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Norithics

Why did I ever go back there?

I love it on Inkbunny so much better than FA. That entire culture there was just... toxic. I realized recently that old habits from being on FA are still residually occuring. Like for example, it used to be that I'd see somebody comment on a few BE sequences, then watch me, and I'd think, "Great, can't wait until I upload the first gay or underage thing and they flip the fuck out, then I'll have to slap them down and the entire experience will just be a pain in the ass instead of any fun at all." There are so many cagey little assumptions I used to make that I find myself reflexively having even still, but thus far, there's no call for them. I've had nothing but a good time here, aside from your occasional drooling idiot who doesn't know how to read. But that's everywhere.

God, why did I ever want to go back to that dump? In retrospect, I can't even imagine it. I know intellectually it was for the people, but after a certain point, you just have to wonder.

Also, I feel less of a need to be mean in general. I never realized how callous FA made me, how much of a dick I was in response to the same kinds of things I used to patiently endure. It was a defense mechanism, but still, wow.

So if I'm a massive asshole out of nowhere, it's probably because I'm still getting used to the idea that I don't have to be.
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Added: 6 years, 5 months ago
 
SkyeEldrich
6 years, 5 months ago
Yeah, FA has gradually gone downhill over the years.  SoFurry isn't much better.  Right now, the last bastion of tolerance, politeness, and FUN on the net is right smack-dab here.  Hope you keep enjoying IB, I know I love it way more than FA too! ^_^
EroKord
6 years, 5 months ago
I think if the people all just came over here it'd be so much better.
I'm always sad when a person I watch either goes back to FA, or uses FA as their main page and ONLY uses IB for loli or shota.

The problem with "FA is more popular! I get more views there!" is as long as people stay on FA, people have no reason to come here. If more artists straight up just came here. More followers would come here, and eventually it'd be as big as FA without the douchebags. Well, I'm sure some douchebags would come here, but the staff here seems better about fostering a community than a cool kids club where they shit on regular people.
Norithics
6 years, 5 months ago
Yeah, indeed. I was guilty of that, too, but since using this place as my mainstay, I've enjoyed myself a lot more. I think a lot of people, especially those without many followers, over-glamorize popularity. I had SO many watchers on FA, but here I find myself enjoying the distinction between quantity and quality.

The chief complaint is still that there's just so much cub, but honestly, if people would do like I do and try to mitigate that with other content, it wouldn't be a problem.
Lost
6 years, 5 months ago
It's also oversaturated with ponies. It is up to us to diversify these waters.
AlexanderValentine
6 years, 5 months ago
good point.
Forsaken12101
6 years, 5 months ago
I love your and your works :D
Wherever they be psoted x3
Norithics
6 years, 5 months ago
I really appreciate that.
And I still need to draw you something sometime.
LupineAssassin
6 years, 5 months ago
I think you'd like Inkbunny better. Your art is so adorable!! ^^
Forsaken12101
6 years, 5 months ago
We will work somthing out one day <3
NeroTH
6 years, 5 months ago
Yo man, I get ya. I try not to offend anyone when possible.
Flexible
6 years, 5 months ago
-Wanders around drooling, not sure how to read.-

Oh, wait. x3 Yeah, I know what you mean..sorta. There's a lot of bad on FA, but there's also some good, and if you get with the good and stay good yourself, you can have fun without worrying. As an artist, I'm sure it's different. Since I don't draw, people that don't like what I get drawn for me can die in a fire/stop watching me. Whichever they prefer.

I personally don't dislike people for what they do and do not like, only for what they do and do not do.

Random fact: I love your art style. So much. It's so..different from what I normally enjoy, but you make everything so soft and lovely. I have so much want for Gwen. So..much..want.
Norithics
6 years, 5 months ago
Population is the difference, I think. You get enough people and there's just bound to be trouble.

