It's very important.
If you're interested in improving the way your life operates with work, school, home, family, friendships, significant others and so on, definitely look into this psychology concept.
Very very basically, locus of control refers to how you feel you can control the events you experience. Think of it as "I make my life happen" (internal locus of control, "I failed the test because I didn't study enough") versus "Life happens to me" (external locus of control, "The teacher failed me on that test because they don't like me"). Obviously, there are going to be lots of events you can't control (ie. jackass in the car behind rear-ended me), but there are also LOTS that you can control (ie. the aforementioned test) AND the ways that you respond to them.
If you find yourself getting really angry, examine what it is that makes you mad. Find out why. Then really look at it and see if it's that big of a deal to get THAT mad over. Think about things that make you annoyed and why it is you stop at annoyed instead of progressing all the way to anger. Whatever strategy it is that keeps you from going off the deep end, start trying to apply that to things that make you mad. Remind yourself of these strategies often and apply them as much as possible.
Or if you find yourself getting really sad, or anxious, or guilty, or WHATEVER.
Basically, try to take control of as much of your life as you can. It's YOUR life; start living it!
5 years, 9 months ago
22 Feb 2013 17:59 CET