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Threeinone

Names...

I'd imagine, that in this community everyone has lived under a different name at one point or another, weather in public or just as a screen name in a messaging program. I know I have, i mean my name isn't REALLY Tio but that's what everyone calls me online.

But I was just thinking back on the time i lost my name, and I realize how important names or, weather chosen for yourself or given at birth, and how a sudden name change forced on you by other people could effect your individuality.

I remember being 18 and moving in with friends for the first time, all the way on the other side of the countery. It was a stupid experiment that failed miserably, but it taught me one important lesson.. introduce yourself to people under a name you actually like. I happened to RP on SecondLife under the name Terin at the time, and that's the name MOST of my friends got to know me as. Thing is I only used it IN SecondLife, no where else. I was always Tio elsewhere.

I never corrected my roomates, i mean it's the name they got to know me as, why should i force them to call me anything different? Big mistake... I don't know why but that name started to grate on me, badly, it felt like i was losing my identity. It was a really odd feeling. I ended up exploding on them one day when they called me Terin, it was a bad time for me.

So I guess with me moving into my own place once again this experience has kinda been on my mind. Would i have the same feeling if my friends only called me Tio? I like Tio I've been going by it since I was 17 and joined the babyfur/cub community as a whole so i wouldn't think it would be an issue, but i dunno.

Have you guys had issues with your identity like that? I'd love to hear any stories about it, see what people think.
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Added: 7 years, 7 months ago
 
GreenReaper
7 years, 7 months ago
Maybe you should have introduced yourself like this: "You expected Terin from SL; but it's me, Tio!" >_>

Names are tricky. Ultimately I think they're something people have associated with you, constructed to represent a persona you have crafted to represent yourself in a venue, and as such I agree it may be a little churlish to tell people they have to refer to that persona with a new name.

But that doesn't mean you have to be that persona in real life - and that side of you can have a different name. In fact, I have different names when interacting in RL with for furry, family, and non-furry friends, and I probably come across differently to those groups as well.
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