Why is it "weird"? by PlaneshifterLair < Journal | Inkbunny, the Furry Art Community

5 years ago

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I honestly agree with you. I don’t really like forced sex at all. Especially rape. I’m guessing it might have to do with superiority or power over the partner, but in my opinion, it makes me feel like a monster if I force someone to have sex with me and they have no say of the situation. It can even be scaring for the receiver, which would make me hate the rapist even more. If anyone else is into that stuff, that’s fine as I’m not targeting or kink shaming anyone. I just personally don’t agree with it. Even if it isn’t real, it’s still a fucked up thing to get enjoyment out of it.

PlaneshifterLair

5 years ago

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@ SecretStash151

To be honest, as long as it's in -FANTASY-, hey, no harm done. I like some stuff I would never do IRL.
I just mind people reacting badly to the fact I don't like it.

I get it has an appeal to some. It has no appeal to me. I dislike the idea of blackmailing or forcing for sex. Personal choice.

Taiconan

5 years ago

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@ PlaneshifterLair

More power to you! I agree with this notion and have gotten several similar reactions in the past. Now, if OOC a character I'm roleplaying with is rocking a "secretly loves it" mentality I'll write that "pinned down and pounded" stuff all day long... but the minute a partner "isn't enjoying it" or is "do not want/crying" I'm out. Even if the character's owner enjoys it.

No harm no fowl, and I can commission it if need be, but it's -not- something I enjoy.

Stick to your guns IMO, just keep making it about different tastes and folks will move on. No different than strawberry or vanilla. It may both be icecream, but...

Man am I STILL typing??
Shutting up now... XP

Floofy

5 years ago

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Totally not weird to feel that way.

In fact it's more mainstream than most of IB, which is probably why people react so weird to it.

PlaneshifterLair

5 years ago

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@ Floofy

Yeh, I get that. I'm just fucking pissed of finding people that acts like I'm weird for calling myself dominant and not wanting to RAPE PEOPLE. Like that's all that doms can do >_>

6strife9

5 years ago

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The only time I can enjoy "Rape" is when it's done in a role play setting. Other then that It tends to just put me off. I think most people don't understand what goes on between Subs and Doms, all the communicating and making sure both parties are safe. I think this is because most of the time artist and writers tend to skip that part and go right for the action.

KimbaLion

5 years ago

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i am sorry no one is listening to you =Oo=
as long as you say what you want, there should be no misunderstandings *meow*

ElMatto

5 years ago

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People like what they like and dislike what they don't. Not a big deal.

theuncalledfor

5 years ago

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Maybe they feel insecure about liking that kind of stuff, and seeing someone else with a preference for the dominant role who doesn't enjoy that kind of thing makes them feel like there's something wrong with them, but they don't want to accept that and project the feeling onto you instead.
"Everyone who likes to be in charge likes to completely dominate their partner, even in ways that violate them! It's completely normal! I'm normal! T-there's nothing wrong with me! R-right? RIGHT?! No, if you d-don't like it, there must be s-something wrong with YOU!"

I agree with you that it's not unethical to be into that kind of thing so long as you don't do it to a real person, only to fictional characters. But emotions are a powerful thing, and we do feel empathy even for fictional characters, and I know from very, very personal experience that this empathy can cloud someone's judgement. I have learned that it's wrong to judge people for having a rape kink (again, so long as they can keep it entirely contained to fictional situations, or real-life roleplay with willing partners that merely pretend to resist, and ideally with a safe word in place just to make sure the roleplay doesn't become too real), but I still struggle with my emotional protective-retributive reaction sometimes.

Tigerfestivals

5 years ago

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@ theuncalledfor

Hit the nail on the head, I think.

FoxyIbLover

5 years ago

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100% agreed. What brought this up? Some moron bothering you on this site?

RushTheWolf

5 years ago

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Honestly, that is TOO mainstream. And I don't mean for just IB. It's been mainstream for too long in hentai and other crap, and has been for years. Rape, blackmail, monsters and demons, corrupt laws or abusing authority...the damn list goes on. Not complaining, but no one should be surprised if there are people against it, you and me included.

CubCore

5 years ago

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Im okay with forced stuff in a fictional setting only, but if someone were to force it on another person irl then theyd be a hella shitty person. .
I agree though, how the hell does not wanting to rape someone make you not dominant ?? e-e" Sounds like people are confusing domination with wanting to feel like theyre in power or something :/

ickusdemon

5 years ago

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how is that weird when if people do that in real life its ether wrong or straight up rape . Its sickening when people suggest that its normal when it makes them selves look creepy

Delquea

5 years ago

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People are strange these days. I had people interrogate me for not liking certain themes LOL

Tigerfestivals

5 years ago

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You're on a website where the main audience is here for the loli content. Basically most everyone here is a massive pervert so having more vanilla interests on this site is abnormal.

But yeah not liking rapey content isn't weird its probably more common than liking it.

ArenConcordia

5 years ago

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Honestly, I don't understand when people find it odd that people don't share their fetishes. I certainly don't expect everyone to share mine.

johnbrittish

5 years ago

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I think: the more into it she is, the hotter it is.

Slightly into it = slightly hot
Super into it = super hot

That's just me though. (and no kink shaming)

DancingChar

5 years ago

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The "forced sex" kink is one of those kinks that get looked down on by many people so I think I can understand why many who are into it tend to get more defensive about it.
When you say you don't like it, they might interpret it as you saying that they're bad for liking it, even if you don't mean it that way, since a lot of people do mean it that way.

Like, as someone who enjoys cub pics, It's hard not to get a slight singe of anxiety when someone I know says they "don't like cub". Unless they explicitly say it's OK if you do like it, I can't help but start wondering "would this person hate me if they saw my favorites gallery?"

This anxiety/fear of judgement might be showing in those "weird" comments you've been getting. I wouldn't take it too personally.

LoZeed

5 years ago

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These are pretty understandable, "being paid a debt or a favor with sex" is an old trope of porn, kinda really played out to me.
"she is in heat and can't help it" doesn't quite work if you think about it but instead it should be "she is in heat and is more likely to do it than normal"

The rest bring up very questionable morals IMHO.

theuncalledfor

5 years ago

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@ LoZeed

It depends on the depiction of heat. In some cases, the subject seems unable to get any relief from masturbation and is desperate for anyone to make it stop.

Unless the other one is manipulating circumstances to make sure they're the one that becomes the target of the request for aid, or otherwise making the situation worse to gain an advantage, I don't see anything wrong with it (as in, even if it was real - so I don't see it as "forced"). It's more like a charitable action than like taking advantage of the subject, IMO. A sincere attempt to help them over an unpleasant time.

But I see how it could turn some people off, and make them feel like they're taking advantage of the one in heat.

LoZeed

5 years ago

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@ theuncalledfor

The whole concept of being in heat seems weird from a human viewpoint, it's a matter of implications, convey the incorrect message and it comes off as manipulation for all the wrong reasons. TLDR: It depends, it really does.

JacobMuken

5 years ago

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That's weird? I feel the same, it's not fun if not everybody is enjoying themselves or is going to regret their actions afterward

Incaros

5 years ago

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People don't like the world being complex. Some assume "submissive" means they enjoy being taken advantage of, and some mean "Dominant" means the partner having no real consent. -3-

SexyBigEars69

4 years, 11 months ago

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happy sex is best sex

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