad sincerest condolences to you and your family. I've been through it with my Grandmother, she's had cancer for almost 20 years on and off, and she's outlived 3 of her doctors with the same cancer - Cancer of the Lymphnodes. The last time she got it she got tired of the pain the treatments give her and just wanted to stop living. In the end she had 2 accidents and broke an arm and a hip; at the hospital, she got an infection and that killed her. She lived a respectable long life - 113.

I'm glad you are taking it better than most as I can read. You understand that your mom is in a better place and is in longer in pain. May she smile upon you and your family until it is your turn to meet her again. Until then, remember her in your heart, she will always be there for you.
CrystalMendrilia
8 years, 1 month ago
I'm an Atheist. It isn't that she is "in a better place."  she's had a very good ending. In Hospice she actually never took pain killers, so that too was a good thing. She did not die in pain and agony.   Still though, *Hugs*
ElfenSciuridae
8 years, 1 month ago
*Hugs*
supremekitten
8 years, 1 month ago
Much condolences.
CrystalMendrilia
8 years, 1 month ago
*Hugs*
jasperfox
7 years, 8 months ago
I'm so sorry, I just saw this,
*hugs*
My deepest condolences...
and I'm sorry I didn't see this back when it happened to say something.....

CrystalMendrilia
7 years, 8 months ago
*Hugs* It's okay.  I don't expect people to read my journals. I don't exactly conduct my page like a blog. :p
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