Geez, another "typical gay rights" journal from me. What the hell?
As I always stress to people, I don't technically consider myself gay. I've got nothing against women. If you don't know what the Kinsey Scale is, feel free to look it up on Wikipedia.
But what I want to talk about is just one form of an issue with how western society approaches sexuality that really needs to be addressed.
"You're gay? ... Um, d-does that mean you're attracted to me? Because the sheer possibility makes me uncomfortable!"
Naturally, this has been discussed elsewhere. It's very powerful and pervasive: I can state with absolute honesty that when I was growing up, my friends were more comfortable with every bloody other thing I was sexually attracted to aside from the possibility that I might like guys.
Everything else they were fine with. If I said my favorite porno was "Two Girls, One Cup"* I probably would've gotten nothing like the reaction if I admitted there was a possibility there was a boy in my class or amongst my friends that I wanted to see for a protracted "group shower." Hell, the entire environment, fearing ostracism and exclusion from your friends due to your inborn sexual interests, leads to a rather extreme form of self-repression.
Scary to think how many people deny their interests until the day they die. Whatever they are.
It's incredible to hear tales of preteens and high-schoolers coming out to their peers without suffering abuse for it. Things have changed so much and I hate to admit that my generation is part of the Old Homophobic Guard. I can say with pride though that most of my friends have now done away with their old attitudes.
Now, the answer to the question asked above is very simple:
"It's very unlikely that a gay guy will even look at you unless he believes for some reason you might be interested. If he does, that does not mean it will color his attitude towards you, that he will have less respect for you, or that it will be a significant factor at all in how you interact. It definitely doesn't mean he's going to try to rape or seduce you. You aren't gay, he is, he is going to respect that if you do the same. Do you think women walk around in perpetual fear or perturbation that every man they see wants to have sex with them?"
These truths are almost self-evident, but the problem is, that isn't the issue.
The issue is they're terrified of the notion that someone could potentially want to have homosexual sex with them. Not scared that it will happen, scared of the notion.
So they're perpetually terrified whenever a gay person of their own gender admits they're gay. "Gasp! Does that mean they want to fuck me? Ewww!! Icky butt-sex! " Dude, maybe. Not that all gay men are interested in anal, but so fucking what? It's a compliment. Unlikely, since they know you don't like dick. It really shouldn't concern you, just the same way that women are aware that many of the men that walk past them might, possibly, perhaps be checking out their ass and imagining plowing them like a springtime wheat-field.
Funny how the ones who are pathologically afraid of and "disgusted" by sex are the ones that can't seem to shake it out of their minds.
Also: "Lawl I'm a bigot and I have a fact for you! Did you know that FAGS go through hundreds of partners before they die?!"
Not only is that a blatant lie and an appeal to the entrenched social fear of sexuality, whaddaya expect 'fags' to do? Get fucking married?
* - Trust me, it isn't. *retch!*
7 years ago
12 Dec 2011 10:26 CET