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Emira

You're kidding right...

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Ran across this "lovely" little blog and it just made me go "WTF!?"

I think the truly sad and fucked up thing about this is there are some women out there that are like this.  In my opinion, they're pretty pathetic people too.  I'm not saying women, hell, I'm not saying everyone shouldn't proceed with caution when meeting new people but to already be worrying if the person is going to rape you!?  That's pretty fucked up.  

The signals aren't exactly accurate either.   I mean...really?

<i>You want to say Hi to the cute girl on the subway. How will she react? Fortunately, I can tell you with some certainty, because she’s already sending messages to you. Looking out the window, reading a book, working on a computer, arms folded across chest, body away from you = do not disturb</i>

None of those always mean "do not disturb".  Most people are busy with their own thoughts and lives and aren't really paying attention to anyone/anything else.  You do need to (politely of  course) break through that little bubble and get their attention.  Now, I'll tell you some signals that DO mean "leave me alone".
Glaring, furrowed brows, looking away after having eye contact, turning away.  Those certainly mean that the person does not want to be bothered, or at least not by you.  I very often sit and read, or stare out windows when I am out.  I'm off in my own thoughts, but that doesn't mean I don't want someone coming up and starting a conversation.  (Now yes I am married, happily so and NO I am not looking for dates or anything, but this still pertains to even meeting new friends.)

I don't believe for one minute that the rape stats in that blog are even close to the truth and this does nothing more than make already paranoid, ignorant, and frightened women even more likely to mace a man on sight just for being male.  I really despise people that spread this kind of paranoia and prey on already scared individuals.  

I'm not saying rape doesn't happen, it does and it's a horrible thing, but if you're seriously going through life looking at every man you see and wondering if they're going to rape you then you have some major issues you probably need to be discussing with a therapist.   Not all men are wife beating rapists and not all women are gold digging whores.


If you truly want to protect yourself, just be smart.  If you're busy being worried and paranoid you won't be able to really enjoy anything.
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Added: 12 years, 4 months ago
 
LupineAssassin
12 years, 4 months ago
A most disturbing journal, to say the least. O_O

*HUG* I hope you and @Kengi have a Happy Thanksgiving.
Emira
12 years, 4 months ago
No kidding.

We had a great one actually.  All the food turned out perfect and no major fights.  Now I'm dreading Xmas though.
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