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Norithics

Job, birthday and bottoming

So, the new job is going well so far. Training is super boring because they're trying to prepare all the newbies for the scary world of being in a call center where people might be mad, oOoOoOo~
Meanwhile I'm biting my tongue not to laugh considering my last job had me giving nothing but bad news to people who were world champion screamers. At least here I can offer them a five dollar gift card here and there- before all I could offer was "nobody cares about you and you'll die alone in a ditch, half a million dollars in debt." I'd take the gift card, if it was me!

My birthday is coming up. November 11th. I'm super broke, so there won't be any spoiling myself, per se, but my mother got a bit of a windfall in a change of fortune for her own troubles, so she's treating herself to a new car, and me to an ipad. I was touched! Not to mention excited- those things are pretty darn awesome, considering what I've seen Chaytel accomplish with one. Heh, anyone in the market for a Kindle Fire?

I was thinking about something recently. When approaching people for sexy RP- or in my case, pictures for either of us to draw on the subject- there is a very different reaction based on not the composition of my character, but the poise. I'm a switch, both iRL and iRP (back when I had time for it), which means that I like both the top and bottom positions equally well. And being a split 50/50 bisexual, that means that I'm willing to be the top or bottom for any given gender as well. The result of that in theory is that I have a large field to choose from, excluding basically only people who don't like boys- something that I really don't like bending on, based on gender issues I had much earlier on in life. It's a confidence thing.

Getting back to the point, something interesting happens depending on which approach I take. If I step in as the top, making a show of confidence and maybe a little bit of silly aggressiveness, there'll be... a reaction. You know, some interest, specific parties, general good review.

But if- and remember, this is the same person/character, now!- I go in as the bottom, the soft, teasing, plush crash cushion that begs a drilling? Waaay more general interest. It's almost a line out the door to get into that pillow plow.

It's mostly funny to me, because I enjoy both. Topping is a liberating opportunity to show my creativity- to really take over the experience and drive home not just a physical, but an emotional and tonal direction that lets me mastermind the fun and let the other person largely go along for the ride. A ride which I always get praise for- girls and boys both have told me they thought I was impressive, which gives me a little feeling of pride. Bottoming, on the other hand, lets me drop the journey, the pretense, the chase onto the shoulders of others. Instead of formulating some way to woo, I just have to stir the pot and be desired. It's an incredibly ego-serving affair, much moreso than topping, to my great surprise.

Of course, there are problems. Topping requires willing participants, which is the hardest part. Boys are neat but a little uncreative, and girls are terribly hard to get your foot in the door. Bottoming has its pitfalls, too; girls tend to make it all about the talky narrative, which doesn't feed my craving for visceral physical actions... and boys tend to be at best awkwardly aggressive and at worst, utterly boring. And I think it's that last part that offends me the most- the rest of it is just people acting like I would expect, but an uncreative, or worse, unenthusiastic top just makes me sit there, wondering with annoyance, "Why am I wasting my time?" I may not be a woman, but I do like some build up and direction!

So, the moral of the story, I suppose, is that despite such a large pool to choose from, I've barely ever come away satisfied from such an engagement, despite hundreds of attempts with similar numbers of people. I don't have time for RP anymore... but I almost can't help but wonder if I subconsciously made myself not have time for it. Food for thought.
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Added: 5 years, 11 months ago
 
Mythterious
5 years, 11 months ago
Do you work for IBM, by any chance? lol
SergeSkunk
5 years, 11 months ago
Hey Nori! Happy Birthday! *hugs*
Norithics
5 years, 11 months ago
*hugs* Thank you! =)
ColeSutra
5 years, 11 months ago
If I don't see you between now and then, have a wonderful birthday!  Monetary spoilage can come later, for now spoil yourself by indulging in the things that you enjoy doing.

I feel terrible about it if I got your hopes up, but my original project for your present has increasing become a flop.. T^T it was a little too ambitious for my current skillset in the medium.. 24ish hours of work down the drain..but it gave me good practice for a less ambitious alternative. Not quite as neat as it would have been, but I hope you'll still like it.

