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PeachClover

I Need Some Help Here

Before I found Furry, my best friend and I seemed made for each other because everything that one of us cared about the other either cared the same, or had extensive experience in it.  The only exception to this that I can recall was The Legend of Zelda.  I hadn't played it, but I was delighted to watch him play because the world was interesting.  A few years ago, a local wanted me to play Mother 3.  I could not find the inclination to do so, but being a friend, I offered to come over and watch him play since he wanted me to see it so badly.  He took this offer and within a few visits the game was played.  

The nature of friendship is a lot like this.  In our youngest years as toddlers, we show off to our friends things that are of interest to us, later we seek out friends who share our interests, then as adults we go out of our way to build shared interest with others.  I think of this as a gentle give and take.


... Tonight though, I am a little bit upset thinking how few times I can remember others doing the same for me.  Am I dead wrong?  Are the shared interests of adults no more than the selfish interests of toddlers hidden under a thin veil of feigned friendship?  If I asked anyone I knew to do work for me or help me work, I fully expect the answer to be a no, but to ask them to partake in recreational enjoyment of movie, book, or game to be beheld as if I had asked something even more outrageous than hard labor, for this I am not prepared...  So please discuss: am I right? Am I wrong? Am I missing something?
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Added: 4 years, 10 months ago
 
MystBunny
4 years, 10 months ago
Not sure I understand. Can you give an example?
PeachClover
4 years, 10 months ago
An example... Most of the "friends" I have are not reciprocating the give and take of friendship.  What give an take?  The give and take of investing time into a interest of a friend in hopes that said interest can become a shared interest.  The question is: is this concept of the give and take of friendship in error.  If it is, what is friendship about, and if it isn't, what am I doing wrong?  Or do I merely have dead beat friends.
MystBunny
4 years, 10 months ago
I think I see what you mean. Yeah friendship is a give and take. I'm certainly not sure about this, but I'm thinking that when you're young, it's easier to find interest in new things, where as when you're an adult, you have a better idea what you will and won't be interested in. Maybe that's why people tend to turn down things more, or maybe it's not that they know they won't be interested, but that they've found many things that they're much more interested in that they do all the time, not leaving much room for exploration. Might tie into why children use their imaginations more than adults.
hammse
4 years, 10 months ago
sounds like youre in AND out to me.
I slowly figured that out for me over the years and it cost so much nerve and was so. much. work. xD
but pretty exciting.
what I dont know yet is if Im missing the point with being excited.
PeachClover
4 years, 10 months ago
Your reply makes no sense.
hammse
4 years, 10 months ago
mh. it made a little sense. didnt wanna go deeper because Im way too brash to discuss with a stranger not seeing my body language or me seeing theirs. maybe the wording gives somebody caring a good idea if you showed em? if theres somebody you trust that way of translation worked wonders before.
Rakaziel
4 years, 6 months ago
It probably boils down to what activities each individual deems worth of their time, especially when it comes to their free time (work is considered worth one's time because one gets paid for it, more or less). Even more so as there is active and passive companionship - you can enjoy a friend's company simply by being in the same room, even if both of you are doing different things, so long as both you have room enough to talk. Considering an activity worth of one's time and considering a person worth of one's time are two different things and must be decided separately.
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