This is a debate that I think has probably been going on from the beginning of the concept of marriage. It is true that the health of a relationship is tied pretty closely to the health of a couple's sex life, but is that a problem, or a symptom of a bigger problem?
Having experienced this phenomenon from several different perspectives and angles, I'm pretty certain I know the answer to this.
I think the problem is almost 100% due to standardized exclusivity.
Pretty much every sitcom I have ever watched has had a rather large percentage of their episodes dedicated to how closely sex is tied to an exclusive relationship. It's actually the main reason I stopped watching them. Everywhere you look, nearly every movie and show on TV has stories and arcs centered around exclusive relationships. You very very rarely see anything different. Exclusivity is also very closely tied to religion, which makes me wonder just why so many atheists and agnostics still commit to it. Generations of family values, perhaps?
Sadly these conversations almost never happen on a popular platform, mainly due to censorship, but also because this world is maddeningly just.. so.. sexually.. repressed.
A lot of exclusive couples might tell you that sex either isn't, or shouldn't be an important part of a relationship, but the thing is, when your sex life is decidedly exclusive, you're kinda making it more important by design. So I think when we ask "How important is sex to a relationship?" that's really the wrong question to ask. A better question is "Why are we making it that way?" If you truly believe that you can have love without sex, then why is it so important to tie it TO love?
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