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I'm still living at the St. George Community Center in Borough Park, Brooklyn. Been making progress so far per my goal to secure more permanent housing, but with everything there's always challenges beyond my control. Two veterans living here have been taunting me with the clicking sound you make with your tongue, and I fly into violent rages whenever I hear it. A good friend of mine suffers from misophonia, and I'm convinced I have the same condition although I haven't been officially diagnosed with it yet. Today I retrieved my headphones from my storage unit, and got lost in my music for a while. I've suffered from my sensitivity to choice sounds since I was at least 4 years old. As if I don't suffer enough. 😝

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Added:	6 years, 1 month ago 28 Feb 2018 02:39 CET

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furloverguy84

6 years, 1 month ago

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Go and get yourself a diagnosis to help prove it if it helps?

LupineAssassin

6 years, 1 month ago

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@ furloverguy84

I definitely plan to.

furloverguy84

6 years, 1 month ago

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@ LupineAssassin

Good. That way 'paws crossed' you won't be bullied by small minded asses who know very little about the situation.

Khzhak

6 years, 1 month ago

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I don't know if it'll help, but one thing I know about that kind of behavior. They want a reaction. Don't give it to them, no matter how much that noise annoys you, not acknowledging it annoys them as much. They'll keep poking, and getting nothing. Alternately, express gratitude to them for giving you attention, and ask them what makes you so attractive to their boredom. Approach it scientifically, and don't take offense, take even the most scathing reprisal as constructive criticism. Ever watch someone on youtube because they get frustrated or angry? Millions have, the whole phenomenon of schadenfreude. Taking pleasure in others' pain and misfortune and suffering. They're trying to entertain themselves by getting a rise out of you. Be boring. Be Somebody Else's Problem.

LupineAssassin

6 years, 1 month ago

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@ Khzhak

HUGS!

Khzhak

6 years, 1 month ago

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@ LupineAssassin

So the same guy used to sit next to me in band class in high school, middle school too.  I played third trumpet, he played second.  People thought he was a senior - when he was still in middle school.  During prom, we had a donated car and sledgehammers, and he was one of the only two people to put a hole in the hood.  A hole in metal, with a blunt object.

So in my Geometry class, I sat in the front, because my name put me there, according to my teacher, not my fault.  And I actually got good grades in that class.  I failed Algebra the first time.  I aced Geometry the first time.  Why this long setup?

One day, my partner in harmony in the trumpet section walked up to my desk, and stomped on my foot.  Hard.  I yelled in pain and surprise, as expected.  Mostly from surprise.  He laughed, and went past my seat to his, and class went on without event.  The next day, I wasn't quite as loud.  It was becoming routine. By the fourth day, give or take, I was looking over my work, felt the stomp, and just looked at him, "What?"  Nothing.  "You got my attention, what do you want? I'm looking over my homework."  He walked away, and I went back to it.  Next day, same thing.  "Yeah?"  He angrily walked to his seat, sat down.  He never stomped my foot again.  And that was in my Junior year, we were in school together a whole other year.  He didn't tell me the reaction I wanted, and I got bored easily.

I know, wall of text.  But that's how I learned to deal with bullies.  Don't give them what they want. Also in my junior year, this guy kept asking for fifty cents for a soda, so in the spring, I did the math.  I gave him $40 over the course of the year, so I told him no.  He busted up a bunch of lockers in the men's changing area.  They caught him, he mowed the football field all summer to pay it back, then moved out east.

Jimbear

6 years, 1 month ago

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@ Khzhak

Now the way I learned to deal with bullies in school was to ignore, but also to block and throw a punch if need be. For instance, if that moron would’ve stomped on my foot, I would’ve nailed him right in the nutsack with a swift uppercut punch or a hard kick (depending if I was sitting or standing). Kinda hard to ignore physical abuse like that.

Of course, this was school, not grown-up life. It’s a shame that you can’t defend yourself by throwing a good punch at someone who’s attacking you via triggering your special needs on purpose.

Jimbear

6 years, 1 month ago

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Edited 6 years, 1 month ago by Owner

If I was you Allan, if they have ptsd, I’d find a way to trigger said ptsd. Same for same really, and see how they like their anxiety to be spiked. If they physically attack you as retaliation, you have the right to defend yourself. Or you can roll with the punches and take it, then report it and conveniently have said ableists removed for “fear of something setting them off”.

kamimatsu

6 years ago

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@ Jimbear

sounds like what my old schools did to me preemptively unprovoked. it worked. ironically the only person i'd ever hurt is me, and only because a part of me was convinced it's a form of atonement for what people *think* i *might* do.

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