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AishaLove

My mom is on her death bed (Has passed on)

Well couch, but she is not good and she may not even live through the night. It's so amazing that Hospice care was set up for her before she got this bad. My Sister's Amber and Jasmine are there with her every moment now. They have been helping her with her care up until now, administering meds and such. Now they are with her watching every breath.

It came on so fast, but my dad took me to see her today. She was on the couch, unable to move, or speak, her breathing was labored. They Told me she could hear us though.

It was us 3 kids and her dear friend Tara, we talked and chatted. Jasmine is holding up well, but she is strong and needs to be there, Amber is a nervous wreck and is making things a bit harder for Jasmine to keep to my mom's wishes, but it's just how she is processing it.

I'm holding up ok, I cried a bit and talked to her a bit. Amber had me take some incense to burn for her and a picture of Sai Baba a guru she was very interested in the teachings of. I light some incense for her and set up the picture, she would want Sai Baba looking over me right now, though my beliefs don't hold him in any special light.

I'm not very upset right now, I feel I should be in some ways, but I know that pain and grief will not help. I will miss her, I love her. I only regret I was unable to spend more time with her during this life.

By the time you read this she may already be gone, but that's a good thing, she has suffered enough and it is her time to move on.

[edit: 2/23/2011] Jasmine called me this morning to let me know, she passed this morning peacefully. I'm doing ok, I'm just glad she is not suffering and she did not have to have her final moments drawn out.
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Added: 7 years, 8 months ago
 
drakiskier
7 years, 8 months ago
i wish i could offer more than a hug.   *hugs*
AishaLove
7 years, 8 months ago
thanks, she passed this morning, I updated my journal.
drakiskier
7 years, 8 months ago
*gives another hug*   still wish i could do more.
AishaLove
7 years, 8 months ago
The support helps. I wish I had more money to get a game or 2, maybe something to play with, just keeping busy helps allot for me.
Emopanda420
7 years, 8 months ago
I know how u feel, my uncles dad just passed away this Monday morning. So I'm feeling down myself. So I hope she pulls thru*hugs*
AishaLove
7 years, 8 months ago
you don't pull through when your dying.......

She passed away this morning
Emopanda420
7 years, 8 months ago
I'm srry to hear that Hun. *hugs tight*
AishaLove
7 years, 8 months ago
*hugs* I'm doing ok, just glad she is not suffering.
Emopanda420
7 years, 8 months ago
I'm glad ur doing ok. Yea I hate to see ppl suffer when there in there death bed. It's like u must do anything to help them Hutu just don't know what
AishaLove
7 years, 8 months ago
she is not in pain now, I'm doing my best to keep busy and active. I just worry about how my sister amber is doing, she was a complete mental case when I was there.
Emopanda420
7 years, 8 months ago
Yea, When my  uncles dad died Monday I been watching closely over him since he was very very close to him. So I know what you mean about your sister.
AishaLove
7 years, 8 months ago
she is was literally going crazy, she was treating everyone like they were little kids and did not understand what was going on, trying to give away mom's things before it was time. (like her doves because she thought it would comfort me, but mom said she did not want her things to be touched before she went).

I can only imagine she is even worse now that Mom is gone. I can't really describe what a mess she was when i was there.
Emopanda420
7 years, 8 months ago
That had to suck.yea mom were gonna give ur stuff away before u die ok. Not something u do right on hand
Apis
7 years, 8 months ago
I remember two summers ago my mother was in constant pain with a serious illness, and I was worried sick.  I'm happy to hear that your mother passed without difficulty.  I hope your sister can cope with it and be as strong as you have.
AishaLove
7 years, 8 months ago
Thanks I hope she learns to cope soon, it's not just her that she is making it hard for but Jasmine too.I want her to grieve but I also don't want her to selfishly make it harder for Jasmine either.
KholdMalik
7 years, 8 months ago
Sorry I was late when saw this. I wish I could do somethin' better than hug you by internet *hugs*
I was raised by my great-grandma instead by my mom - When she passed away, it felt like my real mother had died. I hope the girls learn to cope soon... If need to talk anythin', note me
AishaLove
7 years, 8 months ago
I'm doing just fine, I talked to amber and she seems to be much better, talked to me much more like an adult and not a child. They are going through her things and are going to set aside some things both sentimental and practical for me.
KholdMalik
7 years, 8 months ago
This is good, I hope everythin' turns out the best way the possible *hugs*
MLR19
7 years, 8 months ago
i am so sorry to hear about your mom,Here is a big hug,
AishaLove
7 years, 8 months ago
*hugs* I'm holding up ok, just trying to keep occupied.
MLR19
7 years, 8 months ago
im glad tou hear thet,Hugz
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