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MaverickSkye

Looks like shit just got real

And the winds of change are definitely NOT blowing my way. Well...more like blowing away from me. But it seems that I gotta really kick myself into high gear. Lemme explain.

NoahBuddi
NoahBuddi
and I have been living off of her father's child support. In truth, he's supposed to be paying 3k for each child. And he has 3. Noah's here in Chicago, the youngest sister is living with their mother, and her middle sister is living with her father, which gets him out of having to pay all of the child support for that one. So that's still 6k he needs to shell out as the court ordered.

Well, as it turns out, after putting Noah's mom through hell in legal fees...that ass has officially changed, altered, and in general, screwed up ALL of our destines at once. He's now made it to where he doesn't have to pay anything to anybody after Noah turns 21 this November. This is now how it affects everybody:

Noah and I have been getting 1600 a month from him (which is a slight bit over half of the 3k child support he was supposed to be paying) and he isn't going to pay that anymore. Sucks because I just got confirmation about me getting both into school AND hopefully getting this job in Radio Shack. I'm finally on my path to success and I'm not letting him screw it up for me. Noah too, since she'll still be in school while having to deal with well, her dad screwing us over like that.

Noah's mother however is getting hit kinda hard. The house that she lives in is, well, since they have had the home when she was married to him, is well, now beyond her means. Worse yet is now that he's pulling payments...they have to move out, and even though it's not terrible Noah's mom finally has to work...it's still changing everything. Her youngest sister was already hurt by the divorce, now she'll be messed up even further by forcing to move because of her douche of a daddy.

And to finally top it off...he's expecting Noah to move back since he has no intention on her surviving here in Chicago. Hah...that's one that he's NOT going to win. We'll find a way no matter what.

Oh tomorrow's gonna be FUN, because right when we land in PA...he's the one picking us up from the airport. I'm gonna have fun watching Noah lay into him. If she doesn't...I totally plan to, and don't care at all what he has to say about it.

This irony comes after his Christmas present to her and her family. A rather heartfelt letter about how he's sorry for being a bad father, son, brother and so on. And how he planned to change and crap. And then continues to throw court cases at her mom, draining her of what little money she has, takes money away from her daughters, taking away from their chances of success. Ugh...

And yeah, I understand that this means we have to strap down and get our own jobs, but this is besides my point, we can make it that way. It's the fact that a real parent should help their son/daughter when they can, and not take away the money for any other reason aside from petty spite. We're so close to getting to our own happy ending.

I'm so tired of bad parenting it's driving me mad and making me sick.

But you had be damn sure we WILL make it. He envisions this screwing us over, including our relationship. And yeah, that's sure as hell not gonna happen either.
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Added: 5 years, 2 months ago
 
gaki
5 years, 2 months ago
o.o hope things will turn out better for you guys soon
cooncub
5 years, 2 months ago
If he isn't paying what court had told him to he can be made to pay back support until caught up with payments. Here they send the dad to jail or revoke his driving lesions. .
MaverickSkye
5 years, 2 months ago
That's the problem. He's already won the court case so he doesn't have to pay squat. Noah was on the phone with the lawyers and the judge, and the judge refused to let her appeal.
Claws61821
5 years, 2 months ago
A deadbeat dad in Pennsylvania winning over their crooked family court system? Wouldn't be the first time I've heard of that. Is this one of Jewish descent, too?
MaverickSkye
5 years, 2 months ago
Nah, no Jewishness. Just dickery and spite is all. The man makes well more than WAY more than enough to support her. Especially when he has all the money to let the middle daughter fuck around with whatever she wants, including an unchaperoned trip to Florida when she was 17.

Gotta love the family court system out there. Here in Chicago, they wouldn't have had that crap.
Claws61821
5 years, 2 months ago
That's because neither the Families nor the Gangs would have put up with it, as much trouble as they themselves cause. Actually, even the most criminal parts of Chicago are pretty upscale about it, however rich or poor - there's a ton of shit they wouldn't stand for, even from their own. Whatever you may hear, they were the ones who actually investigated and chased out the latest scandalous Blagojevich, just as they've done several before him, because he was becoming an embarrassment. Ah, Illinois - the things I miss about living there.

