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I recently got a job offer, and the plan is to start tomorrow! So that's neat! But I have a question for Inkbunny. Actually,
Nishi
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's been super duper helpful talkin' to me about this stuff, and made me feel a lot better! I kinda wanted to write it out again and see if I could get even more comments on it.

Short version: The short version is just that I have conflicted feelings about telling an employer about how long I want to stay (and don't even really know myself), and I just wondered what folks here thought!

Longer version: I recently got a degree, and I'm not sure what I want to do with it. I figured I'd try to get a job where I could save up some money and support myself while I explore other options. So I applied to this job I'm starting tomorrow, which was described as "office assistant" in the ad or something like that, not related to my degree or anything. And I got invited to an interview, and talked to the guy I'd be working for. I guess it's sorta a mid-sized company - it's not a huge corporation, but they've expanded to multiple states. I was kinda caught off guard when he started talking about long-term stuff, and about how there was lots of opportunity for advancement and learning, and how, though in the past he'd hired folks even just for a year, he was starting to want to hire folks longer term. And I didn't really do anything to disabuse him of the idea that I'd be staying for a long time, and evaded his questions about how long I'd stay.

And that makes me feel kinda bad, since I'm sorta doubtful that I'll want to stay very long term, and, like I say, I kinda wanna keep open to different possibilities from the get-go. That's probably true even if turns out to be an interesting job, as it would if there are as many cool opportunities as he said. I don't even know how to put a number on how long I'd want to stay, since I'm just generally uncertain about what I want to do in the future. But I worry that if I tell him about my uncertainty, he probably won't want to keep me in the job. And then I'd feel kinda irresponsible for scuttling an opportunity to support myself - especially given the difficulties of getting employed around here these days (though there's no risk of my going homeless or anything). Most people seem to say that you're not obligated to tell an employer how long you plan to stay or anything, but I'll be working closely with this guy, and he seems nice and also eager to have someone long term, and I guess I hate disappointing people.

Thanks guys! :)
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Added: 6 years, 4 months ago
 
XZeddX
6 years, 4 months ago
*hugs* :3
Bosky
6 years, 4 months ago
*hugs!* :)
CodyFops
6 years, 4 months ago
My recommendation (apologies I just scanned the long version) would be to tell this employer that you're in the for the long run because, who knows, you may find you like the job and want to stick around. If you tell your employer you're only thinking short-term employment your chances of being hired are likely going to drop. If you're feeling guilty about 'lying' to him, think about what I said. You may find you like the job and want to stay. You aren't obliged to stay with one employer, it's your choice, so use it!

Short version: If it were me in your shoes, I'd tell him you're in the for long haul.
Bosky
6 years, 4 months ago
Thanks a bunch, Cody! :) You're definitely right! I'm not sure how much I love the job or anything, but at least it's something if I decide to stay! I'll keep it quiet as far as possibly goin' elsewhere.
CodyFops
6 years, 4 months ago
Awesome! That said, good luck in your career endeavors! ^_^
PeachClover
6 years, 4 months ago
The truth is you don't know how long you will be working there so, go ahead and let him think you will be there for a long time.  Maybe your other plans will go through, but if it doesn't there is no point in telling this employer that you are in a rush to leave.
Bosky
6 years, 4 months ago
Thanks, PC! You're right, definitely, y'can't say in advance how long things are going to be. :)
torchlight
6 years, 4 months ago
If he really is a nice guy, then he probably deserves to know the truth.  My opinion is that if he asks tell him the truth, that you are not sure what you want to do with your life.  You may decide you like the job and stay, or you may find something else you like better.  Just make sure you don't just up and leave without proper notice, and make sure he knows you wont.
Nick2Shy
6 years, 4 months ago
I'd second that :3
Bosky
6 years, 4 months ago
Thanks, Torchlight! I dunno if he ever quite asked directly, so I haven't really told him either way, just been a lil evasive. But I'll definitely try to let 'em know before I do leave.
DannyDenim
6 years, 4 months ago
First off, A super big Congrats to you on your job, I'm really happy for you!!
And second, an employer will commonly ask something like that, and you honestly wouldn't be lying to him if you told him you were in it for the long haul...even though you'd rather be doing something else related to your degree, you really just never know, you may love this place and say screw your degree XD  Also, saying that you may have other plans may decrease your chances at getting the job, and if something were to come up as far as another job goes that you may be very interested in, they may sit there and be jerks and say you don't have enough work experience or something.  It could definatetly open up a lot of doors for you, even if it will eventually be with another company someday.  In my personal opinion, I'd just go with the flow and not be too concerned with letting them know of any long term intentions, and just worry about those things when the time comes.  You're gonna do great! ^_^  
Bosky
6 years, 4 months ago
Thanks a bunch, Sammy! I'm glad you think similarly to me, even if I was kinda worried about it. I don't think I'll want to stay there too long, but I don't really want to not have a job, and it's hard to say what my plans are exactly. We'll see how things go in the future!
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