So once again I try talking to someone after a long while and he is still dwelling on a past argument. I have tried explaining things several times over it is not about understanding some word or game, it was about the other points I made out but alas it means nothing to him. It's like I tell him no I didn't get mad about that and he rejects it and says yes it was, like he knows how I would feel. I say when I get mad about something but means nothing to him.
It really is mind blowing when you just can't get through to someone. They are constantly on the defense and it seems no matter how much you explain and be clear, seems only way they will be happy is if you obey to their whim, ya know?
I constantly said yes to what he was saying. I said yes that was his friends opinion, I accept that. But he thinks I have a things against opinion. Even though I agree and accept what he says, just because I add some extra words into it, it is not good enough. How all he wants to hear is "Yes, I agree." and not "Yes, I agree. But that is not what I am talking about, and there is a difference between what I am trying to say and what you are thinking I am saying." And eh yeah... oh well right?
Just some people have trouble understanding things, no matter how you try to explain it. English is his 2nd language so maybe that partly has to do with it but I dunno. I tried my best to explain, asking him what exactly is the problem and try to explain it to him in a way he can understand but doesn't seem to do so. So he thinks I am something I am not, some bad person, all because of how upset he is at me. So once someone is on the deep end I guess there is no coming back, eh?
Maybe he gets offended when I say he is not understanding and not focusing on the right points. Such as he says it's about a video game and I told him it isn't, it's about when he was trying to control what I was saying so... yeah. I dunno.
I notice now that I get all quiet and stop explaining he has cooled off so eh... that in a way is like just making him hear what he wants? He doesn't wanna hear me trying to explain and clear things up, he just wants me to be "yes master" so to speak. So eh honestly.
Anyway I dunno, just making a journal to vent it out a bit. Bit depressing and all. Course we have our pride so I don't wanna lie to myself and just bow down to him just so he starts being nice to me. He was being rather hypocritcal calling me an ass yet he was mocking me and putting words in my mouth, making quotes of things I never said or mean and then he has the nerve to say it's his opinion as an excuse for his behavior. Sure it may be, but to not admit he was out of line in what he was saying just wasn't right to do... eh.
So yeah I dunno... discuss?
So I want to add how he said how come he gets along with everyone else he chats with but not me? What I can only think is that the most he does with others he chats with is RP with others or has that kind of simple chats. You know those docile chats so of course no one really gets a chance to argue. No deep conversation or anything. Of course I could just be assuming, that and his friends probably just ignore and not explain something to him if he doesn't get it the first time, I dunno. But eh things said in the heat of the moment and all.
6 years, 11 months ago
27 May 2012 00:42 CEST