*Hug-squeezes* Have a happy, m'man!
Norithics
5 years, 11 months ago
The fact that you got in practice doing things that flummox even you, was worth it to me. =)

Plus, I can't wait to see what you actually came up with!
Lamia
5 years, 11 months ago
I'm pretty much always top when the need arises, but a few characters of mine I've used in stories are bottom, the latter of which gave me surprise as to how different the experience was in driving the mood and the actions

as a note, the ones that I've roleplayed with, whether sexually or generally, have stated that I'm along the lines of being a natural

still, I don't have too much experience with roleplay all that much, but writing stories about ponies have made my quality a lot better
Norithics
5 years, 11 months ago
Yeah, I find that I preferred playing with people who'd written before; it's a huge advantage over people who... well, don't.
SenGrisane
5 years, 11 months ago
Happy birthday Nori. Hope you have fun. I'll see if I can cook up a gift for ya ^^

In RPs I too enjoy both the top and bottom role. But I rarely get to do the bottoming stuff as most want me to be on top. And I also noticed that being the top is more challenging as you are in charge and if you don't do interesting stuff then the bottom can't do much.
And a few did the "answer a paragraph of text with a single line" <.<

In any case with a good RP partner the chat log can even be turned into a story with little effort. :3
Toshubi
5 years, 11 months ago
Have a happy birthday Nori! And on a side note...
Hey at least you can get folks to RP with you. I seem to have trouble getting folks to even give me a shot.
Norithics
5 years, 11 months ago
That's... actually kind of surprising.
Salacious
5 years, 11 months ago
Happy pre-emptive birthday! AS for the other part, I can't really tell you much on that'n. I'm almost purely dom/top, though I don't mind bottoming now and again. I'm super picky about my partners after getting tired of the 'bad/doesn't care/never learned to write words' type nearly burning me out when I first showed my head into RPing. I still get frustrated by the utter lack of girls since most females on the 'net are played by homophobic straight guys, but in general I always have a lot of fun RPing. I'm sorry your own expereince wasn't similar.
m2pt5
5 years, 11 months ago
Happy birthday! Had I the money or the capability/creativity, I'd do something cool for your birthday, but lacking both all I can offer is birthday wishes. And a song. (Assuming you care, MLPFiM Season 3 starting should be an excellent birthday present from Hasbro.)

Admittedly, I've never much been into RP myself (probably mostly because I'm absolute shit at creative writing/storytelling), and I've never been in a relationship that could be considered top/bottom. (I'm also not particularly into guys - more disinterest than dislike, and I'd describe myself as "mostly straight".) However it is a bit odd that you would get so much more response as a bottom than as a top.
sedkitty
5 years, 11 months ago
Happy bela-- er, incipient birthday!
I'm more of an 'equals' type when it comes to RP.  BDSM is fun, but it's not necessarily what I go for.
Norithics
5 years, 11 months ago
Wha? BDSM?
sedkitty
5 years, 11 months ago
Derp.  I really should have done more than glance through your post!  When I saw top and bottom, I figured you meant -- well, topping and bottoming.  I realize now what you meant was who sexes whom.  Sorry for the confusion.
Radiaction
5 years, 11 months ago
Happy birthday, nori-kun!
Milkie
5 years, 11 months ago
Oh, Happy Birthday apparently!

And, well, I tend to be a willing participant either way now (thank you, Nori, that's your fault). Still, sometimes I can't help but wonder if I'm boring or not! I sure try not to be... Hm~

My biggest weakness tends to be that sometimes I just don't have the time to finish! It's late, or work, or roommates... It's frustrating to have to start something and be unable to see it through to the end. It turns people off me. n_n; On that same token though, most people RP in such a way that they don't steer it towards a conclusion most of the time... which causes the aforementioned problem. xD
specterHSC
5 years, 11 months ago
Happy early birthday. Funny you should mention the switching thing. I tried being a switch when I was with guys but it was always no they want me to be the top. Blah, guess I'm trying to saw I kinda get what you mean. Just cause you doe a bt of everything doesn't mean its any easier.

But I digress. Hope the job training doesn't bore you to death and hat you at least get to do something fun for your birthday. And if you are serious about that kindle fire let me know. I might know some one that wants t or myself depending what you are asking.
Norithics
5 years, 11 months ago
Oh geez, I forgot to reply to this?? I'm so sorry! Lemme send you a note.
specterHSC
5 years, 11 months ago
It's not a problem. We will iron out the details in PM.
Rutilus
5 years, 11 months ago
A jolly birthday to you.
On the subject of RPing. Maybe it is because Im mostly a pure top, I don't have this sort of issue. Then again it might be because I have a set group of people I play with all the time. Playing with someone new usualy results in an akward experience as we're both trying to figure out what exactly the other likes.
Limewah
5 years, 11 months ago
If I forget later, Happy Birthday!

And I understand where you're coming from. Strangely it's the opposite for me - people seem to be more interested in me playing a top/dominant role than a submissive one. I don't mind that too much, in fact, I guess there's something we particularly excel at.

Gobby
5 years, 11 months ago
Happy bday! I'm pretty much in agreement about the bottoming thing. When I did RP openly, I usually ended up taking the top role because I found the experience of being a bottom really hit or miss. It sucks, because there are times when I really crave a cramming~
EricAdler
5 years, 11 months ago
Happy birthday, dear.