Also, thank you. It's a bit of a thing for me to try and get people to enjoy things that are normally out of their purview.
Flexible
6 years, 5 months ago
My response is usually to ignore rude people. <3 Just habit. Especially vulgar ones. I'm very..indifferent about people on the net usually. Unless I've talked to them a long time.
Milkie
6 years, 5 months ago
It is to laugh.

When I post something, rarely do I get someone that chimes up with their distaste of it. But I do get it now and then, and it's funny because, like you, I don't draw.

So when they say that something looks dumb, I say, "Well that's just too darn bad, isn't it?" They can commence their unwatching at that point, and it's no real water off my back.
Flexible
6 years, 5 months ago
Yupyup, gotta let it roll off like a duck. :3 Hehe. If they become a serious problem, I just block them from posting, etc. I don't even bother playing the drama games. XD
Tycloud
6 years, 5 months ago
Welcome back!  *hugs*
XZeddX
6 years, 5 months ago
You rock my socks in general Nori,I hope to see more of your work someday
Denizen1414
6 years, 5 months ago
yeah, FA has lost some luster and such. But oh well. Least here no rudeness is in sight (far as I know) and the stuff here is greatly organized by catigory and such.

Plus, love see you and your art at any moment
Incaros
6 years, 5 months ago
Ouch dude. Man. I'm GLAD I lost my FA password and have been too lazy to reset it. I'm trying not to be biased against them...but...DAMN. I keep hearing worse and worse and worse things about that site. Heck, I've even heard that Dragoneer protected an artist who admited to raping a girl just because he was a popular artist. I think FA is just gonna keep getting worse until Dragoneer either grows a pair/spine, or someone who can control the admins users egos takes control. I mean, I'll admit, I'm pretty spineless myself more or less...but at least I'm not trying to run a community.
rwpikul
6 years, 5 months ago
You heard the not quite accurate version of the story.

A better description of 'Neers response was:  "Why are you bitching about this to me?  If it happened, talk to the police."

The 'admission' also only put things into the grey area where the question is more 'did he push past what she consented to or is she suffering from remorse for what she did?'
Norithics
6 years, 5 months ago
Ah, rape apologism, that old gem. Classy.
rwpikul
6 years, 5 months ago
No, just pointing out that the 'admission of rape' wasn't actually an admission of rape.  Even the description of events from her perspective wasn't clearly a rape.  Remember that were are working from incomplete information, we don't have the details needed to tell if there was a rape or not.

Regardless:  The people she should have been talking to were the police, not the admins of a web site the guy happened to have an account on.
Norithics
6 years, 5 months ago
Yeah, you're right, it was just admission of quasi-rape and being an emotionally abusive powerdick. Wait, what was your point, again?

I will agree it should've gone to the cops, but speaking as someone who helped a woman report her rape, that person will never be in the right frame of mind. Ever.

I don't blame 'Neer, per se. He should've been very clear about the 'go to the cops' part, but w/e.
rwpikul
6 years, 5 months ago
Remember that I was correcting Incaros's incorrect knowledge of that bit of drama.


As for 'Neer being clear:  He was.
sedkitty
6 years, 5 months ago
I prefer IB; people just seem a lot more friendly over here.  Maybe it's because the prevalence of cub art selects for more tolerant people.  Or maybe we're all jes' nice folk.
(IB's staff is also more competent, but that's not really cogent.)
Eviscerator
6 years, 5 months ago
If you're a Massive Asshole out of Nowhere..does that mean I'm the unlikely hero of a B-Movie fighting sphincterbeasts from beyond the stars?
specterHSC
6 years, 5 months ago
I haven't been active for too long on FA but even I can tell its no where near as user friendly as IB nor are the users as understanding. IB over all just has a better friendlier vibe.

