no one reads these anyway, so...
sadly decided not to join in on one of the livestreams I have been attending for the last 2-3 months. The people seemed to be a close knit group of friends, many of whom had met each other irl and so on.
Seemed fun at first. They played movies, had fun banter.
But as I stayed it got increasing snarky. They would often make fun of other artists on inkbunny and other places. I do not agree with that at all. There are varying skill levels and one should encourage artists who are trying, rather than disparage what they do...so I ignored that for awhile.
Then they let me into their skype channel...even then some of this small group immediately questioned that decision and I ignored that. They then questioned my age due to the timber of my voice, which admittedly I do sound 16, but still. (My voice never cracked). In any case, I was removed from their voice chat within a day (presumably because I do my own livestream nightly and its annoying to have the BEEP BEEP BEEP sound when people dont immediately join)...but never verified if that was the reason.
But tonight was really the last straw. They showed a silly movie again, which was fun...then one of them went on a rant about abstinence only sex education. While I am not to that extreme, I think the facts weigh me out that abstinence would be the best course for teenagers. And I mentioned why.....20% of americans have HPV and 20% have Herpes, neither of which condoms can prevent since both are spread by skin to skin contact (the old research said these were both life long conditions also, altho newer research says HPV only lasts 2 years, but that may be questionable for various reasons). Also the largest spread of those two diseases are in the under 25 crowd.
If I were running sex ed, thats what I would tell them....maybe show them a few slides of herpes and genital warts to boot and say you have sex, you have a 20% chance to catch it. Statistically, thats a 44% chance and them being young really has no meaning anymore in them NOT having one of those diseases, since younger people are the biggest spreaders.
Unfortunately sex ed is entirely based on HIV and condoms and pregnancy. Which fine sure teach. But dont friggin ignore the above....geez ive known people who caught both within the last year. (dont hear much about herpes tho...or hepititis either...geez our sex ed was so lame as to what we were taught, just wear condoms right?) hepititis u can catch by kissing!
so anyways....then they claim sex is a natural drive and you cant avoid it. Must be news to the millions of monks. My personal view is that all sex is a learned addictive behavior, like drinking or cigarettes or coffee or anything else pleasurable. You can say no easily, but its a lot easier to say no if you never tried it. Rather unscientific, but ask anyone who hasnt had cigarettes, alcohol, sex, drugs, vs those who have been doing it a year....can you say no easily or no do it ? yeah....think that would prove it.
so in a knee jerk reaction as I'm used to in that channel...they accused me of holding that the CDC figures and facts about HPV and Herpes and condom usage are um wrong? that I was a christian and/or stupid for holding that abstinence is not the best route for people who do not want to catch lifelong diseases (while HPV may be considered no longer life long, it can alter DNA to cause cancer in females and possibly males at a later date). Then they question whether I've even had sex before. Like wow. Had about seven boyfriends, 3 over 6 months. Done a few girls too. So been around the block. But the idea that because I hold ideas contrary to theirs about sex, I somehow must not have engaged in it....just insulting.
And really....seen far too many people in their early 20s online catching HIV, including people I know in person. It's just sad. One wonders if abstinence would not be better in the long run for everyone till they find someone to settle down with.
But I watch politics on the news all the time (its amusing to watch FOX and MSNBC to talk about the same things) and same thing, people who hold views different from you are evil and wrong. For this, I guess if you dont think its possible to say no to sex, then your christian and ignorant. Geez, how many times have I turned down sex from older and unattractive people online in the last month alone...guess my sex drive is mitigated by SOMETHING. (and yes its been about 7 months since I moved to a small town and woah, its scary here, lol)
Really....I have views...most based on science or fact. Some of these go against the general conservative or liberal points of view, depending on what they are. But I never disparage or claim someone as ignorant for holding views other than my own. I do not know why others do so. It mystifies me. My quest is for knowledge not to show I am right or to prove a preconceived cause. I generally preach tolerance for other views. Especially in art. I dont agree or even like a lot of the fetishes Ive seen. Dont understand most to be honest, but I do not condemn anyone for having them. I do not allow people in my livestream to condemn others either. Its happened a few times where I had to tell people to back off for varying views, be they homosexuality or cub (the 2 most recent). Live and let live, if you dont like it, dont look.
But I think this drive to condemn others, to criticize others if only to show our own superiority....really? it sickens me. always has, always will.
6 years, 11 months ago
03 Nov 2011 11:04 CET