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This is really a follow up to my last journal...

Well, I did it (kind of). I talked to my mom first, and it really changed the way I thought about how to "come out." I told her that I was bisexual, and I told her I was a furry. She didn't really know what a furry was, so she was "fine" with it (just a little confused). She told me that she only had one problem with what I said. The fact that I called myself "bisexual." We talked about it for a while, and we both came to a consensus about how to go about it.

There really is no point in putting a label on myself. Instead of calling myself "bisexual," just think about it like this: When I fall in love with a person, I am going to love that person for who he/she is. I'm not going to love them for what's between their legs. If it's a woman, that's fine. If it's a man, so be it. Putting a label on oneself shows your pride in some situations, yes, but it also exacerbates situations that would go much smoother if one didn't have said label in the first place. Please don't get me wrong.  I have deep respect for people who are very open about who they are yet drudge through the bullshit that others put them through. I just don't think that is the way for me. I'm going to be myself.

I've decided that I will tell people only if the situation calls for me to tell them (as in, if they ask). I just won't lie about who I am anymore. I also think it will be funny to see the surprise on the face of someone who "knows" me when I nonchalantly tell them then go about my business.

Anyway, Thanks for taking the time to read what I have to say. I really appreciate it.
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Added: 7 years, 7 months ago
 
nekkofox
7 years, 6 months ago
Good for you.

I realized my fur-faggotry sometime mid-high school along with my bisexuality. Pretty much as soon as I reached that conclusion about myself, EVERYBODY knew (I told my friends everything). And, in relatively short order, I converted a bunch of my skin-fag friends into the world of furry art, stories, and culture. Even my girlfriend is a furry, and she had no problem with my bisexuality. I even convinced her to explore her own sexuality and now she's bi-curious.

It takes courage to come out and be honest with everyone, especially if you don't know how they will react (unless you are like me, a verbose and extroverted brat who honestly doesn't care what people think as long as I'm having fun), so it's nice to know that it's working out for you.
Kaitos
7 years, 6 months ago
Thank you for the comment.  I really do appreciate it.  BTW what type art did you show your friends to introduce them to the furriness without completely blowing their minds or playing into the "all about sex" stereotype?  
nekkofox
7 years, 6 months ago
*Laughs* Well, actually, I introduced them to some of my own and a few comics like Jay Naylor's Better Days comic for an example. Then I started writing and the corner we sat at eventually because the "sex corner" because I would read my smut for the group. Oh, it was hilarious but they loved it. Soon, everyone was intrigued and wanted to learn more about the sub-culture that is furry.
Kaitos
7 years, 6 months ago
Also, I wish I had realized mine earlier.  I think that would have been much better for me.  Maybe not easier, but better in the long run.  Thanks again! =)
nekkofox
7 years, 6 months ago
No problem. It gets easier in time, especially if you keep something in mind:

You are going to disappoint people. CONSTANTLY. Friends, family, co-workers, your bosses, your spouse.

But, as long as the one being disappointed is not YOU when you're 75, who cares?
Nekosummer
7 years, 6 months ago
i figured out i was bisexual when i was 12 .i had a freind over and we were wrestling and it got hot and we stripped and i told him i would show him mine if he showed me his and that is when i picked up an intrest for guys.but i think that klove can happen to anyone not depending on their race religion creed and gender. and i told my mom that and she kinda freaked at first and i couldnt have freinds over for a while cuz she was wary of what i would do. i acctually introduced my mom to the furry community some time ago because i like to draw and i drew a sex scene and she liked it and told me i should draw porn more often and i told her i wasnt porn its art. and she asked me why they had tails and had fur all over them then i explained to her what a furry was and now she accepts it.
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