I understand your problems when it comes to yiffing, since I tend to play a hermaphrodite online, I also fall into that 'very bi, switch-hitter' category.  Despite being afailable to 'anything with a hole or a pole,' there can be long stretches where I can't get lucky to safe my tailfeathers.
Bestthe
5 years, 11 months ago
Glad to hear your job is going well ^^

November 11th!? That's my Brother's Birthday too!
awesome.
Eviscerator
5 years, 11 months ago
Happy birthday man!  I've been told that people enjoy writing with me, and that I should write porn..I just..

I can't seem to do any writing other than rp.  Something about the stimulation of not knowing almost exactly what's going to happen, I suppose?

And yes, I'll -find- a way to get you something.
JeremyMikales
5 years, 11 months ago
Be warned, the people I know who have done call center work are uniformly all among the most bitter, cynical, misanthropic people I know. I am guessing you're doing inbound, which means your job is to be yelled at by people who have a problem and see you as a convenient punching bag, and many of whom feel entitled (whether they are or not) and think treating you like shit will get them what they want.

But the important thing is to relax and have fun!

Also, happy birthday! I have been meaning to draw some Dr. Gwen, I should get on that.
Retrospecter
5 years, 11 months ago
Congrats and happy preemtive birthday! IPads are awesome, I'm typing this on one now.

As far as RP, I've stopped except for the rare occasion, like sometimes I'll get too frisky and try to coerce people into topping me x3 I've also been trying to find an actual dominant top irl, and it hasn't worked very well. Everyone is too nice!
Nightdrifter
5 years, 11 months ago
November 11th huh? Two days away! I'll have to get crackin' on some kinda gift! Anything you can think of?
Nightdrifter
5 years, 11 months ago
Well, either way. Happy birthday! ^__^
asuraludu
5 years, 11 months ago
Happy soon to be Birthday XD
Nyanki
5 years, 11 months ago
Well, damn.  I wanna draw something for your BD, but probably won't be able to in time.  Consider yourself not forgotten and you'll get it when I can get to it. (busy with a Rossweisse page at the moment)
Norithics
5 years, 11 months ago
Oh my goodness, you of all people don't owe me a thing. I'm flattered you'd even consider it! =D
Nyanki
5 years, 11 months ago
Did anyway
SeleneNightfang
5 years, 11 months ago
As a Switch myself, I end up having the opposite experience more or less. People end up being more interested in my Domming then my bottoming, which kinda gets tiring after while.
LabrnMystic
5 years, 11 months ago
I feel you. Nothing like someone who just dialogues like a terrible porn. Though, I try to play the roles through more than one character. Do you use more than just Nori? Is it more than just sex RP or that is about all they come asking for you too?

I enjoy a bit of silly, but find most who seek me out just go straight for the sex. I dropped out of the RP thing after one too many bad partners, though some still get my attention and get some interaction.
Kuto
5 years, 11 months ago
Tell you what, since your birthdays coming up soon, I'm willing to give you a free drawing.
rick2tails
5 years, 11 months ago
you know if you werent so secretive  I could mail you a birthday card/gift card or swing by with a cake or something. Regardless I hope you have a nice birthday Sunday.The weather will be quite cool so you could go for a long walk even wearing black and most likely not get hot at all.Maybe your man will surprise you with something he squirreled away for your big day even?
Oh also good luck on the job even if it sounds like it hopefully wont be a big challenge thanks to your previous work experience.
Incaros
5 years, 11 months ago
Happy Early Birthday man. Great that you are getting an ipad. I've been wanting one, mostly for the games on there that aren't on PC. Y.Y I know how you feel about the RP, more or less. For me though its mostly finding good Rpers who are interested, and even then, those that I do find tend to not be on often or disappear. Y.Y
Nopast
5 years, 11 months ago
well there is that, yeah, being a bottom will usually wield better results in finding people than by being a top. Partly because they have the same kinda thoughts when it comes to being the top themselves i guess~

can't say that i'm a good bottom (nor that good at topping), i always feel....limited in what i can do when i'm meant to just "sit and enjoy", maybe that's another reason as to why there's less bottoms?

Ah well, happy soon to have b-day
DOtter
5 years, 11 months ago
Many Happy Returns of Sunday, (including Sunday, of course.)

I guess every bottom is different; some want to be seduced, some want to be thrown down and abused... Am I right that a top can't always predict what a bottom wants? (never done BDSM myself)
Oogzie
5 years, 11 months ago
OOOOOHHHH Birthdays sneakin.. been too long, by my own estimation since I did somethin for ye, too.

