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I fucked up.. Gotta make this right.

Some of you may know
Laporkra
Laporkra
, and a particular incident that had me rather upset. If not, here's the background.

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First, I came across his page, and I really loved his profile image, so I stopped by his page and skimmed through it, eventually finding the pic and faving it, then watching him.

Pretty soon after, I found myself blocked and up popped a journal, where he explained some of the reasons he blocked some people, using language like "beyond creepy" and "repugnant". The flow of events made it seem very clear that those comments were directed at me.

Shocked at what I saw as hatred being flung in my general direction for no apparent reason, and being unable to reply, I posted a journal (don't bother looking, I just deleted it) where I vented about the situation. I even linked to his journal specifically, which I believe is against the rules here. I had missed the part about that being against the rules here, but that doesn't make what I did right.
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So fast forward about 3 months. A seemingly ignorant insult that I thought I put behind me suddenly hit me right in the face when I saw his name pop up again. This morning, I found myself unable to enjoy some of the things I always enjoy. I don't understand why I couldn't just... get over it! As much a slap in the face as it seemed to be, It's not like we were friends before the incident. I'd never even spoke to him, until today.

This was eating away at me for some bizarre reason, and I HAD to at least attempt to seek closure, so I dug my FA account out of the grave and contacted him there. What I expected to get was a "Get over it, loser!" type of response from the type of person I thought he was, but although that wouldn't have made me feel any better, it would have at least reinforced my initial assessment that he wasn't worth my time.

What I got instead, however, was a completely reasonable and highly respectful response. We PMed back and forth for awhile, and I soon found out that those comments that hurt me were directed at someone quite more deserving of them. Eventually he told me the REAL reason why he blocked me, and although I still don't agree with why he did it, his reasons were at the very least 100% understandable.

In the end, he said that he felt better about not only me, but a little better about the IB community as a whole as well. I sought closure and got it, and more. That went so much better than I could have imagined. I may have made a fool of myself with that past journal, but at least it's completely resolved now.
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Added: 5 years, 9 months ago
 
PrysmTKitsune
5 years, 9 months ago
everyone makes an ass or a fool of themself now and then, its how you take it when it happens that shows your character and you seem to be accepting it with grace and dignity...beter then alot can say.
MystBunny
5 years, 9 months ago
That comment made me feel even better, thank you ^_^ *hugs*
King30
5 years, 9 months ago
See how this situation was handled? Why can't everyone handle things like this? Too many people deflect blame and try too hard to make everything everyone else's fault rather than seeing where they went wrong. You both handled this extremely well and I'm glad it was able to be resolved. I'm sorry you had to go through all that upset though. *hugs*

And believe me when I say I make myself look bad all the time. Like that time I walked out in my underwear. OMG I don't believe I did that. Someone stole my pants. It's the only logical explanation. XD
MystBunny
5 years, 9 months ago
O.O *hides your pants behind his back* ahem!

Yeah, in the end, everything turned out very well. Yeah, I was highly upset, but if I wasn't, then I never would have contacted him, and would have continued to believe he was an intolerant dick. So I'm glad I got upset enough to take that first step.
King30
5 years, 9 months ago
*gasp* I knew it! XD

So all in all, it turned out good in the end. :D
At least no one was hurt. ^w^
Tinnitus
5 years, 9 months ago
This is how conflicts SHOULD be resolved. People talk, they compromise, they remain open, and then they walk away all the better for it.
MystBunny
5 years, 9 months ago
Yesh. We both made mistakes, and knowing what I know now, I can hardly hold his against him.
Sarakha
5 years, 9 months ago
Thank the higher powers for people with open minds, open hearts, and a willingness to talk things through.
MystBunny
5 years, 9 months ago
Refreshingly common on inkbunny
Catwheezle
5 years, 9 months ago
Yay - I'm glad that talking fixed things! :D

I should do this more, myself.
MystBunny
5 years, 9 months ago
Did more than fix
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