I've grown tired of typing this stuff up every time he ignores my response to the previous friend he sent to say this and sends another one, so this is a copy-paste response. That's how often he has sent one of his friends to do what you are doing. Nothing personal, and I hope you don't think less of me for this, but my experience with Allan has been long and annoying and frustrating for no good reason. I cannot >AFFORD< to keep spending the massive amounts of time his bullshit has eaten up, which includes explanation responses to the friends he keeps sending to ask me to forgive him, even when every time he does it, I let them know to tell him, as I have told him numerous times, to stop trying to contact me.
He doesn't understand because he is incapable of understanding. He's mentally disabled. He doesn't need to tell me his side of the drama surrounding him, I am more informed and aware of the circumstances around that whole drama than most people out there. I have talked to him, his friends, people on his side and against him who were first-hand involved in all his bullshit. I refuse to listen to him anymore BECAUSE he does not understand anything I have ever tried to say to him.
When the drama around him first started, I did not know him, had never talked to him. Dragoneer made that big journal saying all the things Allan had done and why he was made an exception to several ACTUALLY SMART principles, and banned despite FA having always had a policy of not getting involved over off-site matters. I made a big comment to the journal blasting Dragoneer for breaking that policy because there were dozens of other people who did all the same things he listed Allan as being guilty of, and plenty of people who constantly do even worse, and never get banned.
Some of Allan's friends saw my comment, and mistook me for defending Allan. I got >several< notes from seemingly decent people saying the accusations against Allan were false. I blasted Dragoneer because what he did was retarded and wrong even if all the accusations had been true. When that many people told me they were lies, I looked into it further. ALL the shit Dragoneer listed turned out to be either utter bullshit flat out lies, or extreme rumor-exaggeration and misrepresentation of actual events. The one valid accusation was that he had been spending money on commissions while he was also taking donations from people.
I tried to explain to Dragoneer how he was wrong, how he shouldn't have banned Allan, and how all the shit he'd been told was troll-hate rumor garbage. I also tried to explain to Allan how what HE did was wrong in asking for donations while spending money on commissions.
Allan's defense was that all the donations he got, he kept in one bank account, and only ever used that bank account to pay legitimate bills and expenses. All his commissions were paid for from the severance pay he was receiving from his last job, which was all going into a separate bank account. To Allan, this meant that he did nothing wrong. To his mentally defective way of thinking, he was only spending his own money on commissions, and only spent donations for actual bills and food. He could not comprehend that the separate bank accounts did not make a difference, that he was only able to use "his" money on commissions BECAUSE of the donations people were giving him. I spent WEEKS going OVER and OVER and OVER that one single damn argument with him, and he >STILL< does not get it. He eventually understood that somehow, everyone thinks he did wrong, and so he started trying to pay people back just to get people to stop hating him, but he NEVER grasped the concept of >WHY< it was wrong.
All during this, I had also tried to help him deal with Dragoneer. I told him to NOT talk to Dragoneer directly over live chat, because that only gave Neer ammo to use against him. Every time Allan talked to Neer in live chat, he made an ass of himself, was hostile and threatening, and gave Neer more stuff he could copy-paste to people and go "See how bad this guy is? He did deserve that ban" despite all the shit Allan was doing was only a >response< to the damn ban. Doing something wrong to a person can NOT be justified by anything they do >as a direct result of what you did to them first< no matter how bad their retaliation is.
After I think MONTHS of this shit, with Allan ignoring EVERY SINGLE THING I told him to try and help him, and with the bullshit between him and Neer escalating constantly from both of them doing retarded-ass crap at each other, I told Allan I was done. I told him I wasn't involved anymore. He ignored me. He kept asking me to help. I told him no, because he had not ever done a single thing I suggested, so I wasn't going to waste my time anymore. Allan kept harassing me about it and I told him to stop emailing me. He wouldn't. I eventually had to block him. He started noting me, emailing me from alternate accounts. Every time, I would tell him again to stop contacting me, stop harassing me, I was not interested in communicating with him.
He is incapable of understanding anything other than whatever he wants to do at any given moment. He is ruled by his impulses and desires, and if he wants something, he does whatever he can to get it, and completely and utterly >cannot even see< the wants and desires of other people. He is blind to anyone else's wishes if they conflict with his own wishes. I have told him >DOZENS< of times that we are not friends, that I tried to help him and he ignored every word, that I do not want anything more to do with him, and STILL he contacts me every now and then as if none of it was ever said, like "hey, I miss you, you should call me, here's my cell phone number, let me have yours so I can call you and we can talk."
I tried telling him politely, I tried telling him firmly, over and over again, until finally I was in his face and caps lock and yelling at him with no room for ambiguity or misunderstanding that I wanted him to stop trying to fucking talk to me. It got to the point where I told him I would contact the police and file harassment charges if he did not leave me the fuck alone.
And STILL he doesn't get it. He doesn't stop. Multiple times now, he's come into my stream saying "Hi everybody" as if nothing ever happened and I had already told him not to come to my streams and banned him from them several times before.
Allan does not understand because Allan is mentally disabled. He has an extreme handicap in reasoning and perception. He is retarded in a clinical sense, not just the insult use of the word. Dragoneer started all this bullshit, but Allan has since taken his retaliatory garbage WAY beyond anything that can be considered understandable or forgivable reaction to being wronged. It still does not justify Dragoneer's initial unprovoked, unwarranted, and seriously fucking wrong almost completely false accusatory journal against Allan, but Allan is not remotely just a victim anymore either. He is utterly blind to the effect his actions have on others, and is incapable of caring when those effects are directly pointed out to him. All he does, and all he ever will do, will be motivated by whatever he thinks he has to do to get whatever it is he wants at the time, and that is that. He needs to be put in a mental ward where MAYBE he can get the serious professional help he needs, or at LEAST he can be kept away from being able to cause so much headache for everyone else.
If you are his friend, the best thing you could do for him is help him come to understand that sometimes he cannot have what he wants. He cannot ignore the wishes of other people. I tried to help him, he ignored me, and now that I have told him countless times that I do not wish to have anything to do with him, he continues to ignore that. Even at the threat of me getting the police involved for his harassment of me, which I >DON'T< want to fuck with, but every time he does this, it pushes me that much closer to not having any other option.