's been super duper helpful talkin' to me about this stuff, and made me feel a lot better! I kinda wanted to write it out again and see if I could get even more comments on it.
Short version: The short version is just that I have conflicted feelings about telling an employer about how long I want to stay (and don't even really know myself), and I just wondered what folks here thought!
Longer version: I recently got a degree, and I'm not sure what I want to do with it. I figured I'd try to get a job where I could save up some money and support myself while I explore other options. So I applied to this job I'm starting tomorrow, which was described as "office assistant" in the ad or something like that, not related to my degree or anything. And I got invited to an interview, and talked to the guy I'd be working for. I guess it's sorta a mid-sized company - it's not a huge corporation, but they've expanded to multiple states. I was kinda caught off guard when he started talking about long-term stuff, and about how there was lots of opportunity for advancement and learning, and how, though in the past he'd hired folks even just for a year, he was starting to want to hire folks longer term. And I didn't really do anything to disabuse him of the idea that I'd be staying for a long time, and evaded his questions about how long I'd stay.
And that makes me feel kinda bad, since I'm sorta doubtful that I'll want to stay very long term, and, like I say, I kinda wanna keep open to different possibilities from the get-go. That's probably true even if turns out to be an interesting job, as it would if there are as many cool opportunities as he said. I don't even know how to put a number on how long I'd want to stay, since I'm just generally uncertain about what I want to do in the future. But I worry that if I tell him about my uncertainty, he probably won't want to keep me in the job. And then I'd feel kinda irresponsible for scuttling an opportunity to support myself - especially given the difficulties of getting employed around here these days (though there's no risk of my going homeless or anything). Most people seem to say that you're not obligated to tell an employer how long you plan to stay or anything, but I'll be working closely with this guy, and he seems nice and also eager to have someone long term, and I guess I hate disappointing people.