And as far as I've been following you and your work you've never come off as an ass. It seems you don't care for stupidity or pointless hate comments but that is understandable. Either way I love your work and will follow you here.
ElfenSciuridae
6 years, 5 months ago
It may have been said, but your work here is great. I gotta love it! But for FA, I was there in the early days, and seen them give Maxx the Black Rabbit and Eric Schwartz problem over nothing. Yet other art posted by others were moreso and nothing done to them. So I left over their BS and never returned there. Maxx and Eric have been on and off over the years and don't know if they are there today. Its like The Acorn Cafe; bunch of micro fur pervs who dwell on Gadget porn but write a story about character murder - they go off the deep and used it as part of the reason to ban me.

Well, The Acorn Cafe is losing members in droves. The same thing should happen to FA. Members leaving a site should tell them something. They either have to change their ways or die.

My two cents...
Oogzie
6 years, 5 months ago
I'm.. faaar too lazy to properly update at two art sites.. and I'm apparently faaaar too much of an attention whore to migrate over here and receive less attention.. that and I feel like I draw things no one wants to see here more than things they do.. but I do generally agree with this.
GreenReaper
6 years, 5 months ago
I'm working on a general program for this, but for now, maybe the FA to IB script? It does partial imports . . .
Oogzie
6 years, 5 months ago
This.. is quite helpful to saving a bunch of time, thanks.
Norithics
6 years, 5 months ago
You know, that's what I felt, too, until I started really participating.
LoneWolf
6 years, 5 months ago
I maintain four galleries, plus a fifth when Weasyl goes live.
Milkie
6 years, 5 months ago
You know, I always tend to think that I don't fit into the community over at FA.

Maybe it's FA that doesn't fit into me.

(That sounds so very wrong.)
LoZeed
6 years, 5 months ago
He who fights demons,
FA's not totally crappy you just ran into the trash, I've yet to have any problems....

High profile individuals such as yourself are prime targets of trolls and haters.
MaverickSkye
6 years, 5 months ago
Heh, yeah I can see that really. I never really was too -into- FA as it was when I used it often, but, the more time I've spent here, the less interested I've found myself in the site. I mean, so, so, so many problems, errors in administration and just general...unpleasantness just makes me uncomfortable. At least here...you know you can deal with, for the most part, pretty tolerant folks.
wolfespada
6 years, 5 months ago
I still do respect FA, but here is fun too ^^
GamaTheHedgehog
6 years, 5 months ago
It also feels funner here too. Visually and everything.
CIV
CIV
6 years, 5 months ago
Have avoide FA forever. There's some of the same crap here, but that's people. Glad you're liking it here and I hope it stays good.
ScottyKat
6 years, 5 months ago
* gives a big ole hug* honestly i've not posted a single pic without expecting someone to bitch about it.
I have been lucky that im just under the radar of trollz. I hope to stay that way.
Fa's got some crazy and angry people lurking around
TheWill
6 years, 5 months ago
..."Dump"?...Nori, I don't know what to say... I mean, yes, I made an account here, but I rarely use it. I not going to convice you to come back to FA, but I want to state that it's still a great place. But I will not stand to see you say that a site like this is "better" then FA. I mean,you knew they banned cub art in FA before your supenion, and just because FA doesn't allow cub art, doesn't mean there trying to stunt your artistic ideas, it just one small rule. It's not like you still can't draw content like that but keep to yourself, "then again, where's the fun in that?"*sigh* I believe in FA because I made good friends and art for fun. Your a great artist too, and you also one of my favorites. I wished I could've somehow made friends with you earlier in FA. It's just that this site is no differnet from FA before the ban on cub. It the same, just with more "cub" then art.
...We still haven't done out Trade-art, but I guess that doesn't matter anymore... As long as your happy here.
Glendening
6 years, 5 months ago
The issue as I recall it wasn't the fact that cub art is banned on FA. The issue is that the rules about cub art on FA are completely subjective and to each moderators discretion rather then being black and white rules that a person can follow.
rwpikul
6 years, 5 months ago
I'd love to see you come up with a rule that meets the following criteria:

Never involves a moderator/admin judgement call.
Satisfies the third parties, (including law enforcement), that are the reason for the rule.

