:D Let's stick another stick in the anthill
One of the reasons why I sometimes call myself both pansexual and asexual
I think sexuality (I mean physical, sexual pleasure) is overrated.
It is fun and all, but compared to intimacy and commitment, I don't think it matters much. (yeah, even though I draw porn)
While I would happily engage in sexual activities with willing people disregarding looks, gender-gap, or sexual organs, I do not see sexuality as crucial for a deep relationship.
I wouldn't mind being in relationship with someone completely asexual.
To me what matters most in a relationship is a deep bond, intimacy and commitment, an understanding of thoughts, similar interests, compatible philosophies, synergy
I may be an idealist, that's fine with me.
I find it sad that so many people can only look at relationships through sexuality, and often lack much understanding of the other two elements.
what I mean by intimacy is "close or warm friendship or understanding; personal relationship"
I believe you can have a deep meaningful intimate relationship, even sleep naked in bed with someone, and at the same time it doesn't have to include any sexual activity.
Sex in the end is mostly just physical pleasure, the love component can be easily archived by just hugging and cuddling each other.
Essentially you can naked-snuggle while not being aroused, and it will be a deep intimate event without sex or arousal
Hence I don't think sex or any sex-related activity is needed.
7 years, 11 months ago
21 Jul 2011 22:29 CEST