This is another "Social media is anti-social" post.
So, why is it people just VANISH these days instead of either "telling someone off" or dropping by to say "hello" now and then? Even if you really don't have much to say other than "hello".
This is called "Ghosting", where you just vanish from someone's life without saying a goodbye or occasional hello.
People are more fickle these days.
Social media has made people actually LESS social as they do more and more interaction "online" and in text than they do in real life.
And when people's communication is just "texting", actual "live" social sessions become awkward because they can't edit what they say in a real world conversation. So while someone may be a "brilliant diva" online, they can often be a stuttering and socially awkward mess in the real world.
Hell just look at the aversion to something as simple as making a phone call. This is an actual phobia that is becoming "freakishly common" with Millennials and beyond where the mere thought of having to talk to another person on the phone causes anxiety issues. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Telephone_phobia This is also transferring over to "face to face" conversations as people avoid more and more real world social interaction.
I also notice people are more likely to "Ghost" in the real world because of social media, where if they don't know you in the "real world" they are more likely to get bored and just stop communicating altogether with someone even before meeting in real life... So there is a massive disconnect from realizing people online are still people in the real world, and this often translates to them doing the same things in the real world that they are used to doing online and visa-versa... People you actually know and THOUGHT you were friends with, just up and break off all communication with absolutely no explanation then create their own anxiety of conflict, "good or bad", to the point that they "ignore and block" people that could literally be face to face with them.
Maybe they are cowards?
Maybe they just don't know how to handle things like rejecting and being rejected?
If you don't want to talk to or hang out with someone JUST TELL THEM! It is a whole lot better than stupid excuses or making someone that might actually CARE ABOUT YOU suddenly worry that they fucked something up or that you died or something.
People can't read minds!
On a side note, with today's extremist politics being in nearly everything, it becomes harder and harder for diverse opinions and beliefs to "get along" as people are put into "Echo chambers" online and "self segregate" themselves from other groups to the point that people are less likely to "agree to disagree".
So, in all, it is much easier to "fail" at socializing these days.
People spend so much time putting forth a "persona" in social media online that they fail to BE THEMSELVES in the real world.
As a little side bit of info... Most the people that invented "social media" are not only AGAINST USING IT THEMSELVES, they will also outright tell people NOT to use it when they leave a social media company. https://www.theguardian.com/media/2018/jan/23/never-get...
Social media was DESIGNED TO BE FREAKISHLY ADDICTIVE! It was psychologically designed to trigger the same centers of the brain that are triggered by opium/heroin addiction! As well as other addictive and psychologically manipulative things like gambling and the "need" for only positive recognition (thumbs up with NO thumbs down... A like button with NO dislike button... Favoring a black and white, yes or no, or "favorite or nothing ONLY" approach, that makes people inherently more biased and easy to control and keep addicted without having a "middle" area... )... So on and so forth.
We are FUCKED as a society if people would rather just "vanish" than "agree to disagree" or drop in and say "hello" to someone they haven't talked to in a long time.
I know I ghost often but that stems from the fact the people I use to talk to were literal sociopaths who really need to be in a psychiatric hospital. When it comes to people like those, tis far more easier to just drift away silently without them being aware you just left them completely.
I know I ghost often but that stems from the fact the people I use to talk to were literal sociopath