(N.B.:  The latter requirement includes the need to judge a picture on its own without referring to other submissions or the description.)


To be honest, most of the people I've noticed making regular complaints about the ban are those who constantly try to push right to the edge of what is allowed, (or flat out violate it on a regular basis).
Norithics
6 years, 5 months ago
The inclusion of the rule was the pandora's box. There is no fair way to enforce it, at all, period. The idea that the feds don't know about Furaffinity still makes me laugh, though.

It was rather clever the way they did that, though. People fought the inclusion of the rule, they stonewalled it. But then as soon as they put it in, they slyly added, "Oh, but hey! We'll listen to any suggestions on how to enforce it!"
Pretty sneaky, sis.
rwpikul
6 years, 5 months ago
The problem with law enforcement in this context is rarely the police agencies, it's the risk of some DA/ADA wanting to make a name for himself.

Although, if your issue is with the ban itself (not) being the problem you should be responding to Glendening, not me.
Norithics
6 years, 5 months ago
I was responding to you, since you took the onus of FA defense on your shoulders.
rwpikul
6 years, 5 months ago
Care to point out where in that comment I said the simple existence of the rule wasn't a problem?  What's that?  You can't?

If you are going to respond to me, kindly respond to the position I am taking rather than making unwarranted assumptions about things I haven't said anything about.  The main part of that comment was about how such a rule could not avoid the need for judgement calls.
Norithics
6 years, 5 months ago
This isn't debate club, take off your hat.
Norithics
6 years, 5 months ago
Man, it's people like you that made FA even worth visiting. You hadn't been there as long as I had, and it's not the rule that got me- shit, if it was like that, then how would I be able to stand it here? It was the entire culture of the place. Cynicism, entitlement and hatred just stewed in a big pot, everybody took their sides and stayed on their side of the playground. I thoroughly enjoyed having folks like yourself around, but holy hell, it got to be a nightmare behind the scenes. New people got pushy and stupid, trolls got so meta it became a pain in the ass to even know what was going on... I got tired of it. The administration? That was just the last straw. You don't really think I'm that shallow? There's years of history you're missing out on.

Believe me, I'd still love to trade with you... as soon as I have a job and don't feel like I'm in danger of everything collapsing around me.
Salacious
6 years, 5 months ago
Ain't no thing but a chicken wing, man. Just how it goes. FA has a lot of heavy toxicity to it, I haven't given up on it admittedly, but that's because I'm sort of half and half between my mains, (A wolf and a half-human, which can't be posted to IB sadly, I respect that ruling in the interest of the site even if it does make me unhappy), but aside from no smoothies to avoid child-porn dangers, it's really a much more lenient and open place, I've seen significantly fewer 'NO! You can't post anything outside of what -I- like!" people here.

And I'll admit, the whole cub thing affected me since even if at the time it was a fringe kink for me it's still something I like, and I really don't want to have the folks who like it discriminated against, especially the ones who are more deeply engrained and would have a harder time giving it up.

I dunno honestly, I get different vibes from each site but they both have things to offer. IB certainly seems to have a generally more friendly community, but that may simply be because the population is low enough the 'no me!'ers and the trolls haven't arisen yet. I certainly hope that isn't the case.
DevasiaMentality
6 years, 5 months ago
I left FA primarily because it's becoming a common thing I do... find an art site and settle there for a few years while lurking around a few others, eventually dump the old one because I could care less about 1 or 2 followers I had there, then settle into whichever other one I lurk at that looks good at the time. Ultimately I'll run out of places to go and disappear completely, but I guess that's just how I roll. *shrug*

Being here isn't my favorite choice either way, as for the past few years I've been leaning away from furry-dom in favor of human/anime arts... which this site doesn't like it seems.
SenGrisane
6 years, 5 months ago
Yes I do notice a bit of a bad vibe on FA too in the last year (even though I never had problems with people saying rude things except in very rare cases... even back when I uploaded my hard core cub or weird porn).