Nice job stuff is going fairly well, other than boring training, which is just a given.

as for other matters in heeeree.. *shrug* I often feel bored of it. There's a few persons or instances that have some intangible spark to them, but most of the time if someone goes 'RP?' I just kinda groan.. all over the place.
Xial
5 years, 11 months ago
In case I don't get a chance to say it on Sunday, happy birthday, man. :)
Rakaziel
5 years, 11 months ago
Congratulations on your job, and early congratulations on your Birthday ;)

As far as rp goes, I tend to prefer story-driven or tactical rps. CS is fun, but it tends to get repetetive after a while, and I am wary of combining it with stories now as it tends to hog the focus and leave the story itself unfinished.
pyrostinger
5 years, 11 months ago
Happy Birthday.

And honestly, I wonder at your disillusionment with RP is indicative of the lost art of build up.  There doesn't seem to be a desire for very much... which is funny, because foreplay is awesome.
terrymouse
5 years, 11 months ago
Well, a rather early happy birthday to you, then!

I used to be one of the Mindless Drones™ that took calls day-in and day-out, and had to sit through the incessant yelling and screaming that other people would do because X wasn't working right and/or Y was doing it's job too well and... well... I got fired.

Good riddance.

As for your note about RP, I find that it's actually fairly specific on which character I'm playing and what the scenario is.  Certain characters are pretty much bottom only, some are top only, but the majority of the characters I play in sexual situations are actually switches, as well.
ElfenSciuridae
5 years, 11 months ago
Happy BDay Norithics, when it comes.

Hope things continue to look better and be better for you.
JHelfrich
5 years, 11 months ago
Oooh, have a happy birthday and have fun with that iPad.

I was curious about the job thing and how that was going, at least it's sort of a step up from your last one?  I kinda know how it goes though, my job is usually about being the bearer of bad news which sucks from customer service perspective.

Don't really do much RP, kinda had bad experiences there in addition not really finding anyone that's into the sort of thing I like.  I'm also rather uncreative, I'm sure it'd be pretty boring and repetitive.  Might be the lack of experience and variety though, I don't know really.
Danund81
5 years, 11 months ago
Happy Birthday Nori!  Hope the job goes well =3
GulMunthos
5 years, 11 months ago
happy birthday
Shokuji
5 years, 11 months ago
Happy birthday, and best of luck on your new job. =3

That was some interesting insight. I do miss bottoming as I used to be a bisexual switch myself. Health issues got in the way and will probably need surgery to fix. So for now, I top only. It's been fun enough, but I do miss being able to reverse the rolls. I feel somewhat broken, to be blunt. =/ But I do have working mouth, hands and penis, so I can't be too sad for myself. =)

Now if only I had more bottoms to hump. X3
RenAndFriends
5 years, 11 months ago
Happy birthday! Hope it went/is going well! ;)
Nightdrifter
5 years, 11 months ago
Todays the day! Happy Birthday Nori! :D
Spooderdoodler
5 years, 11 months ago
Happy late birthday! Mines this weekend actually. I should get us some flugal horns
TidetheCat69
5 years, 11 months ago
Wow, I hope this doesn't seem rude of me, but your posts are so thought out and smart, it's a joy to read your thoughts on things.
Norithics
5 years, 11 months ago
Oh? I appreciate you saying so. I do like to be well-spoken at least.
TidetheCat69
5 years, 11 months ago
Well, you do so very well.
shacklestheweasel
5 years, 10 months ago
I role play as either a dominant or a submissive, but with a preference for submissive. Forced growth is very interesting to me, especially if ny character secretly likes it but is too ashamed to admit it.

On Furaffinity, I've done several short stories that has a female dominant and the male submissive. The only exception so far involves growing breasts, a wheelchair, milk, hypnotic balls, deceit, and love. Even better, there's a picture someone drew for me.

The situation is often important enough to affect the rp. Vanilla sex between a dominant and a submissive? Eh. A dominant female obsessed with a hyper-balled submissive male, and she plans to milk him, show him off in public, and make him bigger? A bit more interesting.
halofan21
3 years, 3 months ago
Nori, as someone who can actually get off of his ass and work, how the fuck do you do it?  I of course want to make my own money but completely lack the forward drive to do anything about it.
Norithics
3 years, 3 months ago
It's hard to build a good work ethic if you weren't raised with it. But being left on your own is a great motivator.
halofan21
3 years, 3 months ago
aww, I hope you aren't actually alone in life.
Norithics
3 years, 3 months ago
Oh, no. I have
Chaytel
Chaytel
, who's been with me for almost 15 years now. I'm not alone.
halofan21
3 years, 3 months ago
Ah, that's good.
halofan21
3 years, 3 months ago
also, don't mean to pry but annually how much do you make by drawing your pictures?
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