I honestly hope you two have better success in court if you appeal this dick move than my sister did years back (can't even leave Pennsylvania or she loses *all* custody rights - corrupt bastards), or just plain better luck in general from here out. Just one more reason for me to wish I knew who to contact in Pennsylvania to teach some people proper behavior and moral thinking...

Again, best of luck to you.
Blooroo
5 years, 2 months ago

" Claws61821 wrote:
A deadbeat dad in Pennsylvania winning over their crooked family court system? Wouldn't be the first time I've heard of that. Is this one of Jewish descent, too?


Really? Jewish? Really?[
Claws61821
5 years, 2 months ago
The father of my sister's first two was Jewish, living in his grandmother's house in Harrisburg. The guy was abusive, doing shit like attacking my sister and then using my nephew as a human shield when she went to defend herself. It got to the point where she finally listened to people and took it to court; got him looked at and medicated (didn't change shit) and put the kids in my sister's care completely...then Grandma stepped in. Because of her, my sister has to leave all her kids, even the ones that aren't his, with him every weekend or other and she can't step one foot outside the state, even alone, without forfeiting all rights as their mother. You can understand how I might jump to conclusions about anyone of that lineage living in Pennsylvania now, I suspect. I don't have anything against Jews and Jewish-Americans in general, but I'll admit to a predisposition of wariness and dislike toward those in PA because of past experiences.
Blooroo
5 years, 2 months ago
Tragic as that is, there is no excuse for that kind of comment. That kinda thing should be asked in private.
Claws61821
5 years, 2 months ago
While I concede that it would have been more proper to ask such a thing privately rather than publicly, I must contend your other statement on a theoretical basis. There are any number of excuses for such a comment, including many that would pass muster in polite conversation of several sorts; the example above, for instance, was phrased in such a way that knowledge of the context suggests it to be more along the lines of inquiring whether it is only a particular subset of the regional population (of Pennsylvania) who engage in the specified deplorable behavior - though at the same time displaying negative bias through the implication of a personal grievance of the same sort. The question itself was decided upon in a personally characteristic and rather emotional lack of social tact, but the particular phraseology was deliberated to provide as polite a delivery as was feasible without expounding into such verbose elaboration as to suggest a diminished respect for the founder of the conversation and his own woes. While Maverick was apparently able to ascertain this intention, your own comment immediately informed me that I had perhaps not placed enough deliberation into the phraseology to ameliorate the implication of insult and racism, prompting me to provide explanation in a not-unusually futile attempt at placating the situation at hand. It is unfortunate that, however flexibly mutative, English is an invariably blunt language in such events, not unlike in that manner the fictional tlhIngan Hol.

tl;dr

I'm sorry for the impolite and brusque comment, and for how it was received.
Shokuji
5 years, 2 months ago
Ack! >_< I hope things somehow work out for you. =(
Manafox
5 years, 2 months ago
Nya, hoping things will turn out well for you, hun. x.x There will be a happy ending!

...On a side note... 3000$ a kid...? Are you serious? D: Those numbers are roughly nineteen times the child support we get here in Sweden, and our living costs are the next highest in the world! :c
MaverickSkye
5 years, 2 months ago
The numbers are actually proportionate to his pay. That's pretty much exactly the reason why it's that high. The REAL sad part...is that that kind of money is a drop in the bucket for him. Otherwise I'd have SOME sympathy for him.
Kato
5 years, 2 months ago
Its truly despicable how some people can just get away with stuff like this... But it is true that the sum here in sweden is never really changed... Which is SAD cause its pretty damn low and some people need more money so they can survive :p
Manafox
5 years, 1 month ago
Ah, that makes more sense. It's despicable all the same, though. *hugs!*
shadycat
5 years, 2 months ago
As a child of divorced parents who's father never paid a dime of alimony or child support, I have some sympathy, but only some. Three thousand a month?! Christ, I barely make that working.
I dunno. IMHO, once you turn eighteen, your parents don't owe you a thing. Your girlfriend's father never owed you anything at all. You should be thanking him for the free ride.
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