I also noticed a decline in viewership. I get more favs and comments on inkbunny now, despite FA being bigger (although I think i always got more comments on inkbunny).

But I will stay and upload stuff there too as long as I am not kicked. I just really miss the multiple upload option. ^^
GunslingerDragon
6 years, 5 months ago
Part of the problem with FA is simply size. By virtue of the greater internet dickwad theory and human variance, combined with the drastically larger population, the odds of such negative interactions increase drastically.

I'll probably actually use stuff here when I get past the feeling I get from this place of "This is a FURRY website for FURRY art, we don't want your filthy, vile humans here! Or anything too human looking!" It was mildly amusing and only marginally annoying (having to assure various artists that no, that one incredibly vocal person that apparently flies into a rage whenever they are reminded that humans exist is NOT representative of the majority) on FA because it was specifically not what the rules stated, but here there are specific rules against humans.
JHelfrich
6 years, 5 months ago
Sounds like FA is the furry version of PTSD in this case.  Though in your specific example it seems kinda odd they'd see the BE pics, watch you and then *not* go through your gallery and see all of the kinds of stuff you draw.

That kind of thing is never easy to adjust back from, defensive mechanisms can be a hinderance once you don't need them anymore.
JamesZero
6 years, 5 months ago
hey you know what? I really hope everyone doesn't come to inkbunny and the stuck up idiot people who still defend it stay there. Because if they come here it will be the same shit over again. The people who avoid this site are the same people that bitched and moaned every time you put up a pic the didn't like. So no, I don't hope everyone comes here. It's fine the way it is
PsyChuan
6 years, 5 months ago
Exactly the same reason I left FA. The entire site seems based around a clique and if you're not in it, you can be banned for anything. Conversely, if you ARE in it, you could be a serial rapist and it would be glossed over.
LoneWolf
6 years, 5 months ago
I would probably make Inkbunny my primary gallery if it wasn't for 1.) It becoming a cub art dump, and 2.) If I got more than 2 views per new upload.
GoatPants
6 years, 5 months ago
Maybe my lack of extreme popularity over there-as well as my tendency to just keep my mouth shut-ha smade me blind to this side fo the community over there.  I dunno.  But I'm glad to know you're over here where I'm lurking, and can still catch you uploading :D
LabrnMystic
6 years, 5 months ago
I have never received an ill word or verbal assault on my character and intellect from you. If this place is better, stick to it.
GeckosFancies
6 years, 5 months ago
There's more than one or two things about FA that make me uncomfortable about the place. I think my biggest issue is the arbitrarily selective tolerance that both admins and users tend to display. Never had any personal run-ins with it, though. But then I'm a fair bit under the radar, so I get much less attention in general than someone like you.

To me, there's a snag-pit of what's not allowed on each site. FA allows humans being aroused, but has the sketchy underage rules. IB allows cub porn, but not aroused humans. YaoiGallery allows all that... But has its narrow scope, and I get almost no response there. SoFurry allows everything I draw (and plan to draw) but is low on users, and dA has their own irrational rules regarding "underage" art and all other art of a sexual nature. Right now I'm technically posting on six "galleries" if you include LJ, and I have to cut that down, but none of them seem quite right for what I'll be drawing in the near future.
Norithics
6 years, 5 months ago
That's got to be pretty frustrating, yeah. =\
GeckosFancies
6 years, 5 months ago
I'd say that's my only real gripe about IB though. If SF had more traffic, that might be my best compromise, but I get confused by their layouts and submitting process. And fact is, they don't have much traffic. (They have a similar tag blocking system to the one on IB, for one thing. Long as you accurately tag your stuff, nobody's going to even see any themes they want to avoid.) If IB had no restrictions on humans in the art, they would be the best compromise.
OsirisPM
6 years, 5 months ago
I must point out that Inkbunny is overall a friendlier community in part because there is less frustration with the site's features--a good job has been done.

