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Important relationship info. (lotsa bitching here)

Over the past several months I've been encountering alot of drama, mostly centered around relationships, some of it with me, and some of it with friends. Most of the time, the drama is a result of a misunderstanding that can be easily addressed, but instead is allowed to do as much damage as possible before the person at the center of it knows anything at all. So, concerning me and relationships, here are a few rules. Please read even if you aren't considering a relationship with me. This message is meant for you more than anyone. I'm sick of getting pushed away for something I have no clue is going on.

Rule #1, Don't assume anything.
Especially with me. Firstly because I don't take hints very well. You have to communicate with me. Secondly, if I decide I want to pursue a relationship with you, I'm going to tell you so before chasing after you. If I say nothing, I'm probably not interested, or I possibly am, but haven't made up my mind whether or not to go for it. If I'm pursuing you, I'll let you know and I won't be subtle. I'm sick of people thinking I'm after them and pushing me away without telling me WHY!

Rule #2, When in doubt, ask.
If rule #1 isn't enough, then at least communicate with me. I will give you an honest and clear answer, and no question is unwelcome.

Rule #3, I don't beat around the bush.
If I want a relationship with you, you're going to know it. I'm not subtle, and I don't simply drop hints. However, I am quite affectionate with my friends, and even complete strangers on some occasions, but if I want more than friendship, I'll tell you, or you can ask me. If you happen to want something with me, don't just drop hints. I don't tend to catch them.

Rule #4, I don't enter into relationships lightly
I may think you're one of the sweetest people in the world, and I'll return that sweetness as much as possible, but I do require quite a bit of exploration and discussion if I'm going to get heavily involved with anyone.

Rule #5, You can't tame me.
If you're looking for someone to enter into a sexually exclusive relationship, or if you get jealous easily, look elsewhere.

Rule #6, Be honest.
If it turns out I am looking for a relationship with you, or you ignore the first rule and assume I am, and you're not looking, do NOT be afraid to tell me so. I'm REALLY sick of people thinking I'm so fragile I can't take a "no". If I ask you if you want a relationship with me, I'm really, truly asking, and not just expecting a yes. This one has caused me more problems than anything else, so don't be afraid to let me know you're not available.

On the whole, if you think there's a problem, talk to me. Don't keep me in the dark about something that's eating away at you, or there's going to eventually be an even bigger problem than you expect. I must stress this final point again, if you think I want a relationship with you, and you don't want a relationship with me, remember that I'm not so fragile I can't take a no.

"I think he's in love with me, but I don't want a relationship, so I'm going to push him away without telling him anything." If you do this, you're being a dick. That's all.
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Added: 6 years, 2 months ago
 
InannaWDraco
6 years, 2 months ago
Unfortunately there are a lot of dicks out there who just expect you to know what they are thinking without them actually taking the time to tell you.  Been there, done that... and in a lot of cases you'll find people will be pissed off that you actually expect them to tell you what they mean.  I wish it weren't that way, but... yeah.
MystBunny
6 years, 2 months ago
Wouldn't have been so bad if I didn't really care deeply for the people doing this kind of thing to me. Perhaps that's where they get the idea I'm after them. If I didn't know them so well, I could just tell them to fuck off and be done with it.
InannaWDraco
6 years, 2 months ago
I know the feeling... two ex-significant others both did that to me, even though I knew something was bothering them and kept asking them to please tell me what it was, they kept their mouths shut until they finally just pushed me away.  I don't get it, and I don't like it.  Just... meh.
KeldricUsugi
6 years, 2 months ago
*Hugs* I'm sorry to hear about your less than pleasant experiences, Omega.
I think more people should be blunt about things that are this serious, instead of rarely ever dropping half hearted hints.
MystBunny
6 years, 2 months ago
Yeah this kind of thing leads into a trap that becomes increasingly harder to get out of.
KeldricUsugi
6 years, 2 months ago
Well, just know that you will always have friends that are here for you, through any and all the bad times.
If you ever need someone to talk to, I will be here to listen, if you so wish it.
MystBunny
6 years, 2 months ago
Thanks foxy. And by the way, you can get my number from Larry and text me any time. I get unlimited.
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