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WolfieDanno

Dealing with a broken heart..

How do you deal with it..?

How do you deal with knowing you lost the one person you loved so much and cared so deeply about.. I'm really finding it hard to be happy at present.

I've never felt so upset before, especially when i really wanted the relationship to work..  I know it;s gonna take a while to get back on my feet, but i really just wish i knew what to do. :(
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Added: 5 years, 5 months ago
 
YamatoIouko
5 years, 5 months ago
Just keep going with your life, for one.  Even if you can't be happy right now, you've got to try to get to some semblance of normality first.  It's gonna take a LOT of time for you to get past it, given how long you two were together, but time's a pretty good healer on this.

Honestly?  It's okay for you to be upset.  Take all the time you need to deal with this, because it's better that you do than you bury your feelings so you can make yourself think you're feeling better sooner.  Don't force yourself to be happy too soon, and don't feel like you should be.  Just take it at your pace until you've moved on.
WolfieDanno
5 years, 5 months ago
Thank you very much x
YamatoIouko
5 years, 5 months ago
I've been there, even if we'd only been together a few months.  Break ups are hard as long as you're a caring person, whether you're the one being broken up on or the one breaking up.  You'll be okay eventually, just take care of yourself. :)
AlexanderPony
5 years, 5 months ago
Well I am sorry to here that wolfie I really am and not sure how I
 would deal with it right now I'm single so I'm not sure.But you'll get through it it will take time you hang in there ok you will be in my thoughts wolfie
WolfieDanno
5 years, 5 months ago
Thank you, i really do appreciate it. x
AlexanderPony
5 years, 5 months ago
You're welcome wolfie love ya
KillFrost
5 years, 5 months ago
You have no idea how much I want to be someone who could support you right now.  Which I understand is a little weird from a random stranger.  :)  But I'm not the most emotionally connected person in the world, not to mention I do not deal with loss well myself, and would probably do harm in trying to help.

So I'm going to do two things:

1)I know you're going to hear this a thousand times over.  But....

I want you to know you aren't necessarily supposed to be happy just yet.  Let happiness come when it comes, don't feel bad or sad about being happy when it does come.  And when you're sad, let yourself be sad.  Loss has five stages and they take a while to get through.  But you experience a lot of other emotions in between them.

I think you're doing a great thing in sharing.  Getting it out, letting feelings be expressed.  This is good.  I'm happy to see you doing so. It's a 'great "thing to do" and is a good way to "deal with it."  At least as a first step. :D

2) *hug*
WolfieDanno
5 years, 5 months ago
Thank you x
tarotwolf
5 years, 5 months ago
In his play/film "Chapter Two," Neil Simon shows his female lead (Marsha Mason, in the film) returning to her New York apartment after a quickie Reno-style divorce. Her best friend (Valerie Harper) is trying to give her guidance to get through the days to come. When Mason picks up a paperback saying, "Okay, Dr. Zhivago, let's try it one more time," Harper observed, "Oh, I don't know if that's a good idea, trying to get into such heavy reading so soon. I would read filth."

You've already gotten lots of good advice. My attempt was just for humor.

Now, as always... *hugs*
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