FA is still mostly my home. I guess it's that they're not picky about the sort of stuff I post (non-furry). What IS Inkbunny policy about Fractals and Poetry?
Norithics
6 years, 5 months ago
Right? They're always adding things, and they seem to be actively interested in making the place better.
YukiAkuma
6 years, 5 months ago
I'll admit I was never really involved with the community over at FA. I watched a couple of artists and... that's really about it. But from what I've heard about it, I'm glad I never really took part.

I belong to enough caustic communities as it is!
LegionRed
6 years, 5 months ago
The reputation of tolerance here is what keeps most of the FA people who cant deal with things that dont like, away from here... which I find to be sad for them, but good for the rest of us.
Nightdrifter
6 years, 5 months ago
I noticed the difference x3 very social and friendly now! I had a blast at your streams!

Was even tempted to offer a +friend! :3
FritzRand
6 years, 5 months ago
Wow, that is reallllllly interesting.  And true to me too, i've had quite a few angering exps on FA, but none here.
Webster
6 years, 5 months ago
The thing I don't get is why so many people can't be on more than one site. I mean, it used to be every person had their own site. It's not so hard to follow a few websites.

Edit: I mean that from a watcher's perspective.
lipucd
6 years, 5 months ago
I think it's because Inkbunny is still 'new', so we don't need to be like such. There are less people here, and it's far less well known. If I talk with a friend, and I bring up Inkbunny, he'll not even know what that is, but if I bring up FA, he'll go "Oh, you mean that furry site?". I think a lot of it just has to do with the flux of people you end up dealing with. Over here it's just liked minded people, we are all into the artwork, all into the material, and all understanding of differences. Once we start seeing a bigger and bigger influx though...that's going to change. Less and less new people are going to 'get it' and will be coming here due towards snowballing, before we know it a ton of people who want to be apart of something, but clearly do not fit in are going to be jumping over here, and the headaces will start back up.

Sadly it's just due towards getting so many in one place at one time. Right now we can hear each other...if this place had a few million people around it, it would suddenly become very hard to make out anyone at all...
Danund81
6 years, 5 months ago
You really find it that much better here? Hm... Maybe I should consider making the switch.
Bormac
6 years, 5 months ago
I don't really do alot here or on FA but I can understand your feelings, there's alot of...uh..people there that I can do without. The attitudes in general. Quite a pan in the backside sometimes. Too much drama.
RDK
RDK
6 years, 5 months ago
RedDragonKan here, what oisses me more is how elitist and how they turn their eyeblind when we get harrased by assholes who have accounts to bash the fandom.  Yet what they can ever do is for us to block them.  I question the need for moderators at all.
slicerness
6 years, 5 months ago
when i first started following you i wasn't so much against yaoi as i did just shrug and not click on the pic. most people are polite enough to clearly mark it as M/M, so it wasn't hard. you're actually the reason i've become more accepting of yaoi stuff. i really loved one of your pics (the one with the two guys sneaking into the girls slumber party and one laying on top of the other playing 'Let's Go Spelunking And See How Long Till We're Caught') and i paused, reread the dialogue, and decided; "Ya know, this is pretty damned good. i think i'll give all art a try." and i did.

it didn't really last long, as it was mostly your art style and humor that made me like it, but as long as the art is good and there's dialogue i'll usually click the picture, whether it's F/M, M/M, or F/F.

so... thanks! i realized just now i never really thanks you for that.
Norithics
6 years, 5 months ago
Interesting! I enjoyed reading that. Thanks for sharing. =)
Rikmach
6 years, 5 months ago
Yeah, your bits of humor and dialogue is what makes your stuff works of art.
Bittan
6 years, 5 months ago
The main problem is that FA has always warmly embraced a horribly toxic community, with the administration actively participating in it at times. For example, Dragoneer participating in "Watch Your Step", a group of self-appointed "policers" of the "fandom" who would mainly use mob tactics & callouts to shut down people they didn't like or thought were "bad". The FA forums used to be full of unashamed vitriol, callouts, lynchmobbing and other things you'd be banned for on the main site. It's been ages since I last bothered going to the forums and they apparently have new rules in place to stop this, but it's really a case of "too little, too late", isn't it?

