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Fond Farewell.

It's not me that's saying goodbye to the internet or anything, rather my grandmother in Yorkshire just passed away. She was diagnosed with pleural mesothelioma just before Christmas, a form of lung cancer related to asbestos exposure. I spent most of my birthday on the 28th at her house, since the whole family had been asked to come, knowing she had little time left. I knew what to expect, a withering human form struggling to breathe, confused about her surroundings and hanging on by a thread. I should have been intensely sad, but I tend to look at things logically these days and avoid losing my head, so my family have someone around them who isn't openly grieving like they are. I actually tend to joke around instead, look for a funny side, but not in front of people whom it would upset (I do have tact irl, believe it or not XP).

I've never been a religious person since I reached the age of reason, so I don't comfort myself with a belief that she is now in a better place, in a heaven (or hell for that matter, which nobody goes to if mourners the world over are to be trusted). I do know, however, that she no longer suffers, that she had a long life and a reasonably happy, 54 year marriage to her husband. I'll miss hearing her laugh, which sounded like Popeye. Yes, Popeye, I shit you not, it was fuckin funny.

Well, I guess I'll be getting back to doing commissions soon and preparing to help my immediate family take care of the inevitable aftermath of a death in the family. It's not entirely appropriate for me to put this here but I wanted to write something somewhere, so forgive me I guess.

Oh and a big thank you to everyone who wished me a happy bday too, I appreciate it XP.
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Added: 6 years, 12 months ago
6 years, 12 months ago
HUG! Sorry for your loss.
6 years, 12 months ago
Sorry that she passed, hugs
6 years, 12 months ago
Hearing about death makes me sad no matter what. I'm sorry that she died. I hope you feel better now.
6 years, 12 months ago
Sorry for your loss, Roarey.
6 years, 12 months ago
one thing to think about, She lived to see your birthday *huggles* Im always able to listen to you. you know were to find me
6 years, 12 months ago
Sorry to hear about that, it's never easy to lose family.
Fuck cancer.
6 years, 12 months ago
I'm so sorry to hear that Roarey. My blessings are with you and your family. I know how it feels, my grams died of Breast Cancer. :/

Happy Furlated B-day also
6 years, 12 months ago
I'm so sorry for your lost *HUGS YOU*

Just remember to look forward and don't forget the good times you and your family got with your grandmother. Memories it's what link our soul to the one we love.
6 years, 12 months ago
I agree with your outlook on things; a while back, I went through a vaguely similar scenario concerning my father's death and figured the same thing - no more suffering, no more painkiller addiction. While I am sorry for your loss, I am also happy that her suffering is also over. As for how appropriate it is to post things like this online... It's not too different from posting such information on a social website such as Facebook, so there's nothing to apologize for. Just my two cents, you know?
6 years, 12 months ago
Sorry for you and your family's loss of a loved one.
6 years, 12 months ago
oh gosh.. sorry for your loss ;A; *hugs!*
6 years, 12 months ago
My condolences.
6 years, 12 months ago
Sorry to hear about your grandmother, Roarey. I'm glad you have some good memories of her.
6 years, 12 months ago
Erf...  My condolences, Roarey...  I've had to go through similar things recently myself.  :-[
6 years, 12 months ago
I'm sad to hear that.  But it sounds like she had a long and mostly happy life.  Can't ask for much more.  It's awful she had to suffer at the end, but that's over now.
6 years, 12 months ago
Grandpa died of lung cancer 'cause he smoked like a Diesel on a cold morning.
Granma died of some kind of chronic min-stroke affliction.
6 years, 12 months ago
My condolences,having lost a family member to a
wasting away several years back. Good luck to you
and your family.
6 years, 12 months ago
My sincerest condolences.  My grandmother also passed away after a battle with lung cancer when I was 5.  Be well.
6 years, 12 months ago
*hugs* sorry to hear about that, my grand mother passed away from lukemia when i was 9, i still have her ashes with me too
6 years, 12 months ago
You don't have to apologise for something like this.  You do have my condolences and I'm glad she is no longer suffering.
6 years, 12 months ago
Im sorry this happened.
6 years, 12 months ago
Aww hun, so sorry! *hugs*
6 years, 12 months ago
I'm sorry for your loss roarey
6 years, 12 months ago
Mm... I know what that's like...

Sorry for your loss sir.
6 years, 12 months ago
Dad and I send condolences in this difficult time  
6 years, 12 months ago
Sorry to hear that. At least she had a good life with a person she loved, that had to of made things a lot better.
6 years, 12 months ago
take your time *hugs tight*
6 years, 12 months ago
I'm so sorry
6 years, 12 months ago
Sorry for your loss. Don't worry, You're not alone here. My grandmother passed away of lung cancer on August/23/2011. I miss her sooo much. *Hugs*. :)!
6 years, 12 months ago
Is it poor form to wish someone a happy birthday while simultaneously offering condolences? A similar situation occurred in my family this past November, when my oldest relative died on the birthday shared by my mother and brother. Awkward, to say the least. Probably best to just go with it. Happy birthday and sorry for your troubles.
6 years, 11 months ago
My condolences. And happy belated birthday. =)
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