There's really no point going over the absolutely shitty adminship because that's mostly been the case since day 1, and they've all repeatedly demonstrated how they lack the ability to apply their rules consistently (or even have consistent rules in the first place). Non-delivery of promised features also doesn't instil much joy in the community.

IB's friendliness mainly comes from having a small (but expanding) userbase of people who generally have at least a modicum of tolerance, combined with rules that are fairly clear-cut, developers who actively improve the user experience and administrators who, as far as I'm aware, have arbitrated pretty fairly. If they can keep it up as the userbase expands, then hopefully it'll remain the same.
Rikmach
6 years, 5 months ago
The only reason I haven't migrated all my stuff over here is because I'm *hideously lazy*.
BlackAion
6 years, 5 months ago
I all I gotta say is MOAR TANUKI TAIL AND MASHATO!!!
Erolunai
6 years, 5 months ago
I find this a very interesting topic, and I hope you don't mind me offering my opinion.
I've gone through a phase in my life in which I was very cynical/callous and thought the worst of people, of things in general really, and it was frustrating, as I did not want to be like that.
In a way, to get over that, you have to manage yourself and your own stress...
I respect your decision to leave FA, and I can recognize that it can be absolutely horrible in some respects...

However... If you want to remove the Toxic feeling, in a way, you can work to break down the things that may aggrivate you.
For example, a friend would frequently visit these unsettling websites and basically read through the journals of drama and trolling that people would put up, partly out of amusement, but it left them feeling like crap afterwards. They never -needed- to look up these, and they could, without a doubt, go on the rest of their lives without subjecting themselves to this torment.

Another case, a friend is wanting very strongly to become a great artist, however with everything they draw, regardless of the number of people who say it's "great" and the number of people who say it's "crap", they will always default to saying that it is crap. In this case, they're developing their own toxicity - rather than looking at what the facts are, they will take in the most negative response and believe it to be the most true.
The more they keep telling themselves that their work is "crap", the more it becomes true because that is all that they start to believe, they stop deciding for themselves, they stop looking at it for what it is.

That case is sort of similar to the theoretical case that someone watches you for your female artwork, only to whine and complain about the male artwork, to do this is selfish on their part for sure, and anyone can see that you don't deserve to be whined at for such a thing...
However, when you take stock of your  life, from the moment you wake in the morning, to your daily actions, this is something that, for some reason, many of us would dwell on, and it perplexes me as to why, because it's illogical, isn't it?
It's like we tie a metal ball filled with doubt, anger, disappointment, whatever negative emotion around our ankle and carry it with us through not only the rest of our day, but until we acknowledge to let it go.

I think this is something very important... as we all keep carrying too much negativity that isn't even relative to our own lives.
This is how I bear furaffinity. I use the features offered, I keep in touch with friends who use it, artists whose work I enjoy or admire, etc., if an issue comes up, someone making a negative comment, I do what I can about it, but I don't carry it with me.

but, apart from that, it's a way of sort of... cleansing yourself, as hippie-ish as I probably sound by now xD;
It's very calming, to sort of be able to empower yourself to just... -drop- any negativity clinging to you, and to reassure yourself of your own ideals, to reassure yourself of who you are.

It's just like you said, in a way, it's actively making yourself conscious of what you don't have to be... I've been learning this sort of skill for myself, and it's been keeping me fairly calm, composed, and control of my own self-being...

and actually, in a way, you taught me that.

Anyways, I hope I didn't talk too much in circles, and I hope things work out more nicely for you here!
MinnieShoof
6 years, 4 months ago
It was for me. Totally guilty. I'm the florescent light in a bug zapper.
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